Why does everyone say they love being fat until they get their hands on skinny jabs?

[Holmints]

I’m seeing this so much on social media. People screaming from the rooftops how they love their bodies. Hate comments come and they combat them with body positivity, I admired them so much.

Lately though, the very people who were oh-so-body-positive are popping back up five stone lighter. Some comment on it and some don’t, as if they’re waiting for people to ask. Hang on a minute, I thought you loved your big body? Did you love being fat or not?

Self defence mechanism, I should think. And a good thing too.

Otherwise self loathing and depression would set in. What's the point in letting that happen if you have the presence of mind to make peace with your self?

But you know it's a compromise. If then you are offered a way out which was previously unavailable to you, many would take it.

I can't imagine anyone loves being fat really

I never claimed to love my bigger body (I loathed it, in fact) but I can totally see why some people might. You are constantly scorned for being fat so claiming to be ok with it is a way of shutting that down I suppose.

Body positivity was a con. By which I mean of course fat people deserve to be treated with dignity and kindness just like any other person. And deserve to be happy and at peace.

But it went too far. Excessive obesity was justified, glorified and turned into some kind of win.

Self defence mechanism. Coping mechanism. Making the best of a shit situation?

No one loves being fat. No one is fat by choice.

Maybe not the same people and people change their opinions too. As long as they’re happy

What did you admire them for? What’s admirable about it?

I’m about 4 stone overweight. I know I am. I know it’s bad for me, I know I don’t look good in a lot of clothes, I know I’m not healthy and if I don’t sort it out then I’ll have issues and cost the NHS money to fix them. I know all that; if I jumped up saying how amazing it is to be fat then I’d be a liar. Just like every “body positive” person you admire is.

Yes, what's admirable about being fat or thin? I don't really admire people for their bodies, more for what they actually do.

Everyone’? Really?

love being fat? No. Willing to inject myself with stuff that we don’t know the long term side effects for? No.

give it 30 years and the NHS could be dealing with the effects of these jabs. Just like the smoking ads of the 50s…

They're not mutually exclusive. I'm overweight not obese so don't qualify for the jabs. I'd still take them if I was able, because I'd like to be healthier and I do think life's easier if you're skinny (you definitely get judged as an overweight person).

But I still love my body, I love what it can do, I enjoy it, my partner loves it. I don't have any hang ups, I'm happy in a bikini and don't fret about how I look in photos.

So it doesn't have to be one or the other.

Because it’s a way to deal with. Outside of very niche cases I think almost every fat (as in clinically obese) person would rather not be fat. No one would choose to be fat v a healthy weight, but it’s about making the best of it I suppose or trying to exert some control over something you feel you don’t have control of.

Personally I find some of the ‘body positive’ advertising with very obese models (Snag I’m looking at you) just as inappropriate as very thin models, but that is apparently not an acceptable thing to say.

Disclaimer: I was fat. I was not happy being fat. I was not body positive. I am slim now and am happy being slim.

Surely you can love yourself but also be aware that your weight is unhealthy and address that?

Of course people should love their bodies as their body is. What, you want them to sit there despising their body? Wait, don't answer that... We all know society wants fat people to sit there and despise themselves.

Many people found weight loss very difficult, or very slow, or the actions needed to enable weightloss lowered their quality of life (calorie counting, lack of food joy, making time and energy for exercise etc) so sustainable weight loss was extremely hard for them.

Of course they had to make peace with their bodies.

Now they have an injection which makes that weight loss much easier. It didn't mean they didn't make peace with their bodies previously, or learn to love the skin they felt stuck in... It means a new option is on the table.

I remember watching a fat positive influencer back in the day in YouTube. She said straight out "if there was a magic wand to make myself thin, of course I'd wave it, but I can't".

Well, the injections are that magic wand, so now they're waving it.

Don't get me wrong, I have issues with the injections - I have anorexia, have been in treatment and forced to eat more and gain weight, and take great issue with it now being okay to eat extremely little when you paie for an injection to make it possible for you to do so... but it is apparently a mental illness and a medical problem when I do it for free (I'm back at it now though - what they gonna do? I'm not eating any less than injection patients) .

But my issues arnt with the people taking them. I totally get it, really. I wish people could be better than me but I now realise that they're not - only difference between me and all these mounjaro takers is that I can starve myself without the injections. We're all the same, and society is to blame for it.

Marketing is working very hard to make being fat unacceptable.

I hate being fat. No energy, clothes look awful

Started mounjaro end of June. BMI is now under 30.
It's not a magic cure, still need will power.
Sensible eating and exercise.

I'm sick of hearing about these injections - the people who take them never seem to shut up about it. I think that's the bigger issue - attention seeking (usually on SM) from both 'body positive' people and the jab users.

Hating yourself full time is quite a hard ask.

Anyone who is overweight is fully aware of the disdain and judgement that comes freely every day from 'better' people who only ever eat massive salads.

So yes, sometimes you try to like your fat body for the things it can do, despite being fat instead of constantly apologising for your existence and fatness.

I never said I loved being fat.

How would you rather them present themselves on SM platforms?

All this love your body stuff is too cringy Instaspeak for me.

Because all this fat positivity stuff is just online crap.

A prominent diet influencer who was famous for replacing burger buns with peppers etc was recently forced to admit that she actually lost the weight with jabs. She had a huge following too. Just assume that nothing you see online is real and you'll be far better.

A consequence of WLI seems to be even greater disgust, disdain and hate towards fat people.

Everyone?? Millions of people hate being fat.

I always thought that most fat positive people never actually love being fat, they love people thinking they are happy with themselves.

I lost 22 pounds, didn't use injections but my 2 cents is change has to come from a place of positivity. Loathing of your body drives the bad decisions where loving your body leads you to eat right, exercise and make the lasting lifestyle changes.

I agree. No way am I putting that stuff in me.