What do men say if their DW/DP thinks they fancy another woman?

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There’s no AIBU really…. But what do men usually say if they’ve been caught checking out another woman, and/or being overly familiar with her. Wife will ask: ‘do you like her?’

Do husbands usually say ‘no, she’s not my type/don’t like blondes/bust too small/legs too short’ or something to that effect? Or something else?

I can’t imagine many of them tell the truth.

Strange question, I mean they're individual men aren't they?

Think about what you'd say in the same position and maybe go with that?

They lie, I think that goes for women too. I don’t think women check other men out as often as men do women but if I was caught and my husband asked me if I fancied him I’d probably say no, I wouldn’t want to hurt his feelings.

We are all human, it is natural to find other people attractive.

Women and men are different though, at least in general.

Thanks that’s very diplomatic. What do you think your husband would say in the same position?

That’s true, my question is about what men say when their wives suspect it and ask their husbands about a particular woman.

Women and men aren't robots.

They also don't become completely different people just because they chose to marry.

What would you say if your DH noticed you checking out another man and he asked if you fancied him?

Mine would say yeah she's nice but you don't buy a new car every time you look in a garage window

Of course they aren’t, but there are some commonalities. I also think women check out other men less often than men do women.

I’m not married, so I don’t know what I’d say…. Possibly ‘he’s good looking but I prefer you obviously’, although I’ve never actually been in that situation before.

And tbf if he asked me I would say only window shopping, but we do have a relationship where we can joke about like that with neither of us taking offence

I'd go with that then.

And then think of another 10,20,30+ replies and go with those too.

Because again, adults are all individuals.

We are individuals but there are some trends amongst is too…. Many of us have things in common. So I was asking on here to get a consensus of what lots of men would do.

Why not?

'Do you like her?' Sure she seems like a nice person.
Or does
'Do you like her?' Mean are you intending to leave me and run off with her
If its the second and you think your partner will lie then he should definitely back quietly out of the relationship.

I know my husband probably checks out other women to some degree. He has a very spesific type so if I see a woman who fits that when we are out together I normally say “don’t look there” as a joke. To be honest, if I caught him checking out someone who looked nothing like me I would be pretty upset, but that’s never happened.

If I see a very attractive man I will have a quick glance, so I don’t get angry at him for doing the same. When we were on holiday we had a waiter who I will admit was very handsome and nice and at the end of the meal DH said “I’m not tipping your little boyfriend by the way”. I think having a bit of a joke about it is the best way to go. Obviously if I caught him looking for too long though I would blind him.

This type of thread is depressing.

Why stay with a man who spends his time eyeing up other women?
Why demean yourself by even asking him if he " fancies" some one else?

Find a guy who has respect for you and actually likes and values you and doesn't spend his time looking for a better option even when he's sat next to you.

I don’t see it that way at all. I aware that there are women in the world that my husband will find attractive and that’s fine. I don’t feel disrespected by it.

If it’s someone famous he’ll say yeah she’s a bit of me, I’m the same, he knows full well that even though we’ve never met Jason Orange holds a special place in my heart. If it’s someone who is in his ‘real life’ he’d lie.. So would I.

Op's question was But what do men usually say if they’ve been caught checking out another woman, and/or being overly familiar with her.
So you are saying if your H is sat there eyeing up another woman or is being over familiar with her you don't feel disrespected?

It sounds as though you must be very tolerant or you have quite an open relationship then.

Do you similarly eye up other men or get over familiar with them when your H is sat there and is he similarly tolerant?

In 25+ years of marriage I have never seen my husband "checking out" another woman. I'm sure that he has found other women attractive but I've never observed anything and I have no idea what he would say.

Why would you need to know what "men" might say?

I don’t know what dh would say cause I’d never ask him. I’d assume that he frequently finds other women attractive - but I’d rather not know anything more specific. But if I had to guess, he’d probably lie diplomatically.

´Like ´ here means like physically, fancy. It doesn’t refer to personalities. It also doesn’t mean planning to run off with the person!

Same, i am aware of some women on tv he likes but he is is extremely subtle about it i have never ever seen him checking anyone out same as me so no idea and find the question odd

He’s never done it in front of me,unless it’s someone in a movie (happened last week when a Margo Robbie film came on tv) I should imagine when he’s alone he does. I don’t really care though.

It’s normal for men to check out attractive women The only time I would find it upsetting would be if I knew he really fancied one of my friends or relatives.