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What do men say if their DW/DP thinks they fancy another woman?

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bjkhilg890 · 27/07/2025 21:12

There’s no AIBU really…. But what do men usually say if they’ve been caught checking out another woman, and/or being overly familiar with her. Wife will ask: ‘do you like her?’

Do husbands usually say ‘no, she’s not my type/don’t like blondes/bust too small/legs too short’ or something to that effect? Or something else?

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bjkhilg890 · 04/08/2025 00:08

ForZanyAquaViewer · 03/08/2025 23:15

I cannot imagine my husband checking out another woman in front of me. What sort of cretin does that?!

I assume he does find lots of other women attractive, though. There are lots of attractive women about. And, if I asked if he found someone attractive (not that I would, as it’s not really any of my business), I’m pretty sure he’d answer honestly. Finding other people attractive isn’t a crime. 🤷🏽‍♀️

What sort of cretin? Oh believe me, they are out there! I've been stared at by men standing right next to their visibly annoyed wives, as have my friends and otehr women I know!

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bjkhilg890 · 04/08/2025 00:14

ForZanyAquaViewer · 03/08/2025 23:16

Ah, I see.

OP, did you make a post not too long ago obsessing about your breasts and how no one would ever really find you attractive because you don’t look like a TikTok influencer, so you were going to get a bunch of surgery?

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No, I don't know what that is.

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ForZanyAquaViewer · 04/08/2025 07:12

bjkhilg890 · 04/08/2025 00:14

No, I don't know what that is.

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Okay, good. That individual was very disturbed and I hope she’s getting the help she needs.

SaintNoMountainHighEnough · 04/08/2025 10:03

bjkhilg890 · 03/08/2025 22:59

Could be interesting if you reply to my earlier quote about big breasts! Do you also point out attractive real life men to your wife/gf?

Do you also take the p!ss out of women with smaller breasts?

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Yes. I do Bring her attention when relevant, and no, I do not insult people based on them having physical traits that they objectively have no control over. Sorry this seems to have been a trigger for you, no offense has been intended.

Disturbia81 · 04/08/2025 19:07

bjkhilg890 · 03/08/2025 22:57

It just makes me despair tbh, as a small breasted woman. I don't want to be leered by a creep obviously, but I do want a desirable, nice figure. I'm having implants very soon, but I won't be showing them off. Unless I meet the right guy!

I think that when women (or some men) say, "oh you have small t!ts, look on the bright side, men won't stare at you", it's like a backhanded compliment, saying you aren't attractive and you aren't visible to men.

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I think there are so many ways to be attractive, and like I say I love having smaller boobs because it does cut down the letching from the ones who just drool at the sight of big ones. But it doesn’t stop me being looked at, asked out, found attractive.. just not by the dog types.
It sounds like you really want bigger ones though so I hope they make you feel better about yourself, and hope the op goes well ♥️

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bjkhilg890 · 06/08/2025 17:57

SaintNoMountainHighEnough · 04/08/2025 10:03

Yes. I do Bring her attention when relevant, and no, I do not insult people based on them having physical traits that they objectively have no control over. Sorry this seems to have been a trigger for you, no offense has been intended.

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No it’s not a trigger, there are some men who are obsessed with big boobs and tbh I don’t particularly care for their opinions on me personally. I just tend to find that it seems to be those men who will make ´funny comments about small ones.

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bjkhilg890 · 25/08/2025 15:51

@SaintNoMountainHighEnough Be interesting if you came back 😅

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