To quite like being fat?

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There was one time that i was 9 stone. This year i am the heaviest i have ever been.

Every week for that last year i have been thinking that i must lose weight, and i have been trying every diet , and thinking about food all the time.

I was so stressed from it all that i decided to give myself and not think about dieting for one month.

I was just thinking this month, I quite emjoy being fat. Im not morbidly obese, i am fat.

I feel nice and warm and cozy

When i was thin, i rememember feeling cold and having low energy a lot.

Has anyone else felt the same?

Glad you feel happy. I just cannot understand it myself - by then I don’t need to.

See, I agree it’s better to be a healthy weight if you can, but I absolutely have less energy now that I’m slim than I did when I was bigger, and although I was quite fat I’m also very compact so I never had trouble fitting comfortably into seats or anything. Not everyone has the same experience of fatness.

I understand that completely.
I was at a point a few years ago where the only jeans I could buy that fit properly were age 12-13 from the kids section in New Look 🥴🥴🥴 and that still didn’t click in my head that a healthy, adult woman is supposed have a little bit of chub around the hips and bum.
I was also cold ALL the time. Like uncomfortably cold, even in the house with the central heating on.
I saw a picture of myself, where I was wearing a vest top, and had my arms up holding the camera selfie-style and you could see every bone in my shoulders, clavicle and breastbone. I was disgusted by how I looked.
Even now I’m bigger and miles healthier, I see pictures of curvier women like Christina Hendricks and I think she’s one of the most beautiful women on the planet…..but I know that if I gained enough weight to have those kind of curves? My brain would spiral into that horrible place of thinking I was enormous 🤦🏻‍♀️ I don’t think I’ll ever truly snap out of my warped sense of body image. The damage was done too long ago and at way too young of an age 😔 Now I’ve made it my mission to make sure my daughters never, ever feel the way I did. I never let them hear me say anything negative about my body out loud.

Well no, I didn’t say they did, I thought that was clear when I said “I’ve go more energy” and “I’m not at risk of weight related issues”.

And you said you couldn’t understand how anyone could be happy being fat. I’m just saying other people have different experiences of being fat so it’s not that hard to understand.

Yeah, I can’t understand it because whatever your experience of being overweight is, life is so much easier being a healthy weight. The world is geared up for slimmer people. Plus you don’t have the added worry of developing weight related illnesses.

Your experience. Other people’s might vary. That’s the point.

The world does cater for smaller bodies, rather than large and you aren’t at risk of weight related issues if you have a smaller body. Those are facts, regardless of your experience of being overweight.

How do you get your shoulders into smaller stuff? Probably a stupid question but I am a similar build and my shoulders haven’t fitted smaller than a size 14 since before puberty
I come from a family of (all male relatives) heavyweight boxers, swimmers and wrestlers

I see this threads brought out all the ‘massive salad’ ‘small chicken to last 6 dinners’ crew 😂

There are a couple of things I enjoy about being fat. Having boobs is one. I was flat chested when I was slim. Went from somewhere between A and B cup to D - double D when I was really overweight. Now I'm just a few pounds over BMI but the D cups remain.

I also like that I can enjoy food. I am one of the few women I know who doesn't have a really uneasy relationship with food. I love food. I have a fairly big appetite. I eat pretty healthily but a bit too much. But the joy I get from chatting with family over dinner is quite central to my life.

I do long to be slim in order to wear beautiful clothes but not enough to actually diet. I've never dieted. Never had that yoyo of thin then fat again. I do feel judged by some close friends who have very disordered eating. But I don't envy their obsession, or their disgust at fat bodies and deep down it really pisses me off that so many women live their lives constantly hungry or monitoring their intake and appetite to maintain a certain physique.

So, you think big boobs are better than small ones but are pissed off by the fact that you feel judged by people who dislike fat bodies but you long to be slim to wear nice clothes, you are a rare woman who loves food and doesn't have an uneasy relationship with food, you love eating, which you strongly associate with family connection, so you eat "a bit too much" but at least you've got boobs and are not monitoring your food intake to maintain a certain physique... ? Ok.

That's true. Your body, and of itself, doesn't make you happy, but it often reflects happiness or unhappiness. For example, consider a person who is an emotional eater who gorges on junk versus a person who eats a mostly healthy diet. The emotional eater is trying to soothe her/his unhappiness and I do think the healthy eater is more likely to be happy. OP says she is a healthy eater and exercises, so she must have a slow metabolism to be at that weight. A lot of people have that problem and it's extremely difficult for them to shift their weight. So I think OP has decided to just accept it and not stress about it, otherwise she'll be miserable. That may be what she means by being happy about it.

But you apparently look down on small boobs. How is that any better than looking down on fat? Women need to stop the self loathing over our bodies, whether small boobs, big boobs, heavy or lean. The emphasis needs to be in health, not confirming to a beauty standard.
You're right that constantly monitoring your food intake is a miserable way to live. If your friends would work out to gain some muscle they might not have to do that as much. That's what men do when they want to lose weight and they're right. They start lifting to pack on lean body mass.

I don't look down on small boobs. I used to like how clothes hung on me when I was flat chested. It's just, I never expected to have boobs, as I was flat chested until I was almost fifty. So to suddenly grow a pair was quite a novelty. And I like it.

I don't. 14 is as low as I can go on anything with structured shoulders.

Gotta love a bit of crack ..c’mon !

makes me feel stronger -okaaay..?
makes me feel Warmer (wtf it’s bloody 22 degrees atm anyway??)
It’s society innit, really- nobody cares do they , too worried bout their own bodies not strangers ??
and will be knocking it on the head come September as actually prefer being crack-free so all this has been a bit of a lark hasn’t it really !!

I mean you made a fair point OP - good for you but the dogged commitment to your ‘ cause’ after you made clear in your OP this was just your ‘ fat girl summer’ feels a bit-‘thin’ -now if you’ll pardon the pun !

Understood. Thanks.

17.52pm I am going to be fat and happy for the rest of the summer.
Then maybe i will try again in september.

And then

18.42pm I might not start the diet again in september, as i have realised how great i feel.
Fuck society expectations!

So who knows…. Perhaps by this morning the OP will pivot again and be fasting! Either way, it doesn’t sound like the happiness is particularly deep rooted if intention to start dieting in 5 weeks despite being incredibly happy and fit and strong, is flipped within 50 mins (following posters observing the contradiction in being very happy with weight but then wanting to start dieting again in 5 weeks) to “fuck it”

13 stone, 5’3 and in size 14-16 clothing? What shops?!

I have been fat and thin. I disagree with enjoying having big boobs. Much happier when they are little as can run much more easily.

I agree. I don’t want big breasts, thank you!

There is no severe western pressure to be thin, there used to be but these days there are so many fat people, walking around compared to when I was a child. There is in my culture which is Chinese at that height anything over a 10 would have you down as fat. I went to a wedding, I’m a similar height to you, just 1.5 inches taller and in the photos at a size 12 I am much fatter than any of my relatives.

Fine. You do you.

When I was fat my friend asked me if I’d had a boob job.

Lost weight and they shrank. That wasn’t too bad but they are the only part of my body with loose skin.