Being told I can’t drink out of certain mugs

[ThePerkyCoralPoet]

I’m staying at my parents house and my dad has said “don’t drink out of my mug that’s the only one I can find that’s like this so you can’t have it drink from your own” so I said “you’re pathetic and this is exactly why you and I will never see eye to eye. Because you behave like a child”

I made my tea in another mug and never bothered speaking to him for the rest of my time here.

I suggest people read OP's previous threads for a little more context on her personality.

The username rang a bell and just a quick pass over her recent threads shows many a red flag.

1. Slapping a guy she just started seeing (but it's fine cause she's short and not strong)
2. Considering changing her therapist because she was told to set her own reminder to pay for her appointment
3. Issues with colleagues
4. Was rude to an older woman in a supermarket, then ranted at her and ended by condescendingly calling her 'darling'
5. And now being terribly unkind and nasty enough to call her father 'pathetic' over and over for no good reason and purposely ignoring the ice creams he bought just to be spiteful.

Is it just me or is this place full of shockingly self-centered posters lacking in maturity and empathy recently? First the emotionally abusive girlfriend this morning and now this.

It’s really not. I have my own mug at my mums. She has her own mug at mine. It has a thin lip and is a certain shape. I don’t let anybody use it when she isn’t here. It’s a genuine thing and even if it weren’t, having respect for other people’s things in their home is.

I bicker because if I’m honest it would take too long to provide him with the list of reasons we don’t get along

I don't understand why you've chosen to live in his house if it's so bad. You must be causing quite an unpleasant atmosphere.

I’m ngl, you sound like a horrible person here. Really petulant and childish. It’s clear you still resent him for your parent’s separation. Your Mum forgave him though. Holding this grudge must be poisoning the family dynamic. Your behaviour is very unhealthy and you should seek therapy for it.

Wow, what a deeply unpleasant person. How can anyone go through life like that?

I remember that therapist thread!

Is OP playing a long con on MN or does she really have no self-awareness?

You're outraged with and judging your dad on behalf of your mum for something that happened years ago (when they split up). You seem to be taking the role of Mother Protector. Their relationship (and the reasons they got back together) is for them, not for you to weigh into. Your mum made a decision to get back together with him for some reason(s) - have you ever asked her, calmly and in a neutral environment, what made her return? For the remainder of the time that they're putting you up/while your renovations are being done, just be out of the house as much as humanly possible.

You're coming across entitled and bratty - maybe have a look at the comments in this thread and the votes, and have a good old naval gaze at why you're so affronted and triggered by him/by the whole scenario.

I have mugs I give to visitors, if they get broken I’m not upset because it’s not one of my favourites 🤷‍♀️

Your poor mother, being stuck between the two of you.

So you presumably harbor resentment towards your Mum as well, because she got back together with your Dad?
What a mess. Why on earth are you staying with them?

I was going to ask how old you were as well because the way you keep going on and on about you don’t get along with him like you’re expecting a prize or something.

its fine if you don’t get along with him, stay away from him and move on, I’m not really sure shag you want from this thread. Your reaction to the mug is massively OTT and you the irony of you keep saying he is acting like a child is that you’re also acting like a petulant child.

I’m not saying your dad hasn’t done anything to upset you but your reaction and your reponses here come across as immature and emotional.

Ah this definitely sheds more light about her attitude and her weird childish responses here.

I worked with someone I didn’t particularly gel with until he came into my office one day, opened the kitchen cupboard and asked which mug he could use to make himself a drink. At that point I realised he was my kind of person! Mug etiquette is so important.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Were you stamping your feet whilst you said that?

You’re lucky you had mum and dad to run back too, most of us grown ups don’t do that, they stay and deal with the renovations.

I am sure that your parents will be glad to see the back of you.

Makes sense now….

Thanks for the heads up.

He's not the one that's pathetic. Or rude or just plain horrible.

its normal to have favourite mugs that belong to set people. You're the one being weird & rude here.

Everyone else here thinks it makes sense and you’re the childish one. You sound like you could argue with a brick wall.

Wow. Just wow. I have more mature children than you ‘eat them yourself!!’ And my eldest is 10.

Don't be daft, you can live in a minimalist house & still have a favourite mug 🙄🙄🙇🏻‍♀️

He was bang on the money with that name. You sound truly awful. I would be ashamed of how I had raised you and wouldn’t have let you stay

👍🏻some people coukdnt get in with their shadow.

I think he was perfectly within his rights to ask you not to use his favourite mug in his home tbh. Just use another mug instead of starting a pointless fight.

Sounds like you purposely set little traps to prove your point to yourself. Wanting to use his mug so you can suggest he doesn’t treat you like a daughter when he says not to use it - and you know damn well you could just use another mug yet you don’t want to do you? Lots of people have pointed out that it’s not uncommon for people to have a favourite mug. You are being childish here, maybe perhaps deep down you’re desperate for him to treat you like a child/daughter still, maybe because he didn’t at some point in the past op or the issues you still have started back then - it’s reasonable he treats you as an adult these days. Sounds like a bit of therapy might help you here.

Team dad.

You have a massive chip on your shoulder.