Ways middle aged men have told us off this week

[Siblingsadness]

I've got 2 today and it's not even midday yet
I swim every day at 6am . There's normally about 6 of us, today I had the pool all to myself. I swam in one of the lanes as i am working on staying straight during certain strokes. After about 20 minutes a man got in the pool. I've seen him before, he always goes in the unlaned bit and does physio walking up and down.
Today he came over to the lane and said I shouldn't be in there as its the fast lane and I wasn't fast. I thought he was joking so I laughed. He then said he wasn't joking and I needed to move. Of course I told him not to be ridiculous, no one else was in here and if someone fast wanted it, I'd move. He called me a silly batch.
Then just now in tescos, I was in the pasta aisle and a man picked up a jar of pasta sauce and said "is this any good" I said I wasn't sure sorry, I normally just get the passata and put onion and garlic in it. He sort of mocked me and said "ooh good cook are you" I said yes, I'm OK and I enjoy it too. He then said "well at least I can parallel park you silly cow"
Now I know I just encountered 2 nutters (maybe a third is on the way) but I'm a bit cheeky and a cow before lunch today despite just going for a swim and buying cheaper pasta ingredients. 🤣🤣

Rolling your eyes at them works

Nope, not up for a rewrite. I didn't go into detail about my cooking, I said I added onion and garlic to a cheaper thing rather than buying an onion and garlic sauce. I was hardly pretending to be Gordon Ramsay. Also, unconnected to the parking also didn't deserve to be called names

I hope you reported the swim person for abuse to a lifeguard and got him removed.

With the other one - ask him to repeat himself

I really believe that a great deal of men are at home using pornhub etc and sexually frustrated. Unable to date and communicate.

iPods in and ignore

Oh my gosh OP! I’m too middle aged and cranky now for any male to cross me. But you’ve reminded me of a time, twenty years ago, when I was a bank teller in the days of cash.
I had just gotten a Sliding Doors haircut (remember Gwyneth in those days?). One of my regular business customers, who was at least 50, asked me if I’d had a haircut. Oh yes, I said, still young and naive. I prefer long hair on women, he told me.
Like I would have given a moment’s thought to what he wanted! I barely knew him, but the arrogance and entitlement was so outrageous I was speechless.
i would team him a new butthole these days if anyone dared comment on my haircut!
sorry OP, middle aged men are literally the worst.

His "rule" doesn't even make sense - you were on his right!

You’ve got to feel a bit sorry for the man whose proudest achievement is parallel parking. He’s so deeply insecure, he genuinely believes pancetta with onions and garlic is some sort of unattainable culinary summit.

My husband reckons laughing at them works. That's made me realise he's a man who has also experienced this sort of thing.

Good point, I hadn't thought about that

Another man bashing thread. 🙄
Where do you all live?
I definitely encounter way more mouthy women than men and I'm in central Scotland.

Yes I didn't understand this. You were on the right of each other. That rule is for roundabouts and some other situations where there is no obvious give way signs.

I don't know if I've ever encountered something like that. I've certainly never had blokes swear at me for no reason! What did you say back to the man OP? I would like to think if someone called me a bitch in a public pool I'd get right out and find someone that could get him booted! Totally unacceptable. I've had one bloke kicked out of a sauna as he made an unacceptable sexual comment. You don't have to put up with it.

I got shoulder barged last week and nearly toppled over. My crime? I was walking through the entrance of a store and the bloke was trying to get out by coming back through even though the exit door was right next to it. I hadn’t looked up as there was a slight lip at the door and I’m using walking sticks (neurological disorder). He mouthed off about “dole poles” and walked straight into my dh who kindly escorted him to his car.

These are just angry entitled men and it's best not to engage with them when you encounter them. Unfortunately you only find out who they are when you engage. They are like that with everyone but women they see as an easy target.

Well, Sall Grover started her next court case today for, amongst other things, being told that having to pay a middle aged man in a dress $10000 because she snorted in the previous court case at a smelly balls (testicles) candle, was not enough money to the tune of an extra $20000.

I suppose she’s being told off in lieu of all Australian women.

I had a man tell me in m&s that i was a 'lazy girl' for buying a chicken ceaser salad instead of buying the ingredients to make my own. Im sorry to say that i was so wtf that i couldnt respond. I hope my face said it all.

Her saying what she does is absolutely no weirder than him asking a random person in the store what sauce to buy. All bets are off at that point and he is not owed a particular kind of answer. I might have said something similar because my own opinion is that all the pre-made pasta sauces are disgusting.

I find some women are much worse at times.

I ignore men who try to mansplain or just annoy me, unless I need something from the top shelf of the supermarket, being a real shortarse lol 😊

How is it man bashing to say that men did things that they did? Calm down.

So angry on your behalf, everyone on this thread. I have to wear dark glasses when I go outside all year round. I've had a few comments when it's not very sunny (always from older men) as you can imagine. I hate patriarchy.

This is awful and I dread my daughter growing up and dealing with these **s. My wife would give enough back that they’d be shot to the floor, but the point is they shouldn’t have too.

From a road rage point of view, my wife tends to wiggle her little finger at them (indicating a small male member), most get really embarrassed and back off. Whereas swearing and showing the w*** symbol just makes them angrier.

Seriously, report the gym member, deserves a telling off by someone.

At the airport last week sat down next to a middle aged man who was manspreading. Nudged his leg to get him to move as it was clear he wasn't going to. I saw out of the corner of my eye him texting in enormous letters " a fat British woman has just sat on my knee".

Sadly I think you’re right. I don’t think they ‘switch it on’ especially for women but possibly they are more aggressive with them for the reasons you said.

However, unlike some PP, I don’t think women should feel guilty for posting such experiences. It comes across as a light hearted not ill intentioned post and if it helps OP get it off her chest then all good. I live alone with no family or friends and generally wfh also so I’d like to think if something bothered me involving anyone of any sex, I could get a bit of moral support on here just to vent because it’s mentally healthy to do so and we don’t all have ‘real life’ people unfortunately.

Ugh the manspreading is the worst. I now keep my leg fully touching theirs until they move. Record is 20 minutes before he gave up! 🤣

This actually clears up a question I had about what drivers who do this can possibly be thinking of!

I've had similar encounters where the man in question makes exasperated gestures as though he thinks I should have waited for him despite the hazards being entirely on his side. I had put it down to sheer entitlement but now I know they may just actually not be bright enough to understand basic rules of the road!

Worst I’ve had lately was an elderly man working in his front garden telling me to ‘Cheer up!’ when I was hurrying after little Gdd, whizzing along to nursery on her bike - we were running a bit late.
OK, I don’t have a naturally smiley face, but this sort of thing seriously pisses me off.
The next day the annoying old bugger was still there, pruning his roses or whatever, so I stopped on the way back, and told him that I wasn’t in fact miserable yesterday, but unfortunately I just don’t have a permanently smiley face, so perhaps he’d like to refrain from making such remarks to random strangers in future.

Which was rather more polite than I was tempted to be!