Furious at DH and his friend bringing someone back to our house

[TiredSaturdayy]

My DH’s friend is staying for the weekend. He lives about 4 hours away and they only see each other once a year. This is perfectly fine with me as I usually get on well with him.

Last night, they both went out into town to catch up. DH got into bed about 1am, I sleep lightly so was woken but soon got to sleep. His friend is staying in our spare bedroom.

I am woken by noises shortly after. I wake DH and ask if he can hear them. He says there’s something he needs to tell me and that his friend met a women in the last bar they were in and INVITED HER HOME! So the noises were infact them ‘at it’ in my spare bedroom.

I go ballistic at DH and ask why he thought this was acceptable. Our DC is away this weekend which is beyond the point. Completely irresponsible to allow a stranger into our house in those circumstances.

I tell DH that if he doesn’t ask her to leave then I will. He says he’ll message his friend. No reply. He’s about to get up and knock on the door when we hear it open and his friend sees her out and she eventually leaves.

DH is asleep still now, I am downstairs absolutely aghast at their behaviour. If he thinks I am sorting out the fry up they kept on about before they went out then they’ve another thing coming.

I can hear my mother's voice shouting at my brother,

'If you think you can treat this house like a knocking shop, you've got another think coming', after him bringing a young lady back.

Happy days.

Agree with all points.
How am I supposed to get the housework done with this thread needing checking ?

I’m supposed to be doing Joe Wicks right now! 😂 (Well…not “doing him” in the same way OP’s guest did…doing his fitness video.)

So the lodger wasn't allowed a personal life? I mean, it's different when the person lives there, surely?

@PuppyMonkeyat the risk of derailing the thread, you are quite wrong, it is “think”.

https://www.merriam-webster.com/grammar/usage-another-think-coming-or-another-thing-coming#:~:text=It%20probably%20originated%20in%20speech,suspiciously%20like%20%22thing%20coming.%22
Webster's dictionary
It's the exact opposite of what that poster thinks. Originated as think. Travelled to USA where it it got misheard as thing. That's the eggcorn. So it's used differently on each side of the Atlantic.
Being on the originating side , Think is what I've always heard said.

The phrase is ‘If you think X, then you’ve got another think coming’. ‘
It’s the same as saying ‘If you think X, then think again’.
‘Thing’ is the mis-hearing.

Oh dear. If you think I’m wrong, you’ve got another think coming, my friend.

Have another little think about it and you’ll realise thing makes no sense and misses the amusing play on words of this idiom completely.

Sorry for derailing the thread OP.

Hmm the woman went home with 2 men, safe in the knowledge from her football mum friend that the man she wasn't intending to have sex with was a family man with a wife at home. Rather than go with just one stranger to a hotel. Sounds like she chose the safest option and you could consider that OP facilitated a night of pleasure for her that could never have happened otherwise 😃 and to those saying why not her house - her kids might have been at home with a babysitter. Maybe you did someone a massive favour, inadvertently.

Your dh has turned my stomach for saying that. Bleugh,

It really isn't. That wouldn't even make sense, if you thing about it. (See what I mean?)

Sorry OP for the derail.
If I had been woken up by the sound of someone having sex in the room next door, I'd be bloody fuming.

In which case it was down to her to provide the accommodation, not to go back to her pick-up's friend's home. That is quite disrespectful.

I hope you tell the friend he was out of order, I am surprised your husband went along with it.

It’s definitely thing.

nonsense! It is think.
I'd be more annoyed with my dh if he described a woman as "mad for it" than I would be at a single bloke wanting to bring the woman back to his mate's house.

Never in my life have I heard “think” coming? Is it a regional variation?

No, it's literally the only way the phrase makes sense!

YANBU. I wouldn’t go ballistic but I would be seriously pissed off and unimpressed. I would go out for my own breakfast and expect them to sort the dirty sheets out.

And it is definitely THINK not THING.

How are so many people so unaware of basic sayings.

Im going ballistic about that!!!

Oh my god, the ‘thing’ and ‘think’ argument is boring and ruining the thread. Maybe just agree to disagree? It’s every other post ffs.

Welcome to Mumsnet, where we talk about what we want to talk about.

This is from Vocabulary.com, which explains it quite well.

another think coming" vs. "another thing coming"
If you think you know this idiom, you have another think coming!
Rather than being a freestanding phrase, another think coming is really the conclusion of a longer colloquial expression about being sorely mistaken, as in "If she thinks she's going to be allowed to stay out past her curfew, she's got another think coming." That first "If she thinks…" clause is essential for the "another think" part to make sense.
These examples show how the repetition of think sets up a cause and effect, what programmers would call an "if-then" statement:
If she'd thought she was going to be asked to sit down, she had another think coming. (A Long Way from Chicago)
Similarly, if any bright spark in the Treasury thinks that the last budget flopped because of poor presentation, they've got another think coming. (The Guardian)
Another thing coming is a case of mishearing becoming misspelling, and it's easy to understand why if you say another think coming out loud. Thing is a useful word, but its flexibility is a liability here — it could refer to almost anything. In the examples below, what thing do they have coming? A picnic? A rhinoceros? A bad case of chickenpox? The word thing is too vague for the reader to tell.
If he thinks I'm going to sit around crying over him, he's got another thing coming. (The Girl on the Train)
If European leaders were expecting him to be humbled, they had another thing coming. (New York Times)
Think is often used as a noun in Britain, where this expression originated. You'll hear people say, "I had a good think this morning," for example. The confusion of think with thing is largely an American phenomenon, because speakers of American English rarely use think as a noun. But the beauty of another think coming is its implication of deep contemplation: you may have given the subject some thought, but you reached the incorrect conclusion and need to think about it some more. It's a more interesting way of saying, "You're wrong about that, and you should reconsider."

Here's a Guardian article about it. You're definitely not alone using "thing", but think was the original usage
www.theguardian.com/media/mind-your-language/2014/nov/18/mind-your-language-another-think#:~:text=But%20surely%20to%20think%20something,fist%20in%20an%20idiot's%20face.”

Did you make the fry-up?

It's the only thing (ha) I've retained about the whole post.