Partner not interested in grandchild

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I’ve a 2 year old grandchild, I’ve been with my partner 7 years, he’s not interested in slightest with him or my family tbh; all very nice when they are here, just wondered will things ever change, my grandchild is a huge part of my life, I’m scared I can’t be the nanny I want to be because of my partner .

Are you able to work more hours if he does leave?
Some of your expenses will reduce if he isn’t living with you (CT, utilities, food). Can you claim benefits if you are unable to work more hours due to health problems?
Or find other work to help cover expenses, dog walking, etc?

I agree with pp re having a chat and laying out what you are planning to do with your family, having grandchild at yours, taking them out, having overnight etc and that you have no expectations of help from him and this is non negotiable. From what you have said I don’t think he will tolerate it and it’s then simply he must move out. You have given him a choice and it’s on him! He isn’t going to have a huge personality change at this point in his life, he just doesn’t get it! Many men don’t, but they don’t react the way your partner has.

Does he work? Have hobbies? Or is he always with you? Maybe you can work round that initially so you don’t feel so stressed about it.

Good luck!

Not everyone is into kids and you knew this to be fair to him

She didn’t say she knew this in the beginning, to be fair to her!
She was with him for 4+ years before she had a grandchild. He was probably on his best behaviour with her family so she may not have known that he was merely tolerating them. Things change considerably once grandchildren arrive if you live close to them and want to play an active part in their lives.
YANBU.