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To invoice a repairman?

227 replies

Shazzabaz · 31/07/2025 18:21

Hi.

My DH took our car to a local handyman/mechanic who is a friend for some work needed. Basically tyre changes, oil changes, handbrake tightening etc

He kept the car for three days, and then when we returned it he gave us an invoice of £30 to cover "costs".

What "costs"? We supplied the tyres to him!

My husband paid him, but I'm fuming. He originally said he wouldn't charge for his labour, as we have known him for so long.

I have decided I am going to send him an invoice for keeping our car longer than he said he would, to reimburse us for having to get the bus into town when we should have been able to drive.

I know this is petty, but a point needs proving. You can't keep a car longer than you promise, and then invoice for a favour!!!!

I'm wondering if it's petty to invoice for more than £30, just to make a point?

My DH says no, and this will only cause trouble, but I'm not being a doormat for his dishonest mate.

What do you all think?

OP posts:
HonestOpalHelper · 31/07/2025 19:39

Shazzabaz · 31/07/2025 19:36

He has over 100 000 subscribers!!!!!!

You really don't understand what a promissory note is, a bank note is a promissory note issued by the Bank of England, promising to pay (in bullion or coin) the amount stated on the note.

If you draw up a promissory note, it's you who are making the promise to pay!! so you still have to pay when he hands it back and does the demand bit of pay the bearer on demand!

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 31/07/2025 19:39

Shazzabaz · 31/07/2025 19:37

It's still going through the courts. But I'll win.

I'm sure it won't

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 31/07/2025 19:41

PixelNomad · 31/07/2025 19:38

here for the deletion message 😁

Every time I refresh I'm expecting it 🤣

Catsandcheese · 31/07/2025 19:41

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 31/07/2025 19:37

England does accept Scottish notes, it does not accept Irish notes.

To be fair sometimes the shops go a bit crazy when I give them my Clydesdale Bank £5 especially since thar bank no longer exists 😂

Shazzabaz · 31/07/2025 19:41

HonestOpalHelper · 31/07/2025 19:39

You really don't understand what a promissory note is, a bank note is a promissory note issued by the Bank of England, promising to pay (in bullion or coin) the amount stated on the note.

If you draw up a promissory note, it's you who are making the promise to pay!! so you still have to pay when he hands it back and does the demand bit of pay the bearer on demand!

But .......
How LONG do the government take before they pay you your gold?

Think about that.

When you do, you'll realise there's no difference between their promises and mine

OP posts:
CoastalCalm · 31/07/2025 19:41

While he was working on your car he missed out on earning time on others - £30 is nothing !

Anewuser · 31/07/2025 19:41

I’m not interested in the nut job or searching YouTube, but I am interested in who the hell is the 1% who think OP is reasonable?

Catsandcheese · 31/07/2025 19:43

OP do you have a template we can all use for the promissory notes please?

Puffalicious · 31/07/2025 19:43

Shazzabaz · 31/07/2025 19:37

It's still going through the courts. But I'll win.

This HAS to be a wind-up after this!

School holidays?

Simplelobsterhat · 31/07/2025 19:44

Tiswa · 31/07/2025 19:26

I have not heard promissory notes since I played game of life and were used if you went into debt to buy something as a promise to pay back once you have money - it is a legal instrument of debt mainly and not legal tender!

THANK YOU. It was driving me mad what promissory notes reminded me of and that's it!

Nothing else to add to the madness....

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 31/07/2025 19:44

Anewuser · 31/07/2025 19:41

I’m not interested in the nut job or searching YouTube, but I am interested in who the hell is the 1% who think OP is reasonable?

Old Dickie from YT

Reliablesource · 31/07/2025 19:45

OP, you are obnoxious and have shown yourself to be even more obnoxious with all
your smart-arse comments about a ‘promissory note’. I’m surprised you and your husband actually have any friends. What a pair of CFs.

AngelicKaty · 31/07/2025 19:46

Shazzabaz · 31/07/2025 19:06

Yes. It's a promise to pay just like government money.
No difference.

No it's not, regardless of what some bloke on YT tells you. No service or goods provider is obliged to accept a promissory note as payment unless they have agreed to this form of "payment". See this ruling by the FOS: https://www.financial-ombudsman.org.uk/decision/DRN-3857548.pdf

https://www.financial-ombudsman.org.uk/decision/DRN-3857548.pdf

PsychoHotSauce · 31/07/2025 19:46

Shazzabaz · 31/07/2025 19:41

But .......
How LONG do the government take before they pay you your gold?

Think about that.

When you do, you'll realise there's no difference between their promises and mine

The flaw in your plan is that each business sets their own payment terms. Like shops refusing £50 notes even though theyre legal tender. This also applies to individuals entering into verbal agreements, and you can't alter the payment terms after you've entered into a contract unless he agrees to it.

So, unless you said "ill pay you via promissory note" and he agreed before he started (which you didn't, because you didn't think you'd be paying anything), you can't suddenly "pay" him with that now.

Can't believe i bothered engaging but I'm impatiently waiting for dinner to cook and it passes the time!

stichguru · 31/07/2025 19:48

Shazzabaz · 31/07/2025 18:37

Ok...looks like I'm in the wrong on this one.
I'll give him a promissory note for the full £30 tomorrow.

Labour may be free, but he will have still used tools and supplies.

AngelicKaty · 31/07/2025 19:48

AffIt · 31/07/2025 19:20

Strong 'freeman of the land' vibes from this one.

I just came on to post the same. It's worrying what some people are gullible enough to believe.

MoFadaCromulent · 31/07/2025 19:48

Man overboard

GlitteryUnicornSparkles · 31/07/2025 19:50

This is the most batshit thing I think I’ve ever read!

Your friend offered to do your work on your car for free, he has done exactly that but given you a very minor invoice for a few extra bits that were needed to complete the job. He has given up his free time or paid work to do so saving you hundreds of pounds in return you want to charge him because it wasn’t done on time as retaliation for him asking you not to leave him out of pocket for bits that needed purchasing! Jesus, with friends like you who needs enemies.

Maybe take it to a proper garage next time you’ll get your car back on time but it’ll cost you a hell of a lot more. If I had a friend offering me such a favour I’d not just be paying the £30 but getting them a thank you gift.

This whole promissory note thing (had to google it) is just fucking ridiculous, who even does that shit. I also don’t understand the point or the bloody need! He’s done your job as agreed for free, he has invoiced you for a few minor parts needed, you’ve paid for those parts, job done. End of! Just say thank you and purchase a token gift as a thank you like a normal person.

Tiswa · 31/07/2025 19:50

Shazzabaz · 31/07/2025 19:32

That's the shops fault, not mine.
Just like them not taking Scottish money in England

No it isn’t Scottish money is legal tender as is English money

a promissory notes is a legal instrument basically saying I will pay in the future! It is taking on either a loan or a debt

also the gold standard ended in 1931 it is now fiat money which isn’t convertible

MyCrushWithEyeliner · 31/07/2025 19:50

Why did you pay the bus fare when you could have given the driver a promissory note?

KassandraOfSparta · 31/07/2025 19:52

Shazzabaz · 31/07/2025 18:53

So he knows he is fully paid for future work

Unlikely he's going to want to do a freebie or paid work for you again.

legsekeven · 31/07/2025 19:52

I wonder if you can “cancel the promissory note”

AngelicKaty · 31/07/2025 19:52

Puffalicious · 31/07/2025 19:43

This HAS to be a wind-up after this!

School holidays?

My guess is she's a "day drinker".

namechangeGOT · 31/07/2025 19:52

I wonder if Psychotherapists accept Promissory Notes? Asking for the op.

Coffeeishot · 31/07/2025 19:53

PixelNomad · 31/07/2025 19:38

here for the deletion message 😁

Im just wondering what the hell is going on 😳