Being told I can’t drink out of certain mugs

[ThePerkyCoralPoet]

I’m staying at my parents house and my dad has said “don’t drink out of my mug that’s the only one I can find that’s like this so you can’t have it drink from your own” so I said “you’re pathetic and this is exactly why you and I will never see eye to eye. Because you behave like a child”

I made my tea in another mug and never bothered speaking to him for the rest of my time here.

My ex-husband is so horrible to his stepfather. He purposely antagonizes him all the time. And he never did anything wrong except marry my ex's mother. That's literally all he did.

I always felt so bad for my mother-in-law because it must be really hurtful for my ex to be so mean to the man that she chose to marry and has been married to for over 40 years. But some people are just immature douchebags.

You never mentioned him being a bully in your op so how are we meant to know that?

Also, just because you think he's a bully it doesn't mean you're not also a bully.

This applies for anything. You have very binary thinking. Life isn't that simple, two people can both be childish, both be unreasonable, both me awkward etc

@ThePerkyCoralPoet

Oh, it's you again. I'd remember that username and er ... unique posting style anywhere.

You have quite a long and tortured storied history on MN of all your fall-outs. Is there anyone in your life that you DO get on with?

In reference to him calling you a bitch; even if he has, which is rotten, if this is the dynamic of your relationship, you are choosing to stay there. Out of respect you should treat him with the same politeness you would anyone else.

I am starting to see a trend with some women in their late twenties behaving similarly, a sort of post teenage brat, mocking those who have spent their own lives raising them.

Deeply offensive in my opinion.

100% this. You just sound really nasty

We’ve always been a family where we all have our own mugs (even my parents, and regular visitors) and then there are a few others.

It’s a respect thing. If I’m making my daughter a hot drink, I know which mug she likes for tea, coffee or hot blackcurrant (she probably hasn’t had hot blackcurrant for ten years) She doesn’t even live here anymore, she has her own house where they have their own mugs and separate ones for guests

I think it’s normal. Glasses however are all the same and no one has personal feeling towards any.

You do realize, right, that you were far ruder than he was, right?

This is hilarious, you are an absolute brat and honestly need a reality check!

Further, there seems to be a thing where he had to pay for some kind of accident that she’s now resolved but wonders why he doesn’t trust her with his mug. The mug might not be valuable but when you think the person using it can’t use it without breakage, I get it.

Well from your posts is can see why he would, its an accurate description of you from what you've posted. Tbh you're really not coming across as a very nice person

I cant stand anyone drinking out my mug.

Is this the same dad you were super worried about having cancer less than a month ago? https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/_chat/5364639-having-a-major-stress-over-a-notice-of-intended-prosecution?postsby=ThePerkyCoralPoet

Or were you just using him to try to get out of a driving offence?

My parents are long gone. In my in laws house everyone has their favorite mug. I don’t have my own. I’m not too fussy as long as it’s china and white and untainted inside but I know to avoid everyone else’s favourite mug.

i think you’re overreacting.

Yeah, passive aggressive boundary pushing, I wonder if that was what @ThePerkyCoralPoet was doing?

Just stating the obvious that mugs are a very personal and sentimental item for many. My husband was gifted a handmade mug and although he has never said I couldn't use it, I wouldn't as it's his mug. I would feel terrible if I broke a gift from his best friend and he would be pissed too.

@ThePerkyCoralPoet

You might not feel whether you want children or not is relevant to this post but you are so angry with your dad. You are late 20s so might want children in the future. If you don't work through this issue it could affect your relationship with your children.

Have you thought about having some counselling?

It is not childish to have your own mug

You sound like a complete nightmare OP.

If you despise him so much, don't expect him to put you up whilst you have work done. It's hypocritical.

I have 2 mugs that are mine alone, a big Pooh Bear hug mug for tea & a glass mug for herbal & lemon tea, nobody ever touches them. I still have my own mug at my mum's, my dad's mug is still in the cupboard even though he passed away nearly 7 years ago.

I have a small collection of cups and mugs. They are all up for grabs. Except 'my' mug. A friend used it once, obvs I didn't say anything at the time but I felt quite a visceral tug ! Now she knows, She thinks it's sweet. And agrees that it is, indeed, a very nice mug. But OP yes YATAH in this situation (same as YABU but stinkier)

From what I can gather she’s a school teacher. Those poor students if they inadvertently say the wrong thing!

Does anybody actually believe this is a real post? If it is the OP needs serious and immediate therapy, obviously. But it's not.

OP also has a favourite mug she doesn't let anyone use!! 😂

But it's different with her dad you see because his special mug isn't as special as her special mug.

I feel sorry for your dad, I bet he can do no right and you sound a petty nightmare and a petulant child.

I can’t be serious that I resent my father in the time him and my mum weren’t together, because she found someone more aligned to her? then he suddenly started to realise he made a mistake

You resent him, you don't get on with him, you don't like him, yet you are
prepared to avail yourself of his hospitality when it suits you - and also feel it's acceptable to insult him in his own home. You are causing discord in their household. You need to leave. You are too old to be acting the rebellious teenager.