To think it's fine for men to drink whilst their partner is pregnant?

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I honestly don't know if iabu... happy to take opinions! Friend invited a group of us for dinner- all women invited are pregnant and at various stages of pregnancy. When we arrived DH took some beers along for the men and he was told he couldn't drink them because in friends opinion, if she can't drink whilst pregnant he shouldn't either. In inwardly thought this was nuts- I would never tell DH ( within reason - nobody is approaching their due date or anything and her older dd was home who drives if there was an emergency ) he couldn't drink whilst I can't! Haven't discussed this with the other guests since as I don't want to make a big deal of it but I have been thinking about it! Very unsure of what the consensus would be but aibu?

Yabu men shouldn't drink whilst their wives are pregnant if the wives can't- in it together and all that

Yanbu they're not growing a baby so drinking alcohol shouldn't be banned for them

Of course the men should be able to enjoy a drink!

I'm pregnant and I think DH needs more drink than ever to deal with my hormones 😬

You’re definitely not being unreasonable. That sounds like nonsense and v unreasonable of your friends

I don’t think they should get uncontrollably drunk around a pregnant woman just in respect of safety (bumping or knocking etc) but a few beers is totally fine to me

Absolutely ridiculous, selfish, immature and controlling.

Very controlling of your friends. Who are they to tell your dh whether or not he should drink whilst you're pregnant. These types on controlling people are so tiresome.

HAHA

So weird. I’ve jokingly told DH he can’t have Provence Rosé as that is my favourite, but of course he can have the odd drink.

I often sniff his red wine in jealously 😂

So should men also not eat shellfish or unpasteurised cheese?
Christ alive some people are mental.

Hadn't even thought of that! We weren't the only pregnant couple to bring drink that was not allowed to be open hahaha

That’s ridiculous, is he also not allowed sushi or soft cheeses?

It doesn’t bode well for their future if she is already controlling what he can and can’t do.
My DH had surgery this week, can’t drive, walk the dog, have a drink etc for a few weeks…. Did it stop me going out to a gig at the weekend and have a few beers just because he can’t? Absolutely not… and he would be mortified if I sat by his side for the whole time not doing anything just because he can’t

Next time host at your house so you can open whatever you like. If it wasn’t at someone else’s home I would have said sod it and opened it anyway to be honest

hasn’t he landed a goodun 🙄
tell him to throw her back 😆

I’m at the end of my third pregnancy, I think that’s a crazy attitude to have.
A drink or two in the evening is fine.
I wouldn’t appreciate it if DH went on a night out, and came rolling in at 5am drunk off his face, barely being able to walk/being sick etc and then complaining the next day of a hangover from hell; but a couple of drinks now and then is fine by me.

The thing is, her dh was fully on board with the idea and he's not usually the sort to get told what to do so that's why I thought maybe it is normal and I'm the weird one! Out of our friends I wouldn't have them down as a couple where the Mrs wears the trousers so to speak. I'm just very mystified😂

Not getting totally bladdered - probably. Not going out and ending up over the drink drive limit when you're in the "when's baby coming?" phase. - fair enough. Not drinking a drop for the whole pregnancy - no, massively OTT.

I think it’s OK, but a bit of sensitivity wouldn’t go amiss. Turning up with a load of beers to a do for a load of pregnant women wasn’t kind, IMO.

What works for some doesn’t work for others.
As long as he is OK with it then let them be.

I cut out the booze from about the 6 month mark, though my wife would likely have put the rule in place not long after.
Heck I did my best friends stag do stone cold sober.

Missing a few beers isn’t the end of the world, I know I’ve sunk enough since then to make up for lost time!

It’s a bit odd imo. Wise not to have a drink as the due date approaches ( dh had to take me to hospital in the middle of the night) but before that I see no reason for partners to abstain.

The male host is probably one of those who says ‘WE are pregnant’. Cringe.

If as hosts they wanted an alcohol free evening, they should have made that clear in the invitation. Male host was ridiculous. Those who wanted alcohol could have said something but host made that awkward.

It’s different when prospective fathers get pissed and behave like idiots, with little thought or care for their pregnant partners.

Hmm makes me wonder if they were both just saying this is their rule to prevent other guests getting laddered maybe? I honestly can't see that friend would usually be funny about him having a couple of beers of an evening just the two of them, especially now I've read enough responses to know it's not a thing I've just missed a memo for!

Lmfao yes he does say that

It's personal. Anyone can drink or not drink for whatever reasons. They're not stopping you from doing so. Just offer the non drinkers a soft drink.

It's no big deal. Surely in many groups people sometimes don't drink.

It doesn't really matter whether their partner is pregnant or not. In fact some pregnant women do drink lightly on social occasions and that's ok too.

But why?