Why does everyone say they love being fat until they get their hands on skinny jabs?

[Holmints]

I’m seeing this so much on social media. People screaming from the rooftops how they love their bodies. Hate comments come and they combat them with body positivity, I admired them so much.

Lately though, the very people who were oh-so-body-positive are popping back up five stone lighter. Some comment on it and some don’t, as if they’re waiting for people to ask. Hang on a minute, I thought you loved your big body? Did you love being fat or not?

Why do the two have to be mutually exclusive? I was happy with how I looked when I was fat.

However my blood pressure, my asthma and my joints didn't like it at all so I've lost a lot of weight.

I don't actually like how I look now, but my health is considerably better and that's what my kids need more.

I can't imagine anyone loves being fat. I've gained 2 stone in 6 months (no idea why, probably menopause) and I'm aware of it all of the time. And I'm 'only' a size 14.

Cognitive dissonance, it's as simple as that.

What I'm finding interesting atm is the amount of people who find it funny that I managed to lose a lot of weight just before weight loss injections became a common thing.

The disdain people have for fat women losing weight is constant and very telling.

I am large at the moment. I don't hate my body or feel shame (not least because it was medication induced). I do however want to be a healthy weight because that wil be better for my body. I am trying to get their without jabs but if I cant I will feel no shame in using them.

They were just trying to save face by making a smug virtue (hey, I am soooo confident and have amazing self esteem, and love my super curvy body more than anything, go me!) out of what is actually sad necessity (I am chronically obese and am on target to suffer with Type 2 Diabetes and heart disease by the time I'm 50).

And I get it, I really do. When I was 3 stones heavier I reassured myself that I looked rather voluptuous and had an amazing cleavage etc, etc. But I studiously ignored the double chin, the portly stomach and the permanently swollen fingers. I told myself that my stiff ankles and palpitations and sore knees were purely down to my age.

But since using WLI I cannot tell you how much better I look and feel. It's like my body clock has been turned back 15 years.

The way people present themselves about this online is BS. I'm friends with an influencer with a small following who constantly shares things about how dreadful it is to comment that someone has lost weight as if it's a positive thing, and how miserable she was when she was size 14. She's lying - she's told me privately how she feels about being obese.

Good job no one is forcing you to then.
Obesity also comes along with serious health complications, so many people will deem it worth the risk.

If your other habits haven't really changed, please do see a doctor. It could be nothing, it could be something

What annoys me is the new trend of saying someone 'has' obesity. As if it is a disease. (obviously I'm not including people for which it is due to a condition/disability). Lets be honest though, it is all about how much you eat - otherwise weight loss injections wouldn't work.

What was so admirable about it? It was only ever people lying to themselves and others as a defence mechanism.

I was four stone overweight. I had been for about a decade. I knew it was bad for my health, I looked awful in my clothes, I knew it could cause me further health issues down the road. I’m not going to lie to myself and everyone else that I could be healthy at that weight and that I was happy with how I looked.

I have been a size 8 and up to an 18 in my life.

I think it’s more about self acceptance than ‘loving being fat’.

Agree with this.

However the worry with all the body positive stuff is that it normalises obesity which, irrespective of whether one thinks it’s “unsightly” or not, puts unnecessary pressure on organs/joints etc.

Thank you - I have - blood tests showed nothing odd. I think it is just that I've got away with a terrible lifestyle for decades - too much booze, food and literally zero exercise and I can't get away with it anymore.

There's a difference between body positivity and fat acceptance. One was co-opted by the other.

Originally, the movement was about accepting and loving your body, even if you had stretch marks or a bit of cellulite on your thighs or some post-pregnancy loose skin on your belly.

Don’t a lot of people have a false persona on SM? You know, photos of them together as a family walking through the woods happily laughing together….. in reality when you speak to them, they’re marriage is in crisis and the children are driving them mad.

Do you believe everything you read on SM?

It was working real hard a few years ago to make it almost desirable though wasn’t it?
It’s amazing the amount of body positive people now dropping weight and pretending it’s down to ‘taking the stairs’. Fucking Billy bullshits in so many ways.

Because you can love numerous things?

Maybe they did love their body but realise being slimmer is healthier?
Maybe they were quite happy with their body but were fed up of negative comments from others?
Maybe they feel obliged to lose weight?
Maybe they are just jumping on the bandwagon?

I like being short but if there was a magically way that I could suddenly become taller then you betcha I'd take it. The world is built for people who are taller than me. There are more advantages being a little bit taller than I am. My life would be easier if I was a bit taller. It doesnt mean Im not happy being short.

Maybe it's the same with weight?

I actually think Mindy Kaling looked better before..But possibly she is healthier now.

Fat people can’t do anything right, can they? If they claim to be happy with their body they’re deluded, normalising obesity, ignoring health risks etc etc.
Lose weight though… ‘but I thought you were happy being fat, you’re a bullshitter, you’re letting people down’ etc etc.
What do you want fat people to do?

Sorry, you keep saying this every time there’s a thread like this. Most WLI users aren’t starving themselves. They are eating to lose weight. Which means reducing calories. Not starving.

If someone is on WLI and they’re eating starvation rations, they are on too high a dose or the medication isn’t suitable for them.

Honestly, these threads clearly aren’t healthy for you to read.

My body is more than just its weight, it grew my children, carries me through life, allows me to exercise and experience life. I can appreciate my body and my ability to be attractive and still want to be thinner?

Most people, fat, thin or otherwise, should get off social media. It turns the most sensible people into attention seeking narcissists.
I don't count MN because it's anonymous.

You see, I really cannot fathom this? You deliberately denigrate WLI by describing them as 'stuff', implying they're dodgy, murky and potentially dangerous? When in fact the active ingredient in WLI is one of the most thoroughly researched and tested drugs on the planet, used by millions of people over the last 20 years.

And yet, and yet you happily choose to put excess amounts of highly processed foods in your body which have been proved to cause Type 2 Diabetes, obesity, heart disease, increased risk of strokes, kidney disease, high blood pressure........the list goes on and on.

Madness.

As someone who put on a huge amount of weight when on steroids, I am so grateful to the influencers who gave me ideas on where to shop and what to wear. I don't see why I had to be ashamed of my body when it was literally that way because I was fighting a serious illness. I was grateful for the same reason to influencers who shared wig tips and confidence in hairloss when i switched medication.

Being yelled at in the street, or sneered at in the spa, just because you are on life saving medication, is not for the faint hearted. I was grateful for the influencers who made me feel less alone and made me feel I was still allowed to do things I enjoyed and take care of my appearance

Weirdly when I was anorexic many years previously I was complemented all the time. Our society is pretty fucked up.