Being told I can’t drink out of certain mugs

[ThePerkyCoralPoet]

I’m staying at my parents house and my dad has said “don’t drink out of my mug that’s the only one I can find that’s like this so you can’t have it drink from your own” so I said “you’re pathetic and this is exactly why you and I will never see eye to eye. Because you behave like a child”

I made my tea in another mug and never bothered speaking to him for the rest of my time here.

Don’t mind me, I’m just here for a giggle.

DH is like this with his mugs and his cups. It’s irritating and fussy and a part of who he is but I just let him get on with it. I’m the same with my Yeti travel mug - touch it at your peril!

OP we all have these little irritating foibles - just ignore and choose another mug.

I agree with other posters though - you have a dysfunctional relationship by the sounds of it. What are you two like otherwise?

Just RTFT - you both sound as difficult as one another! Why say that about the ice-cream when he’s gone out of his way to do something nice for you? Are you a teenager? Genuine question by the way - not being sarcastic.

OP, what do you actually want from this thread? You clearly think you're in the right and expect everyone to agree with you, and the mug thing is so petty I can't even believe you bothered starting a thread about it. Your dad doesn't want anyone else using his favourite mug, so bloody what? It's not like he's told you you can't drink out of any of their mugs. At first I thought there must be something deeper going on and the mug was some kind of last straw, but then I got to the bit about the ice cream and you seemed to think your juvenile behaviour was hilarious and expected us to agree and applaud, and I lost any inclination I might have had to try and work out why the mug thing bothered you so much. You and your dad might not get on but from the sounds of it he tried to do something nice for you and you threw it back in his face, that tells us a lot about you.

Late twenties? You sound more late teens, except a lot of people in their late teens treat their parents better than this. Unless there's some major backstory here, might I suggest you grow the hell up?

@ThePerkyCoralPoet kindly, but you are making a mountain out of a molehill.

I have a favourite mug and I don’t want anyone using it.

It’s like you having a favourite item and not wanting anyone using it xx

you're not the type of daughter i would want staying at my house.

It is perfectly normal for people to have mug preferences. I have a tea mug and a coffee mug for complicated reasons that i don't need to go into. NOBODY uses them, not because i'm hugely posessive, but because my family know my tea/coffee drinking preferences.

Go NC/LC and spare him more of your Kevin-the-teenager-style petulance

So basically you wanted to use his mug just to pkiss him off and show him you don't care. You sound about 2.

OP: 'AIBU?'

Everyone: 'YES you are!'

OP: 'No, I'm not! You're all wrong, and you're all such rotten meanies! Waaaaaaaaah! '😢

@ThePerkyCoralPoet YABVVVU. And very childish.

Tbh you sound childish and pathetic too.

I don’t understand why you posted on mumsnet. It is quite normal for people to have favourite mugs- there is obviously a backstory about you and your dad and you don’t think YABU even though most people think you are!

He’s childish and pathetic.

Must be genetic.

But surely him getting you the ice creams was a kind gesture?

You sound like my 3 year old but less reasonable.

He did not ask you to drink out of certain mugs, just not to drink from his

Wow! You're accusing him of being childish???

You need to respect the fact that he’s asked you not to drink out of his mug- it’s not that hard. Him being your dad or not you have to respect it- simple.
just coz he’s your dad doesn’t mean you can be a brat and anyway like you said your relationship isn’t great with him so why you wanting to drink out of his mug or why had it affected you so much. Remember you are in his house. He’s not in yours. So be respectful to your elders!!

You sound insufferable

You’d be out a lot bloody sooner than that if you were my daughter

We always had particular mugs when I was growing up. I'm 48 and my parents still make me a drink in mine when I visit.

He went out of his way to get you icecream that you’ve wanted for ages. Your response should have been thanks, not I don’t want them anymore. Honestly Op you need to have a rethink.

Both my parents had their favourite mugs……in fact Dad wouldn’t drink out of a regular pottery one, it had to be a china mug or a proper cup and saucer. That was his way and we all respected his choices.
I also have a couple of favourites, one is only ever used for coffee and no one else uses.
At other people’s houses I’m not fussed what they serve tea or coffee in, as long as it’s clean……why would it matter otherwise?
There’s clearly more to your relationship with your father than all this fuss about his mug.
Why not try being an adult and live & let live? We all have our own peculiar little ways I’m sure and I bet you do and say stuff that really gets under your dads skin.
FWIW I lost my Dad 10 years ago and I would give everything to be able to enjoy just one more cuppa with him 😔

You are being incredibly immature.

Gosh, theres a lot more going on here than just a mug issue.

For what it's worth my dad has his own mug at my house, that I bought! But it's his favourite and I only give it to him. Even my children know that it's grandad's cup, because it has a rabbit on it and he loved his late rabbit.

I have pity that you have such a poor relationship with your dad :(

Would you be annoyed if your Dad drank from that fine China one and more importantly would he try to? I bet he wouldn’t clearly with you saying earlier he went and bought you ice creams you’ve wanted to try he cares for you, it doesn’t seem mutual. Btw in our house we all have our own personal mugs. There are guest mugs even to the point some frequent visitors have been bought their own specific mugs and I have mugs in their homes. It’s not unusual and I wouldn’t be happy if someone tried to use mine certainly wouldn’t use someone else’s no need to

But Op is exactly the same. Suspect he is worried she would purposely break it.
We all have our own mugs, nobody would dream of using the others including adult children.