Why did I drink 2 bottles of wine!

[Isitchristmasyett]

So, I was making a Sunday roast yesterday, opened a bottle of wine and before I knew it 2 had gone! This is not a regular occasion and don’t think I have ever done that before. It was over the course of about 6 hours but I am paying for it today.

can anybody else manage 2 bottles?

Well, I'd say that not remembering going to bed, and feeling awful the next day, doesn't necessarily mean there's nothing to think about.

But fair enough, you were just curious as to whether any one else could drink two bottles of wine in 6 hours. Turns out a fair few posters on a thread titled 'why did I drink 2 bottles of wine' can. We've all been there? In my teens, once or twice maybe. Not since having kids (inc divorces), no.

Not sure where AIBU comes into it. If you're asking whether it's reasonable or unreasonable to feel guilty about it, you'll get lots of reassurance that you needn't, and only 'haters' would disagree. Up to you how you take that.

Day's a write-off obviously but never mind. You have a lot on your plate and the occasional blow-out is human.

The only thing I will say as someone who used to neck two bottles in one go because I did have a problem ending in a program, is be very aware how much organ damage even a one-off binge can potentially do. Don't let this become a regular thing - the body can't actually handle it, and you really do need your pancreas.

Ignore all the people commenting you have a drinking problem. Because you drank some wine making a roast. I can easily do that amount in 6 hours and I only drink once a month at home usually when we have friends over.

The important question to ask yourself is why are you drinking, and drinking that much? Is it boredom? Habit? A coping strategy for dealing with stress?

Alcohol is a beast that sneaks up on you, so you do need to be mindful about why you are drinking - even more so than how much. A whole bottle is 10 units, so you're almost hitting your weekly limit in one go. It's a lot.

I would start by doing a dry month, just to see how it feels. I did that back in 2015 when I realised I was drinking daily out of habit. I didn't miss it at all when I wasn't drinking, so it was a matter of resetting and finding better habits. I hope it's like that for you too.

of course two bottles as a one off doesn’t make it an alcohol problem. However, as someone with experience I’d worry that you’ve only drank this much because of how you feel right now about your ex. So you’re drinking to feel better, to cope. That’s never why we should drink as it can lead to alcohol being your coping mechanism for negative feelings and THAT is how a problem starts.

You’re only human, so write this one off. But consider other avenues for your feelings so you can stay being healthy and happy.

And I hope your ex gets shit on by a bird today ❤️

Whilst you don’t remember putting yourself to bed…
the important thing is… you remember putting your kids to bed!

Your ex is an arsehole, and I'm sorry you're having a hard time.

Alcohol is a depressant, so it's not going to make you feel better about things.

I don't drink now (lone parent), but recommend junk food to help you feel better.

Trust me, you really wouldn’t want to be an alcoholic and have your kids see you like that, much less lose the care of them to your ex.

Clearly you know you drank far too much yesterday whilst you were still responsible for the care of your children, so maybe today is a wake-up call?

This is an anonymous forum so all I’m going to add is that if you find yourself reaching for a second bottle of booze in order to stop thinking about your current circumstances and change how you’re feeling, then stop and look for an alternative source of support such as ringing a friend or a family member.

Drinking to excess won’t make you happy.

Didn’t say it was . I said what she drinks weekly is key, hence sending her the links. Also said that even if she isn’t dependent, going through a break up can be a trigger , so said to look into ways to get support.

I would never say a one off was dependent !
I said she didn’t need to say here how much she drinks weekly, but sent her links with advice and quizzes.

so no need to get worked up . I was trying to give her info ,

‘Diet’ and ‘hangover’ don’t mix!

Agreed

How old are your children

FFS. She said it was a one off.

OP, I've done that on rare occasion because for some reason I just get the urge. I normally don't drink for weeks so end, I think sometimes these things just happen.

Yes, it was just going down so well

10 pints of beer is around 30 units of alcohol. Two bottles of wine even at a high strength of 13.5% volume would be between 18-20 units.

The diet is just better for the thirst though

No, she's right.

6-7 pints is also not giving ‘relaxed way to pull together a roast, haven’t even eaten yet’ either though, is it

OP, sounds like you’re in a very emotional situation with your split being very recent.

lots of people react emotionally in this situation - drink more than they usually would for a while, and/or comfort eat, anxiety-not-eat.

be kind to yourself. Loads of alcohol, often, is not a good idea for all the reasons you know.

but keeping going on the wine as a one-off - not the end of the world xx

Oh OP, you made a daft mistake and we’ve all done that in our own way before. Even the pearl clutchers will have messed-up at some point.

I don’t think you’re an alcoholic, I just think you’ve had a tough time recently, needed a release, and had too much.

Hope you feel better tomorrow, don’t be too hard on yourself. No one was hurt, nothing bad happened, your hangover will pass.

Because it was nice wine.

Have I won a prize?

At least you were at home. I had 7 glasses of wine at an all day event last year.
My bmi is low, plus I'm an occasional drinker, no tolerance, never again, missing huge memory gaps from the day, luckily I was with family.
It scared me.
I haven't been drunk since.

I like to cook with wine… I’ll even put some in the food

Hopefully the hangover passes soon, I find good food, lots of hydration, a long soak and an early night help, although easier said then done with kids!