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Do you believe there will be a civil war?

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exhaustedandwholly · 04/08/2025 17:47

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately and I wonder if others feel the same. With everything going on, from the arrival of illegal migrants in small boats to a government that seems powerless, and with Farage gaining popularity because people are fed up, it feels like tension is rising across the country.

People are frustrated. You try to raise concerns and are instantly labelled a racist or bigot, even when your worries are about integration, safety, and national identity, not race. It feels like any honest conversation is being shut down.

There are parts of the UK where people who were born and raised here no longer feel at home. In some areas, if you are not part of the dominant local community, you can feel completely out of place or even unsafe walking alone at night. That is not right in your own country.

It is not just about people coming from Muslim-majority countries or those arriving illegally. There are also large numbers of Eastern Europeans, including Bulgarians, Romanians, and Russians. Many work hard and contribute, but there are also communities forming where people keep to themselves, speak no English, and make no effort to integrate. Some of these areas are experiencing rising antisocial behaviour, crime, and a breakdown of community life.

You can find videos online showing the state of some of these areas, with rubbish piling up, people ignoring the rules, and no sign of enforcement. It looks lawless, and it often is. But speaking about it honestly is considered of limits.

I live next to a Muslim family and they are wonderful people. Friendly, respectful, hardworking. So this is not about judging individuals. This is about a wider pattern where people are arriving, not integrating, and changing the fabric of our country in ways no one voted for.

We are a Christian country with our own traditions, values, and way of life. Why is it seen as wrong to want to preserve that? If we moved to Saudi Arabia, Bulgaria, or Russia, we would be expected to adapt to their culture. So why is it unacceptable to ask the same here?

The anger and division in this country are growing. I do not want unrest or conflict, but I cannot ignore what feels like a serious shift. When ordinary people feel ignored for too long, things eventually boil over.

Is anyone else feeling this? Or are we just not allowed to talk about it anymore?

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Beeloux · 04/08/2025 19:05

TeaAndMuffins · 04/08/2025 18:55

The difference is that Brits living in Middle Eastern countries are not importing dangerous ideology that undermines the society they're moving to. When people arrive on small boats, we have no clue what their background is or what their beliefs are about gender equality and so on. Ex pats emigrating legally, from a free and democratic society, are not high risk in the same way.

Exactly, many of these men are coming from countries where the age of consent can be as low as 9.

There was a case recently in my town of a man in a migrant hotel who was hanging around the local high school and trying to grope young teenagers. Other ones of them taking pictures of young girls and kids in the park.

They know if they committed these sort of crimes in their own country, they would likely be tortured in jail.

Pricelessadvice · 04/08/2025 19:06

I agree OP. The county cannot cope with the people in it as it is- people can’t get an NHS dentist, the waiting lists for NHS services are longer than ever, A+E is permanently rammed, people struggle to get GP appointments… yet apparently it’s a great idea to bring more people into this!

JHound · 04/08/2025 19:06

MyHeartyCoralSnail · 04/08/2025 19:02

I suspect f it’s not such a major issue. Because any attempt at changing the local culture in say the UAE is likely to get shot down in flames (and potentially get that person thrown in jail). Language is just part of the issue here (although I agree that people who emigrate should learn the local language and make a very conscious effort to integrate into the local culture. I despise the idea of ex pat communities.

Interestingly those who harp on and on about the horrors of colonialism and imposing British culture on other countries seem to also be the ones, welcoming in migrants to do the same here, hypocrisy

Nobody is colonising the UK.

I am sorry but they are not. They are not forming new made up countries, forbidding locals speaking the local language, encouraging warfare, establishing communities where it is illegal to enter unless of the colonising group, using violence to supress local dissent while claiming these new countries as part of their home country’s empire and decimating entire ethnic groups.

Just.

Stop.

Comparing migration to colonisation is the hight of ignorance of what the latter entailed.

Abasin · 04/08/2025 19:06

Mewling · 04/08/2025 19:02

This. It’s very common knowledge that foreign actors use social media to destabilise countries from within. Hence posts about immigration or foreigners, abortion, etc.

God knows why though. We've got plenty of home grown thick as mince shit stirrers as it is.

MyHeartyCoralSnail · 04/08/2025 19:06

AlwaysBelieveTheEx · 04/08/2025 19:04

Yes we do, but why would we accept men with higher rates of rape and abuse towards women?

I don’t know why people try to shut down the immigration issue by assuming rape by homegrown men is acceptable, because it’s clearly not, and there are a great many women doing incredible work to try to make a difference in this area.

Trouble is that courts very often favour men over believing women, which keeps the conviction rate horrifically low. This isn’t going to be solved by continuing to add men from cultures who hate women to the mix.

And the thing is, home grown rapists know what they’re doing is wrong. Those coming from countries who think men have a right over women’s bodies are far. Far more dangerous

PandoraSocks · 04/08/2025 19:07

No, I don't OP.

I posted this on the other thread about "Civil Unrest". I think it bears repeating here.

This is Zoe William's excellent summing up of TGT. Its influence is plain to see across SM and in real life.

"This is the great replacement theory, the organising principle of white supremacists: it isn’t voguish any more to simply hint that white people are better. When you’re looking to get racism off the sofa and generate a bigotry with some observable output, you have to create the sense of an active threat. This is where you bring in grand conspiracies, where Muslims seek to overrun the Judeo-Christian order by first arriving and then breeding faster. It’s an unabashed and disgusting assertion, taking as its first principle that every baby isn’t as precious, as miraculous, as exquisite as the next".

Goldbar31 · 04/08/2025 19:07

AlwaysBelieveTheEx · 04/08/2025 18:51

I don’t think there’ll be a civil war, but I do think there’ll be more riots, more steps towards the far right, more women and girls endangered for the sake of the left’s ideological bubble.

Agree. The recent incidents in Epping and Nuneaton are fuelling the fire.

AlwaysBelieveTheEx · 04/08/2025 19:07

Emotionalsupporthamster · 04/08/2025 18:56

OP is as likely to be a Russian propagandist as a concerned British citizen. They sow the seeds on social media in the hope that we will take ourselves out with the political unrest it creates. Why people trust that these threads, or the shit on X, TikTok etc are made in good faith is beyond me. And the people who swallow it are the same ones who like to think that they’re the critical thinkers who aren’t taken in by what others want them to believe.

You tell yourself that.
Meanwhile people who’ve had first hand experience and have had their lives curtailed will carry on being called racists and Russian propagandists 🙄

ToWhitToWhoo · 04/08/2025 19:08

There will not be a civil war in the UK as a whole unless there is total economic collapse. I don't predict even a return to the Troubles in Northern Ireland, though that's a little more possible.

However, there are hardliners on all sides who need to be resisted where possible. The forces of social conservativism are dangerous to everyone, especially to women, whether they come from the Christian Right or the Muslim Right, the NatCons (or whatever they call themselves now) or the Tommy Robinson supporters or the Islamists, the Trumpsters or the Saudis. In fact, I would worry at least as much about rival right-wing factions getting together to impose reactionary policies as about their fighting each other. (E,g, Andrew Tate is basically a Trumpster and a hardline Muslim rolled into one.)

'We are a Christian country with our own traditions, values, and way of life.'

We are actually a pretty secular, religiously tolerant country and I would like to see this preserved against the right-wing of all religions.

'Why is it seen as wrong to want to preserve that? If we moved to Saudi Arabia, Bulgaria, or Russia, we would be expected to adapt to their culture. So why is it unacceptable to ask the same here?'

I wouldn't consider any of the above countries as a model to imitate!

If by 'adapt to our culture' you mean 'respect the law', I'd agree. If you mean they've got to become Christians or avoid following their own cultural practices, I would strongly disagree.

Abasin · 04/08/2025 19:08

Beeloux · 04/08/2025 19:05

Exactly, many of these men are coming from countries where the age of consent can be as low as 9.

There was a case recently in my town of a man in a migrant hotel who was hanging around the local high school and trying to grope young teenagers. Other ones of them taking pictures of young girls and kids in the park.

They know if they committed these sort of crimes in their own country, they would likely be tortured in jail.

Round our way they disguise themselves as schools.

TeaAndMuffins · 04/08/2025 19:08

Glowingup · 04/08/2025 18:59

That’s different from making an effort to integrate though isn’t it? The point is that Brits rarely integrate and they often stick together in communities when living abroad.

Of course they may not integrate well, but there are important differences. British expat communities usually make significant contributions to the economy. Their culture and background poses no risk to the host country. And Muslim countries are often hostile to those from Christian countries, making full-blown integration downright dangerous in some cases. If I was a Christian living in Pakistan no way would I try to integrate in the same way a Muslim could safely integrate in the UK. Pakistan has blasphemy laws that have had devastating consequences for non-Muslims.

Missmarplesknittingbuddy · 04/08/2025 19:08

exhaustedandwholly · 04/08/2025 17:47

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately and I wonder if others feel the same. With everything going on, from the arrival of illegal migrants in small boats to a government that seems powerless, and with Farage gaining popularity because people are fed up, it feels like tension is rising across the country.

People are frustrated. You try to raise concerns and are instantly labelled a racist or bigot, even when your worries are about integration, safety, and national identity, not race. It feels like any honest conversation is being shut down.

There are parts of the UK where people who were born and raised here no longer feel at home. In some areas, if you are not part of the dominant local community, you can feel completely out of place or even unsafe walking alone at night. That is not right in your own country.

It is not just about people coming from Muslim-majority countries or those arriving illegally. There are also large numbers of Eastern Europeans, including Bulgarians, Romanians, and Russians. Many work hard and contribute, but there are also communities forming where people keep to themselves, speak no English, and make no effort to integrate. Some of these areas are experiencing rising antisocial behaviour, crime, and a breakdown of community life.

You can find videos online showing the state of some of these areas, with rubbish piling up, people ignoring the rules, and no sign of enforcement. It looks lawless, and it often is. But speaking about it honestly is considered of limits.

I live next to a Muslim family and they are wonderful people. Friendly, respectful, hardworking. So this is not about judging individuals. This is about a wider pattern where people are arriving, not integrating, and changing the fabric of our country in ways no one voted for.

We are a Christian country with our own traditions, values, and way of life. Why is it seen as wrong to want to preserve that? If we moved to Saudi Arabia, Bulgaria, or Russia, we would be expected to adapt to their culture. So why is it unacceptable to ask the same here?

The anger and division in this country are growing. I do not want unrest or conflict, but I cannot ignore what feels like a serious shift. When ordinary people feel ignored for too long, things eventually boil over.

Is anyone else feeling this? Or are we just not allowed to talk about it anymore?

Ignorining the rest of your post as most of your " issues " have been addressed by other posters , I would challenge your view that we are or even should be a Christian country . Aside from the fact Christianity in its various forms has been responsible for some terrible actions , I am white and British but definitely not Christian. Where do I fit into your narrow minded beliefs about values OP? .

EliosBackPack · 04/08/2025 19:08

I am female, white, British and lost interest when OP said “we are a Christian country.”
Goady and bigoted post.

SnipSnipMrBurgess · 04/08/2025 19:09

exhaustedandwholly · 04/08/2025 18:01

Yes, I’ve experienced this first hand. There’s a small town not far from where I live that I visit fairly regularly, and the situation there is quite different from what you describe. The area has a large population of Russians, Bulgarians, and Muslims, and there are even shops with signs in the windows that say 'no English.' This isn’t something I’ve picked up from social media it’s what I’ve seen for myself.

So yes, I have experienced it, and honestly, it isn’t a pleasant situation. I just wish everyone could get on!

Edited

Then name the town.

JHound · 04/08/2025 19:10

FlyRedRobin · 04/08/2025 19:01

Wtf are you on about. I'm one of the foreign folks from a Muslim majority country and I agree with OP wholeheartedly. Not all immigrants want to integrate, that's a fact.

Some people on this site are in denial that there is a major problem. If you look on YouTube a lot of immigrants like me say the same thing as OP.

Are you willing to go back to placate people like OP and others who think you are importing a dangerous ideology to the UK?

Glowingup · 04/08/2025 19:11

Beeloux · 04/08/2025 19:05

Exactly, many of these men are coming from countries where the age of consent can be as low as 9.

There was a case recently in my town of a man in a migrant hotel who was hanging around the local high school and trying to grope young teenagers. Other ones of them taking pictures of young girls and kids in the park.

They know if they committed these sort of crimes in their own country, they would likely be tortured in jail.

In which country is the age of consent 9? You do know that the majority of Muslim countries have an age of consent higher than in this country?

pointythings · 04/08/2025 19:11

AlwaysBelieveTheEx · 04/08/2025 18:58

I agree men are the problem. But the man problem is worse from certain cultures, where the vast majority of women are treated like shit. Why are we ignoring this?

I don't think we are, but it's being weaponised by people who don't want any brown people here. The perception is being created that an entire swathe of people from particular cultures are all exactly the same, and it is being used to further a hateful and xenophobic agenda.

Furthermore, none of the people who use this trope ever seem to acknowledge that British and other Western European men are just as awful - and I actually don't think the % of men who behave in that way is any higher in Muslim men. They just hide their misogyny better.

CountFucula · 04/08/2025 19:11

Noticed this morning that there was a strange post about someone feeling that there was ‘something brewing’ or some other nonsense and now this bigoted poster. Bots?

PandoraSocks · 04/08/2025 19:12

EliosBackPack · 04/08/2025 19:08

I am female, white, British and lost interest when OP said “we are a Christian country.”
Goady and bigoted post.

Ironically, none of these type of threads are ever very Christian in spirit.

NaicePeachJoker · 04/08/2025 19:12

Glowingup · 04/08/2025 18:53

I wonder if anyone can imagine the reaction if Spanish/French/Italian people marched into a British shop and started speaking their native tongue and expecting the staff to be able to understand them and speak back to them in Spanish/French/Italian. Because that is what British people do constantly. The chance that the average Brit actually happens to speak any of these languages is also small whereas when Brits do it abroad, usually the person will respond to them in English. But it’s so arrogant and entitled when you think about it given our refusal to even try to learn languages.

An Italian person in France/Spain/Germany would speak English if they didn’t know the local language as would a Spanish person, a Swedish person, an Indian person. English is Europe’s (possibly the worlds) second language, it is lazy to not learn other languages but it’s not as critical for native English speakers.

TheErrantDaughter · 04/08/2025 19:13

Nigel, is that you? Knock once for yes, knock twice for no.
There seems to be more and more of these posts on Mumsnet and I strongly suspect that we have political campaigning from Reform going on here. Today I’m not going to go through the thread reporting racist comments to Mumsnet, but I will encourage the moderators to weed out the racists.

JHound · 04/08/2025 19:13

MyHeartyCoralSnail · 04/08/2025 19:05

You do realise the difference in risk profile of documented and undocumented migration don’t you???? And yes and religion which champions ideas that can lead to the death, abuse and misogyny is dangerous.

We are talking about failing to integrate by failing to learn the local language.
That’s a very separate point to the one you are trying to make.

TizerorFizz · 04/08/2025 19:15

People who are likely to vote Reform like the bluster though don’t they. Easy to understand, tells it like it is, but no policies on what they would actually do. They just stir people up who are a bit lacking in other ways. Ditto Trump. It’s so easy to do now too.

If Labour don’t improve over immigration there will be a lot of Reform MPs next time. Civil war? Doubt it. More like street violence. Local council wins don’t necessarily translate to MPs either.

NaicePeachJoker · 04/08/2025 19:15

pointythings · 04/08/2025 19:11

I don't think we are, but it's being weaponised by people who don't want any brown people here. The perception is being created that an entire swathe of people from particular cultures are all exactly the same, and it is being used to further a hateful and xenophobic agenda.

Furthermore, none of the people who use this trope ever seem to acknowledge that British and other Western European men are just as awful - and I actually don't think the % of men who behave in that way is any higher in Muslim men. They just hide their misogyny better.

It’s culturally and legally acceptable to beat women with sticks for showing hair in some cultures that we have welcomed to our country, how does this compare with Western European men?

Glowingup · 04/08/2025 19:15

TeaAndMuffins · 04/08/2025 19:08

Of course they may not integrate well, but there are important differences. British expat communities usually make significant contributions to the economy. Their culture and background poses no risk to the host country. And Muslim countries are often hostile to those from Christian countries, making full-blown integration downright dangerous in some cases. If I was a Christian living in Pakistan no way would I try to integrate in the same way a Muslim could safely integrate in the UK. Pakistan has blasphemy laws that have had devastating consequences for non-Muslims.

Yes it’s really risky for the thousands of retired Brits in Spain and France, not economically active, to learn even a basic level of Spanish. The vast majority of Muslim immigrants and other immigrants in this country speak fluent English. They might not speak it among each other but why should they?? As if any Brit would insist on only speaking the local language to their British friends while abroad. What if it offends the Portuguese to hear Brits going around yacking away in English? Just as it offended the man who subjected me to a disgusting tirade when I was speaking a foreign language on the phone to a family member.

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