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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To ask what you do for work?

204 replies

Biscoffnutellatoast · 26/07/2025 14:51

I’m early 20’s, and to be honest am a bit stuck on career choices. My dream is to become a forensic psychologist, however the current job market in this subject is terrible, and I’m paranoid about wasting time and money, over several years for a degree/s which I will end up not using!

AIBU to ask what your career is?

OP posts:
baggyleggings · 26/07/2025 20:10

Secondary teacher with management roles. I earn £60k and love my work. Particularly right now when I’ve got the whole summer off with my family.

MidoriNoRingo · 26/07/2025 20:14

Deputy of a secure children’s home.

What do the teachers hate so much about teaching? I’ve been thinking of going into it myself.

PeterPansFlight · 26/07/2025 20:17

I used to be a secondary science teacher. Now I'm a short haul airline pilot. Best job in the world. So glad I switched. It took a lot of guts to quit and retrain, and it was no walk in the park either, especially being female with a young family.
I did it though, and I encourage anyone out there to follow your dream. Don't let anything get in your way.

Caggy90 · 26/07/2025 20:19

Senior leader in a high school turned SAHM.

Don’t teach if you want to work to live rather than live to work. I have also felt a lot of guilt when it seemed like I was focusing on the development of my pupils far more than my own kids’.

LeedsZebra90 · 26/07/2025 20:30

Civil servant in a really interesting department (imo!), I've done lots of different roles across 3 different departments so if you aren't sure what you want to do it's a great place to be to move around and try different things. Senior enough to have the flexibility to run my teams how I want and take on projects that interest me but not toooo senior that the pressure of responsiblity is too much - sideways moves have really paid off in terms of career progression which is something that wasn't really on my radar when I first entered the working world.

LittlleMy · 26/07/2025 20:32

PeterPansFlight · 26/07/2025 20:17

I used to be a secondary science teacher. Now I'm a short haul airline pilot. Best job in the world. So glad I switched. It took a lot of guts to quit and retrain, and it was no walk in the park either, especially being female with a young family.
I did it though, and I encourage anyone out there to follow your dream. Don't let anything get in your way.

Edited

May I ask why you switched? The two are so unrelated! Was flying maybe a hobby first?

jjeoreo · 26/07/2025 20:33

glassof · 26/07/2025 16:28

I am a researcher for health inequality in early years. I love it, pay isn't amazing.

Sounds fascinating!

jjeoreo · 26/07/2025 20:33

LittlleMy · 26/07/2025 20:32

May I ask why you switched? The two are so unrelated! Was flying maybe a hobby first?

You're amazing. I'm terrified of flying.

jjeoreo · 26/07/2025 20:34

Btowngirl · 26/07/2025 19:02

Military nurse!

Also sounds great!

Stephanie2018 · 26/07/2025 20:34

Occupational therapist , it’s nice sometimes but stressful

PeterPansFlight · 26/07/2025 20:37

LittlleMy · 26/07/2025 20:32

May I ask why you switched? The two are so unrelated! Was flying maybe a hobby first?

It started as a hobby first yes. I got my PPL whilst I was teaching and met a lot of airline pilots through my hobby. At that point I was thinking about leaving teaching anyway, so I just thought ...why not?
Always an interesting story over drinks. People are always so surprised about the switch. I call it a mid life crisis 😜.

FilthyforFirth · 26/07/2025 20:37

I'm a change programme manager for a public sector transport org. I love it, my job makes a huge difference and I get to do a lot of different things. I am well paid now, but only since I became a programme manager, less so as a project manager! I would recommend.

LavenderHaze19 · 26/07/2025 20:38

MrsPinkCock · 26/07/2025 17:44

Lawyer. I wouldn’t say don’t do it, but I would say go into it with your eyes open, and pick the right kind of firm, as there are so many toxic firms/partnerships out there that are founded on pure greed.

Love my current job! But I’ve had a couple of shitty ones too.

I’d echo this. I think law can be an ok choice if you’re shrewd about the kind of law you do and the kind of employer you choose. I hate my job, though (I was not shrewd about the law I picked or the employer I chose.)

Glitchymn1 · 26/07/2025 20:40

Fraud manager for a LA.
Love it on the whole, flexible hours, work from home.
I was previously in benefits and head of housing-
both thankless jobs.

CoffeeCakeAndALattePlease · 26/07/2025 20:40

Social worker (in fostering).
14 years in so far and still really enjoy my work…. hoping I can keep this career going until retirement.

LittlleMy · 26/07/2025 20:40

PeterPansFlight · 26/07/2025 20:37

It started as a hobby first yes. I got my PPL whilst I was teaching and met a lot of airline pilots through my hobby. At that point I was thinking about leaving teaching anyway, so I just thought ...why not?
Always an interesting story over drinks. People are always so surprised about the switch. I call it a mid life crisis 😜.

Ah fascinating - you’re v brave in more ways than one! If I were you, I’d always be looking for excuses to meet new people just so when the inevitable ‘what do you do then’ Q comes up, I could dazzle them with my answer! I’d never tire of basking in their awe haha 😅

Summer19 · 26/07/2025 20:42

Archaeologist, post excavation work. I love it, best job in the world. Well paid when you specialise.

DelphiniumDoreen · 26/07/2025 20:47

Florist

Love it in lots of ways but hate parts of it. Will never be rich.

If I had my time again I would do something in the Civil Service. MI5 or something like that and build a decent career with a decent pension.

Cucy · 26/07/2025 20:48

Why do you want to be a forensic psychologist?

Is it the forensic side or psychologist side?

I used to work in prisons and I absolutely loved it!

But it’s a job you either love or hate and I would recommend getting some prison experience before you base your career around it.

Its also a very frustrating job as the system does not work and you are constantly fighting against a broken system, trying to help people that have usually already been failed and knowing that the system is going to fail them again and they’ll be back inside.

However, I am not a psychologist and so their experience of prisons may be a lot different.

I now work with teens who are at risk of being arrested.
Its fantastic but it’s mentally draining and not good money and so not a long term solution.

Before this I trained to be a secondary school teacher and worked with teens who’d been expelled.
I loved it and it was better money (and holidays) but again mentally draining and a lot of work.

Being a forensic psychologist is a fantastic career but it’s quite a narrow field (although you can branch out) if you don’t like working with offenders.

I would definitely get some forensic experience and perhaps look at careers in the police as they have psychologists too and I believe they’re paid better.

If it’s psychology you’re interested in but not sure about the forensic part then I would look into becoming a clinical psychologist and then doing extra training to be a forensic one, as being a clinical psychologist gives you much more freedom to move fields, although I’ve heard it’s incredibly difficult to get into.

What courses or jobs have you done?

DelphiniumDoreen · 26/07/2025 20:49

Honeydewmelon123 · 26/07/2025 19:49

NHS specialist Dietitian- don’t do it.

In fact, don’t work in the NHS - crap pay, political, lots of people would through you under the bus to look after themselves, no lunch breaks, expected to work over time unpaid, difficult to get any annual leave you want.

Patients are wonderful to work with and I adore that but hate everything else about working in the NHS.

Plenty of this in private sector!

Saharafordessert · 26/07/2025 20:50

Sports therapist…..very physical and by Friday I’m shattered but honestly the best job ever!
Im self employed so flexible to an extent and I’m in charge of my own diary. You must love exercise, movement, sweating and people!

Blushingm · 26/07/2025 20:51

District Nurse - thankless job

hellohellooo · 26/07/2025 20:51

BCBird · 26/07/2025 16:39

Teacher of 31 years. Retired early last week. Don't do it. Having a rest then going to.find a part time job

Well you have done amazing !!!!

sodthebloodypicnics · 26/07/2025 20:52

Doctor

don’t do it

Cucy · 26/07/2025 20:59

MidoriNoRingo · 26/07/2025 20:14

Deputy of a secure children’s home.

What do the teachers hate so much about teaching? I’ve been thinking of going into it myself.

I found it mentally draining, in particular the work load.

I actually loved the kids and although teenage attitude is a lot, it’s something I could deal with.

It’s the fact that you are ‘on’ all day and instead of just having to focus on a handful of people, you are having to focus on 30 people at one time.

Even at break times you are on duty or rushing around getting work marked etc.

On top of that you are having to plan and deliver good lessons that are constantly being critiqued by ofsted etc. If you’re doing a good job then you’re still constantly pushed to do more.

There was never a day where I had done everything I needed to do.
There was always something that needed to be done and you are constantly just spinning plates.

I was a good teacher and enjoyed it and if I didn’t have DC then I would still be doing it but I was coming home mentally exhausted and it was just too much.

I wouldn’t say don’t do it because there are pros to it and you can always go into other careers with the teaching degree but I definitely wasn’t expecting it to be as draining as it is.