Ways middle aged men have told us off this week

[Siblingsadness]

I've got 2 today and it's not even midday yet
I swim every day at 6am . There's normally about 6 of us, today I had the pool all to myself. I swam in one of the lanes as i am working on staying straight during certain strokes. After about 20 minutes a man got in the pool. I've seen him before, he always goes in the unlaned bit and does physio walking up and down.
Today he came over to the lane and said I shouldn't be in there as its the fast lane and I wasn't fast. I thought he was joking so I laughed. He then said he wasn't joking and I needed to move. Of course I told him not to be ridiculous, no one else was in here and if someone fast wanted it, I'd move. He called me a silly batch.
Then just now in tescos, I was in the pasta aisle and a man picked up a jar of pasta sauce and said "is this any good" I said I wasn't sure sorry, I normally just get the passata and put onion and garlic in it. He sort of mocked me and said "ooh good cook are you" I said yes, I'm OK and I enjoy it too. He then said "well at least I can parallel park you silly cow"
Now I know I just encountered 2 nutters (maybe a third is on the way) but I'm a bit cheeky and a cow before lunch today despite just going for a swim and buying cheaper pasta ingredients. 🤣🤣

I’m so sorry to be stupid, but I have read it a few times and really don’t understand his comment to you? Clearly would have gone right over my head!

I have many, many middle aged man experiences, unfortunately. I also work at a supermarket and without doubt they are the rudest customers to serve. If I’m on self checkout, you can guarantee it will be them clicking their fingers at me or shouting to get my immediate attention (your light is red, I can see from that you need help but I’m with another customer - fucking wait).

My worst though is when I was shopping myself, and I was stood in front of the chocolate bars, deciding what to get. I was in the middle of struggling with an eating disorder episode and buying a bar was a huge deal to me. A middle aged man came right up to me, said “those will make you fat, you know” and whisked off with the most self satisfied smirk. I won’t go in to the spiral that sent me in, but I still think about it often and what I would say to him nowadays.

Some middle aged bloke lunged for and grabbed the unlocked trolley at Asda carpark my husband was about to take. My husband said "I'm was about to take that" so the older bloke said "so was i" (now this is probably one of men who do this shit to women all the time) but my husband called him a cock quite angrily and the man walked off and wouldn't look back. Hopefully he will be less of a cock in future

Such a good tactic. They hate, hate, hate it when you do not get upset or look scared.

Had a similar situation with an irate man in a car park once. He became more and more enraged as I slowly started turning the music up in the car a notch at a time as he ranted at my window and I kept smiling at him. I genuinely thought hoped he was going to keel over in anger as I repeatedly said "I see where you're coming from mate"

My aunt is religious and responds with "may God bless" you type comments in any confrontation. Most people are completely nonplussed.

This is my boss. He has a team of 9, with just two women. The difference in the way he speaks about the women than the men is astonishing. He’s genuinely rude to me. I can’t call him out on it though because I need the job, it pays well, and is remote while I have young kids.

The only time I have scraped my car whilst parallel parking was when I accepted the guidance of a man who insisted on aiding me - I didn't have much option as he was my employer but anyone else would been told to fuck off.

Now that I'm older and much less tolerant of fools, he'd be told where to go as well.

This made me laugh…I was with my DS doing final practice the day before his driving test, he was about 20. I’d decided to make it “real” and took him into Asda carpark on a Saturday morning and we were practicing parking and reversing with all the chaos of cars pulling in and out and driving past your rear end.

this 50 year old numpty man decided to “help” and was waving instruction like son was tryin* to reverse a plane, I wound window down and said, nicely “it’s fine, we’re practicing, can you just leave us to it”

but no, he steps into space behind car, starts banging on roof and shouting instructions…I tell son to pull in to space opposite. I get out and go to bloke who stood there like a damp redundant tea towel and say “I am his instructor. Not you. Piss off before you create an accident by preventing my pupil form listening to my instructions” …he looks most put out and says “but I thought you were the learner” …

🤣🤦🏼‍♀️🤷‍♀️ amazing that given I was in passenger seat

I usually only ever get men being awful when I'm driving - no fault of my own but aggressive men tailgating, cutting up etc. Not all the time but it does happen. In response to their aggression I always give them my nicest sweetest smile, sometimes with a wave (think Alice in Vicar of Dibley). It diffuses things generally as I just don't think they know what to do in response.

Although I did call one man a dickhead last week for photo bombing a photo of my child doing something for the first time and I couldn't get another shot. He was very gleeful and laughed when he realised what he'd done. He looked very surprised when I called him an absolute dickhead in my Manc accent in a nice Southern town. (No children heard me FYI).

Yep, not nice is it

Fucking hell! With every day that goes by I am more and more convinced that men are utterly deranged and all men hate women.

I think it means "Double cream is the last thing you should be eating" (because it's high calorie)

Because I don't need your permission or approval.

It isnt just middle-aged men is it.

Oh look, another unnecessary and pointless goady message. Think it might be a “you” thing.

I got told off in the street the other day. A man objected to my 'Fck Putin'/Ukrainian flag sticker on my car. Said I was encouraging people to use the F word. Should have told him to fck off.

We need a partner thread of the best ways to tell miserable people who randomly foist this horrible rubbish on us to Foxtrot Oscar.

Eurgh I was in a cafe the other day when a middle aged man who clearly had nothing better to do decided to take the owner of the cafe to task about why they charged 20p more for a decaff coffee than a caffeinated one. It didn't have something in that the other did so surely it should be cheaper? The lady very patiently explained the processing involved in decaffeinated coffee and how that made it slightly more expensive from their supplier. Well no one else charges more for it, that's obviously not true replied the lovely man. She rolled her eyes out of his view, politely excused herself, and walked off. I would have told him if he knows so much about coffee maybe he should run the place, starting by dealing with difficult customers! 😂

To redress the balance slightly: I told a middle aged man off for being in the wrong lane at the pool today. I told him it was too busy for him to be overtaking mid-lane and he should move to a faster lane or he'd cause a crash. He argued back but then did move up, so I'll take that as a win.

This happened a long time ago and I don't mean to be offended to bald men, dh is bald, I don't care about baldness.

I'd not long had ds1 and my stomach was protuding still. I was in a pub with dh and he'd gone to the bar. Older guy who I knew comes up, pokes my belly and says what's this then, really mocking me. I just said, 'nothing a diet can't fix, that about this 'and I rubbed his head, and added 'what are you going to do about that!' Ive never seen a bloke storm off so fast and leave a bar. Rude bugger.

Why do mean think they can just go up to people , well women, and insult them I'll never know. They hate it when you retort back as well.

Exactly! There are some right dickheads on here today. I something think some people come on here just to criticise and argue with the OP.

That makes sense. It is funny how people do assume things. I was on a thread, long time ago, I mentioned something about having a nurse and doctor jn the family, my son and DIL. Comment immediately came back about my son the doctor. He's the nurse. Amazing that stereotype sticks even though there are plenty of female doctors and male nurses

I'm in the Central belt and it's a fair split in my experience. And that's without bringing drink into the equation, then it just escalates.

Men don’t seem to speak to me like this but I’ve previously been described by others as “scary until you get to know me and realise I’m lovely”. I think my face is not “girly pretty” and I went to a girls school where they did a great job in teaching confidence (which I didn’t appreciate at the time). I completely believe others experience it because I’ve seen it, just not with me. The Psychology behind reasons men do this with some not others is fascinating.

All these have reminded me of the time I got told off for parking in the wrong car park by some passing man. Only I wasn't in the wrong car park, he just assumed I was going somewhere else.
Usually I would have just ignored him but I'd had a rough week and his remarks were like a bang on the funny bone - I was overcome with rage and let him have it. After years of holding back in case I got clobbered by an angry man, all of it came pouring out and he actually ran away.

This happened to DD and me yesterday.
The spot we were in was the only one available and he was waiting for us to pull out. All he had to do was reverse back 2/3 feet and DD could have easily reversed out and he could drive in but he aggressively kept edging closer and closer and smirking as DD attempted a 6 point turn so instead DD drove back to the spot, we got out and went for a coffee.
We skipped across the car park giggling as he beeped the shit out of his car horn. TWAT.

Double cream is the last thing you need = you shouldn't eat that because you'll be fat, and fat = unattractive to me.
Chocolate bar man; "those will make you fat, you know" is an example of the same thing.

I'd have given both of them a Paddington stare and said "Did I ask for your opinion?"

Agree, no one pays money and goes to the gym to be verbally abused, this person must be confronted about this in case he tries to make a habit of it