What do men say if their DW/DP thinks they fancy another woman?

[bjkhilg890]

There’s no AIBU really…. But what do men usually say if they’ve been caught checking out another woman, and/or being overly familiar with her. Wife will ask: ‘do you like her?’

Do husbands usually say ‘no, she’s not my type/don’t like blondes/bust too small/legs too short’ or something to that effect? Or something else?

Ahhh yes Margot Robbie . Men go ga ga over her .

Thanks this made me smile! What’s your husband’s ´type ´ just out of interest? At least he’s xhexking out women who look like you 😅I recently saw this middle aged man eyeballing me and I look nothing like his wife, and I don’t just mean in terms of age, I mean in terms of features… I think you can be tje same type but just different age groups.

Me and DH are very open and honest. Everybody looks - it's normal. 😊

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What's happened?

Thank you but this thread isn’t about myself - I’m single. It’s just hypothetical. I have been on the recieving end of a man staring at me with his wife next to him and it makes me glad I’m single tbh!

Well you are obviously a very confident person and secure in your relationship.

My personal view is if you are in a monogamous loving relationship then telling your partner, or making it obvious, you are sexually attracted to another person is disrespectful and inappropriate.

What would he say if it was someone in real life? ´Nah she’s not my type’?

Possibly it’s disrespectful but is it also not just honest if the man genuinely is sexually attractzd to another woman? Do you think it’s better for him to tell a white lie and say he isn’t?

Y nothing - I’m single! This is hypothetical.

@bjkhilg890 he likes dark curly hair and alternative fashion, also likes glasses which is good for me as I’ve never got on with contacts. I could probably pick the women he would like out of a line up. He says his type is “spooky, speccy and sexy” which I always thought was funny. Also weirdly, me and his only other serious gf both taught maths, so maybe he has a subconscious preference for mathematics skills. He did also used to fancy his maths teacher but that was when he was about 12.

He could probably pick out men I would like as well, he has always been jealous of Jarvis Cocker because I really fancied him. Little does he know the only reason I liked him at first was because he looked a bit like him. I have always had a strong preference for skinny men who dress weird.

I often point out fanciable women to DH. I
know his type! He just looks sheepish, haha.

He knows I’ve got the hots for Tom Hardy and sends me pics. We’re married, not dead!

I don’t need to know, but I am just curious, so I have started this thread to hear peoples’ anecdotes.

I’m single so I’m not actually upset or invested in this in any way.

As I said in my earlier post I wouldn't demean myself by asking.

It's usually perfectly obvious when someone is eyeing someone up so what's the point of the question anyway?

If my partner was eying up another woman while I was sat there I would walk out because I wouldn't sit there and be made a fool of.

Ok. Seems an odd question to ask with no context, that's all.

I don't really catch my DH checking out other women, he may well do when he's not with me! But I often say 'isn't soandso beautiful?' or ' hasn't she got lovely hair' etc and he will agree. Thinking someone looks attractive isn't a problem, it's completely normal!

Aren’t there lots of hypothetical questions on Mumsnet? Not everything is personal….

I have been in an (embarrassing) situation where a middle aged husband just gawped at me for minutes in front of his wife, who was clearly annoyed… I wouldn’t say that I’m invested or worried a out that situation to the point of starting a thread about it though!

Yes there are, but there are lots of drip feeds too - hence it's sometimes easier just to ask directly.

I would literally never ask my husband ’do you like her?’ - that’s probably because I’m quite secure though.

Caught looking at someone is very different to being overly familiar with someone
The former I wouldn't care too much about, the latter I would.

Fair enough. By overly familiar I just meant chatting/joking/banter/compliments….

So you wouldn’t care if your DH found another woman attractive if he admitted it? So you just wouldn’t ask because you wouldn’t care either way?

@bjkhilg890 chatting is not a problem we all talk to people. Banter and compliments is not how I'd expect my husband to interact with another woman.

Well yeah, men and women are different.

But both men and women will find other people attractive, even when committed to another partner. That doesn't mean they'll act on the attraction, even assuming the other person is interested, but it's not realistic to expect never to feel attracted to another man/woman just because you said 'I do'.

Mine used to say he could appreciate a good looking woman in the same way he appreciates a Spitfire or a Mark 2 Jaguar. Looks nice but is happy with what he has. I do point out people I think he would find attractive and he does the same to me. He is absolutely the other half of me. I would be lost without him and he says the same of me. Not sure what I'm rambling on about now so will stop.

Why would I care?