What do men say if their DW/DP thinks they fancy another woman?

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There’s no AIBU really…. But what do men usually say if they’ve been caught checking out another woman, and/or being overly familiar with her. Wife will ask: ‘do you like her?’

Do husbands usually say ‘no, she’s not my type/don’t like blondes/bust too small/legs too short’ or something to that effect? Or something else?

I'd say that if a man fancied a film/pop star he'd probably be honest. Although I suspect he'd be inclined not go full on lust in front of his wife. If he fancied someone in real life and had been eyeing her up at a BBQ for example, he'd lie and say she was not his type.

Some women do…. They chew their DH/DP’s ear off for it 😂

Nothing actually - I’m single. This is just hypothetical.

A while ago I was the woman being stared at, but I can’t say I’m invested in what a couple of strangers do/say.

What even a famous person? If dp or I comment on a fit famous person, we ask if they'd make the laminated list. It's all bit of fun.

I don't see the difference between fancying a famous person and a person in real life. Saying you fancy a famous person is just as disrespectful of your partner.
Your idea of fun is different to mine.

Because if your partner fancies a famous actress or football player than it's exceedingly unlikely that they'll ever meet them, let alone have a chance to make their fantasy come true. It's just banter.

But when it's Steve from IT or Jess from number 14, it's a bit more 'real'.

If they have a fantasy about having sex with another person, whether they be famous or not, then I don't want to hear it. Let them keep their fantasies to themselves.
I really hate how people use the expression " it's just banter" to excuse inappropriate conversations.

No - people are different. You can say men are all the same or women are all the same.

women check out people other than their partners too

Presumably the same thing you do when your DP notices you checking out other men.

Look, OP, if you’re writing a novel, the point is you make stuff up yourself.

Today my wife pointed out another woman's breasts to me. I appreciated her gesture.

Not sure how this specifically adds to this thread but it feels relevant. She seems to trust me to appreciate another woman being attractive without feeling threatened.

Your wife indicated at another woman and said, “Look at her tits.” ? Like, in public? Or was it someone on the telly?

Really?

Really?

Really really?

If so, can you please ask her to stop?

I think that's only because there aren't many attractive men around. Women definitely check men out, they are just smarter how they go about it

I take it they were big boobs? I’d definitely be uncomfortable as a woman but if you guys are happy with it…

I also call BS.

"Just because a man's on a diet doesn't mean he can't look at the menu." is the traditional response, I believe.

Haha I know some men who would get told off for saying something like that!

I would be one of them!

I love being single because instead of being hurt by this shit I just see it happen to other women constantly and feel sad for them instead. It’s very rare to see a man not doing it, they are very clever at doing it when their wives are looking elsewhere.

I am absolutely certain my husband likes the look of other women, because he has eyes and a healthy libido. However, in a quarter of a century I have never seen him eyeing up other women. I'm sure, even when we have been together he has seen and appreciated a good looking woman but because he's not a disrespectful letch I haven't seen it. But, whilst I'm no oil painting, I know my husband loves me for the chunky but adorable monkey I tell him I am! 😂

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I feel exactly the same way. It’s the same with all those men who follow 900k photoshopped women on Instagram 😅 and their girlfriends/wives are on here, upset, posting that he’s messaging X or he’s obsessing over Y.

Exactly.. that was me a few years ago, obsessing over what my ex was looking at, pictures he was liking, model pages he’d joined.. it was too much, and so fucking disrespectful. How can anyone feel secure when they are constantly looking at airbrushed filtered skinny young women.
So I took myself out of the equation and I’m free of it now. Because they are all like that, unless low sex drives.. Since becoming single all the married men I know have been sleazy towards me in some way, even the quiet ones who I thought were happy.
The ones who give me the most ick are the old men with their wives staring, and the ones with their families and small kids.
I feel so content knowing I’ll never have to worry about it again!

Good for you. None of those airbrushed women look like their photos or videos (which are just as easy to edit)…. I’ve seen so many of them in real life or in older candid pictures. It would do some of these men good to see them as well like that… although most of them don’t care and are happy to live on fantasy island. I actually think they might as well get off to AI images or anime or cartoons!! It’s about as natural as what they currently look at…

Hahha. I’ve seen men whose wives glare at them, or put their arm around them as if to ‘mark their territory’. 😂Some men pick up on their wife’s annoyance…. Others don’t 😅