Furious at DH and his friend bringing someone back to our house

[TiredSaturdayy]

My DH’s friend is staying for the weekend. He lives about 4 hours away and they only see each other once a year. This is perfectly fine with me as I usually get on well with him.

Last night, they both went out into town to catch up. DH got into bed about 1am, I sleep lightly so was woken but soon got to sleep. His friend is staying in our spare bedroom.

I am woken by noises shortly after. I wake DH and ask if he can hear them. He says there’s something he needs to tell me and that his friend met a women in the last bar they were in and INVITED HER HOME! So the noises were infact them ‘at it’ in my spare bedroom.

I go ballistic at DH and ask why he thought this was acceptable. Our DC is away this weekend which is beyond the point. Completely irresponsible to allow a stranger into our house in those circumstances.

I tell DH that if he doesn’t ask her to leave then I will. He says he’ll message his friend. No reply. He’s about to get up and knock on the door when we hear it open and his friend sees her out and she eventually leaves.

DH is asleep still now, I am downstairs absolutely aghast at their behaviour. If he thinks I am sorting out the fry up they kept on about before they went out then they’ve another thing coming.

If I heard the next morning that a woman had been all over the friend but DH had said she couldn’t come back, I’d be annoyed with him about that! Everyone’s having fun and I’d enjoy the gossip the next day.

I would be worried how they behave when out together. Your DH obviously thinks it’s normal behaviour.
If I saw my friend once a year and they ignored me to chat up a stranger and bring them back to my house, I would not be impressed.

I personally think you sound like the fun police. I'm presuming nothing or nobody was harmed or stolen. Your drunk DH made a bit of a silly drunken decision by letting them, there's nothing more to it than that. Some of these responses are so dramatic.

That's all very well, but there certainly wasn't enthusiastic consent from the op for a friend of her dh and a random woman to shag in her house, in the room next door, no less. No wonder she's fuming!

^Think is often used as a noun in Britain, where this expression originated. You'll hear people say, "I had a good think this morning," for example. The confusion of think with thing is largely an American phenomenon, because speakers of American English rarely use think as a noun. But the beauty of another think coming is its implication of deep contemplation: you may have given the subject some thought, but you reached the incorrect conclusion and need to think about it some more. It's a more interesting way of saying, "You're wrong about that, and you should reconsider."^

Exactly! We often say "I'll have a think about it..." or "I'll have another think and get back to you..."

You answered your own question! It wasn't in the friends house, it was in his hosts house and the OP didn't consent to having a total stranger brought over so the the friend could have sex. Of course if the friend took her back to his own house it would be absolutely ok.

OP, you’re massively overreacting. From the title of your thread I would have thought you’d walked in on all three of them at it. I couldn’t get het up about hearing guests “at it”.

Another thing coming is a case of mishearing becoming misspelling, and it's easy to understand why if you say another think coming out loud.

No this isn't ok. If they were 19 and living in digs then absolutely ', but this is an abuse of your hospitality. You know nothing about her, you have kids and he crossed a line. I'd kick him out and I'd be furious with my husband. Just shows they never grow up.

Well a different scenario is not this scenario is it! It is disrespectful for a friend to bring back a stranger to have sex with in someone else’s house without their (OP’s) permission. Would you do that?

I know what think again means 🤦‍♀️ I do not need to reconsider

No, they're not accepted and not fine. Its wrong!!

When I hear people say 'another thing coming' I know they're not well versed or knowledgeable and if they argue until they're blue in the face about it, despite it being explained why its 'think' and why that makes logical sense and 'thing' does not make logical sense, I know they're not very smart.

If the person was asking after having a shag in my guest room?

No just point them to the front gate.

Which ‘guests’ you mean the total stranger who OP didn’t invite?

I’d be concerned she was too drunk to make a decision honestly - it is ridiculously risky behaviour

I did a lot of risky things in my 20s, but even when very young and very drunk, I knew better than to go off with multiple strange men by myself to an unknown second location!

Wrong!

If you think it’s ok to say that, you’ve another think coming.

Using ‘thing’ instead makes zero sense. 😂

Women are allowed to be angry. We are all allowed to be angry. So, Mrs Calm, is it you it your husband who’d strip the bed and wash the jizz-stained sheets?

OP, you’ve every right to be angry. This is so disrespectful. And you know who’s stripping the bed? Not you.

I agree. The saying is another think because you need to rethink what you are doing (or intending on doing). It has nothing to do with ‘things’. It’s like people insisting would of is just as acceptable as would have because they sound similar in speech.

@Anchorage56 what on earth was that lady thinking going off with 2 men ?
I am assuming she doesn’t know either of them .
What a risk to take ..

It's your husband's fault for condoning it. Maybe even encouraging it?

In his drunk state, trying to act all cool. 'Yeah, bring her back, the Mrs won't mind, yeah it'll be awesome, go for it mate...'

Else I don't see how it could've happened without his approval.

My lodger used to bring strange men to the house quite a bit. And then they'd stand in my kitchen in their greying calvins using my cooker and saucepans making a fry up at 9am?! Grrr...

So yeah, it's out of order for sure. But don't so much blame the mate, or the woman he brought back. It's your husband's fault fully in my view.

And you are under arrest😁

It’s think.

That's gross! Was it a sx worker?! If she upped and left that quick.

These are all good reasons for a woman not to go back to a house with two strange men.

But it doesn't follow that the men are being disrespectful in agreeing for her to come back, in a situation where i) they don't intend to act this way (and indeed don't), and ii) she enthusiastically consents.

You are making a massive and quite basic logical error

So may options

Wooden spoon
Smack to the back of the head
Slipper
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https://youtube.com/shorts/rAvzIso-lwM?si=F0Y5GFENPl0Xp6X1

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Even my sons let me know when their gf’s are staying over and this is their home. It’s called respect.

FFS! Just because a woman wants some no strings attached sex it doesn't automatically mean she's under the influence of anything!
It means she wants sex!