Or was partner cruel and out of order?

[ConflictedBeagle]

Watching the boxing tonight with my partner, he had set up projector and we were both having a great night watching the fights leading up to the main event.

Main event comes and unfortunately I went to unplug my phone charger and accidentally switched off the projector he was using to put the boxing on a big screen.

I was mortified and felt like an absolute clown, apologized profusely. He went on about how long it would take to sort it all back out. I kept apologising, to which he was silent. I said to him that he could at least tell me it would be ok, accidents happen etc. to which his reply was "say nothing".

I just felt so awful about my stupidity and also angry at his response that I will admit I swore at him and stormed out to sit outside. He came to find me a couple of minutes later, boxing back on and asked me to come back in but I was really upset by this point so sat outside until after the boxing finished and only came in once he had gone to bed.

I feel so confused and would be so grateful for anyone's comments on the situation.
Amu thanks!

Not sure what was cruel? He over reacted and then in turn you over reacted too by swearing and storming out and refusing to come back in.

Did the 'great night' involve alcohol by any chance?

It sounds like the sort of thing that happens when at least one person is pissed.

Both of you overreacted

Sorry but you overreacted more than him. He snapped because he needed to sort out what happened and after your overreaction and him sorting it he came with a peace offering. It was your decision to continue the drama beyond

He was irritated , you kept apologising, and then sulked outside for god knows how long.
Why was he cruel?

I felt he was cruel to watch me apologizing over and over and feeling so bad with no word of comfort over what turned out to be less than 2 minutes of missed time of the fight.

Maybe I am too soft but I always reassure someone who has made a mistake and felt sad that in that moment he seemed not to care that I would have felt horrendous.

He was annoyed so didn’t immediately bend to your OTT apology, he’s allowed a moment to be frustrated. The only one swearing was you though, your behaviour was worse.

You both sound quite immature at this point!

I should add that my daughter came downstairs because she heard his raised voice and was worried and told me that before she even got to the bottom step he shouted at her to get back up without even looking at her, which really did upset and anger me. She doesn't deserve to feel anxious over something so trivial (in my opinion).

Thank you all for your replies I did genuinely want opinions so it seems I was in the wrong and thank you all for your time.

I wouldn’t allow a grown man to shout at my daughter. The rest is ridiculous from the pair of you.

Oh please. You're not getting the answers you want so you're adding a worried child to the story?

We had both had a couple but funnily enough not many! It's exactly the sort of thing that happens when people have had too much though so that's what was so shocking about it to me.

Ummm this bit changes things. Shouting at a kid isn’t OK in any way especially when they’ve been woken by two (drunk?) adults. This situation sounds depressing - where is the care for each other or for her?

Oh no please see my previous comment, I appreciate the honest replies. My daughter coming down worried added to my upset but didn't start it off. Probably explains why I didn't come round sooner though.

I'm watching gosford park and this reminds me of this,

I felt he was cruel to watch me apologizing over and over and feeling so bad with no word of comfort over what turned out to be less than 2 minutes of missed time of the fight.
Maybe I am too soft but I always reassure someone who has made a mistake and felt sad that in that moment he seemed not to care that I would have felt horrendous.

He literally bit his tongue and said say nothing. How you get cruelty from that I don't know. You're the one who swore and flounced off.

So you went and sat outside and ignored her until after he’d gone to bed? That’s not a particularly believable drip feed. And if that is true you are even more unreasonable

I don't think he shouted 'at her' - but he was in the other room and just shouted to her to go back up. He has never behaved in any intimidating manners to me or either of our children so I am sorry if my post gave that impression.

I feel like he has behaved immaturely tonight making me feel so small and stupid over a trivial matter, (but the overwhelming majority verdict is that I was the one in the wrong so I accept that) but he has never been anything other than lovely to our children.

Oh no I sent up to her which is when she told me what happened and I reassured her that I just did something silly. She was absolutely fine but I felt dreadful about it.

*went up to her

You literally just changed your story again

In what way?

You said he shouted at her and didn’t even look at her, now he shouted to go back upstairs from a different room but didn’t shout ‘at her’.

Yes that's why I corrected myself, he shouted 'to her' rather than 'at her' I would say. She told me he shouted at her to go back upstairs and said he didn't even look at her but when I think of it, he was in the living room so I think he probably shouted to her.

I wasn't there to see but I can't believe for a minute he would have shouted at her but will if course double check in the morning.