Is it acceptable for husband to wear white M&S vest in public???

[Bejam2014]

I feel very embarrassed when he wears a white vest that is clearly an underwear vest walking the dog and going to the local Tesco express. I really don’t like it and ask him to change or put a top over it. None of the family will be seen out with him like this.

Does the vest have short sleeves?

You can get two kinds of vests- short sleeves and no sleeves.

Depends whether he looks like Marlon Brando or your grandad. One is fine the other not so much. But seriously it shouldn't matter.

I, inadvertently went out in my pj's bottoms today to the local convenience store

How can anyone go out shopping in their PJs 'inadvertently'?

Of course it is. I wear my white M&S vest (not underwear, but looks like it!) all the time

It's as bit Rab C Nesbitt. Or Stan Ogden.

Honestly I don't think I'd want to see it but thats a me problem and not a problem with your DH.

I wouldn't like that either, OP. I like clean-cut, well-groomed, and nicely dressed men. A white vest doesn't do it.

@BadLad 🤣🤣🤣

My husband pitched in saying that context is very important. Is your DH buffed/fit/well muscled? If he’s not then no, put a real shirt on when leaving the back garden. We are a mixed Australian/Brit couple so have a bit of skin in the game.

AnnaQuayInTheU

So it's fine for women to go out in strappy camisoles but not for men to go out in sleeveless t shirts (aka vests)?

I think they suit more women then men, body shape wise most women can pull them off strangely, or maybe it’s the fit of a man’s one? Also women wear jewellery a lot which dresses it up

No, it wouldn't be acceptable even if was from Selfridge or Harrods, never mind M&S!

No, never, ever, under any circumstances , at any time; no vest top is ever suitable for a man to wear unless under a shirt. Even if he is ripped, hairless and looks like a Greek god. It's a crime against fashion.

Ps I am male and prefer men to keep their tops on

It depends on if he can carry of the look.

Somebody like David Beckham would get away with it. It would go nice with his tattoos.

Is that you Victoria ?

Given that very few people, male or female, between the ages of 5 and 75 actually wear vests as underwear, i.e. under some other more covering garment, and given that vests in all styles are universal feminine outerwear at this time of the year, why should a white men's vest, from either Primark or M&S, be identified as underwear by definition, and therefore regarded with such disgust.

Almost the only difference between the aforesaid M&S vest and the feminine garment seen en masse on the High Street is the width of the shoulder straps. It's about time manufacturers produced proper strappy vests for men, and for more men to have the balls to appear in public in clothes more suited to the climate.

Damn, how did you know my husband started wearing vests at age 75 ? 😂

Yes.

Hyacinth? Is that you?

Much better than being bare chested! Might not be to everyones taste - but as i said... mich better than wandering around topless!!!

If it has short sleeves then it's not a vest. Isn't a vest always sleeveless? I'm old enough to remember when a man's sleeveless undergarment was called "a singlet".

As in, "I'm knitting a singlet for Cecil" song:

https://www.elegantsufficiency.org/blog/2016/7/28/falling-down-the-rabbit-hole.html

If my DH did I’d be mortified, while secretly wanting to rub his chest.

Also I also think Brando was beautiful and although what one looks like does not change one’s rights to wear certain clothes, it is always nice to see scantily clad beauties in the supermarket doing their shopping.

No. It's the same as wearing pj's to the shops. It's an undergarment.

My Dad used to wear a vest but only when he was relaxing at home.

Am I still allowed to wear my white vests with my jeans? Or is it just men that shouldn’t wear them?

I don’t really like to wear vests as my only item of clothing on the top half if I’m out of the house but plenty of people do.
I don’t see what’s wrong with a man wearing a vest if I’m trying to be objective!
What is so awful about a man’s arms?!

But what about a man telling his wife what is and isn't acceptable for her to wear in public?
What, like in Afghanistan?
Because that really, actually happens, in real life, and women in Iran get stoned to death for uncovering their hair. Whereas this thread is just women having an opinion on style.
THATS why “ double standards” exist!
Anyway, YANBU OP.

It's fine.
He is not trying for highly polished and elegant look, he just has a home-style clothes on.