To find it weird that smacking kids is still normal?

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Obviously it doesn’t happen as much as it use to and it’s thankfully mostly frowned upon but there’s stil the “a smack never hurt me” people around. If you just stop and think, grown adults hitting children half their size and hurting them. Really it’s abhorrent. Whilst I understand there’s always evil people who want to hurt children, smacking was normal and done by people who are not considered a risk to children

I agree and would never smack mine. I know two people who do smack their children - out of frustration when they lose control - and I've distanced the friendships because of it.

Why is it ok to hit a child but not an adult?

Totally agree @Notmycircusnotmyotterbut he uses discipline as his reason and feels he is justified. I just feel you can’t teach a child not to slap/hit for example if you are going to do the same to them. And there should be no need if you use other disciplining methods properly.

If you hit you've lost control. You're hitting out of anger / frustration. It's not ok.

It also shows a lack of imagination. I've seen my BF supervise a group of youngsters at a barbecue, break up fights, deal with his unruly Nephews when they were toddlers, a get an annoying teen boy in a headlock - his best friend's nephew - all without resorting to violence.
He is huge but extremely easy going, so I suppose it's easier for him. He hasn't got kids but is such an avuncular type and can remember what it was like to be very young, he's just got the knack for it I suppose. He's got far more patiences than I have .

Why is it ok to confiscate something from a child and not an adult?
why is it ok to tell a child they can’t leave the house but doing so to an adult would be false imprisonment?
The answer is because you are not responsible for the behaviour and future success of other adults.
I’m not particularly pro smacking but this argument always comes up and unless you are someone who never punishes their children at all, it’s nonsensical.

The Tories refused to make it illegal in 2023. One more reason never to vote for them ever again. Hopefully Labour will do the right thing soon.

It really isn’t. ‘Smacking’ is assault. Hardly on a par with saying your kid can’t have their PlayStation back till they’ve apologised .

I absolutely agree with you.

I saw a father smack his 5? year old daughter the other day at the supermarket. He did so on the ‘evidence’ of her wrong doing from her 10? year old sister. He did it deliberately and both girls acted as if it was normal. The smacked one just stood and cried without making a sound. In hindsight I wonder if that was a protective mechanism.

I still wish I’d said something but honestly I was so gobsmacked and he was about a foot taller and several stones bigger than me. The check out lady and I met eyes and we could see each other were horrified but I guess she too didn’t dare say anything.

As we didn't know him I suppose it might have been useless to speak to him anyway, but I still regret not saying anything.