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Friend should have told me her toilet seat was broken?

279 replies

AnimalLover24 · 19/07/2025 09:18

A bit of an unusual one - I visited my friends house yesterday for a coffee and a catch up which we arranged a week or so ago. After an half an hour or so I said I would pop to use the loo and she casually told me ‘oh - the toilet seat broke the other day so there isn’t one on there’.

As a slightly larger lady, ‘hovering’ as she suggested isn’t exactly straight forward.

Do you think she should have told me about this ahead of time?

OP posts:
JDM625 · 19/07/2025 10:31

no need to body shame me.

OP- It was YOU that mentioned your size in the first place!!!

You win the weirdest post for today so far!

Floatlikeafeather2 · 19/07/2025 10:32

OP, I do hope your friend is reading this so she knows that you think she is despicable, doesn't know how to conduct herself socially and that you think so little of your friendship that you're prepared to start a thread on Mumsnet to shame her and hope that everyone agrees with you how absolutely awful she is. She won't dare to invite you again. Problem solved for everyone.
(By the way, porcelain is much, much easier to keep hygienic than plastic, which inevitably becomes scratched and degraded over time.)

MyDeftDuck · 19/07/2025 10:32

FFS……how old are you OP? A broken loo seat doesn’t detract from the use of the toilet…….sit on the pan FGS.

Isittimeformynapyet · 19/07/2025 10:33

TalkToTheHand123 · 19/07/2025 10:00

Totally valid thread. Those not able to grasp the situation are tramps. She should be ashamed to not have had it fixed for your arrival or at least had the decency to tell you in advance.

Bring back the laugh emoji!

I need it sarcastically again.

(I think - this could just be very deadpan)

saraclara · 19/07/2025 10:34

LaMarschallin · 19/07/2025 09:58

@AnimalLover24

No I wouldn’t have cancelled, but I could have ‘made arrangements’ prior to the visit.

But why couldn't you sit on the bowl of the toilet? It will have exactly the same germs as the seat would have.

Fewer, actually. The glazed ceramic of the bowl is going to be far less hospitable to germs and bacteria than the plastic or wooden seat. And is massively easier to wipe down effectively.

In some countries public toilets deliberately don't have seats, for this reason.

Sahara123 · 19/07/2025 10:39

AnimalLover24 · 19/07/2025 10:07

Gone at home clearly!

I generally go before I leave the house. And then probably will need to go again when I get wherever I’m going! Especially if I’ve had coffee 🤣.
Just sit on the bowl for goodness sake.

HoneyHoneyHowYouThrillMe · 19/07/2025 10:41

saraclara · 19/07/2025 10:34

Fewer, actually. The glazed ceramic of the bowl is going to be far less hospitable to germs and bacteria than the plastic or wooden seat. And is massively easier to wipe down effectively.

In some countries public toilets deliberately don't have seats, for this reason.

Edited

Yes the plastic or wood seat will hold far more bacteria and the rim can always be quickly wiped down or washed to disinfect it.

SunflowerLife · 19/07/2025 10:41

No, she's your friend, not providing you a service. You're overreacting.

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 19/07/2025 10:41

Forget France, I've used public loos in Wales which are just metal bowls with wooden bars screwed to the top!

Such a non-event

BustyLaRoux · 19/07/2025 10:41

AnimalLover24 · 19/07/2025 09:58

Yes I am making efforts thank you, no need to body shame me.

No one is body shaming you. Poster is just pointing out that basic strength as we reach old age is advantageous and recommended by the NHS to be able to live an independent life and protect ourselves from injury. You say you’re already trying to do something about this, so good for you.

MrsO3 · 19/07/2025 10:43

This is hilarious!

CarCrashLifes · 19/07/2025 10:44

Not been on mumsnet in a while.

Love that this ridiculousness is the first thing I’ve seen on my return ConfusedHmmGrin

Holdonforsummer · 19/07/2025 10:44

Wow. Just wow. Wipe it? What’s the worst that could happen, a couple of germs in your thighs ? (Gasp!!!)

SunflowerLife · 19/07/2025 10:45

AnimalLover24 · 19/07/2025 09:52

No I wouldn’t have cancelled, but I could have ‘made arrangements’ prior to the visit.

I don't understand this. If you needed a wee before you left the house, why didn't you? And if you needed to go at your friend's after drinking coffee, the prior wee wouldn't have had any impact on that. Unless you were storing up a poo to offload at her's for some reason...

Enko · 19/07/2025 10:45

R0ckandHardPlace · 19/07/2025 09:25

My toilet seat is broken. I must alert everyone I know just in case they may pop round and be ever so slightly mildly inconvenienced.

Ridiculous.

You are ok now you posted it here on mn 😁

(Obviously me joking)

ClearlyAGiraffe · 19/07/2025 10:46

AnimalLover24 · 19/07/2025 09:36

I’m clearly in the minority but I wouldn’t expect a friend to sit on the ‘bowl’ of my broken toilet and if I only had one bathroom then I’d absolutely mention it if they had planned to come round.

Maybe it didn’t cross her mind that you would be physically unable to hover.

Bertielong3 · 19/07/2025 10:46

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HangingOver · 19/07/2025 10:46

Suspect this is one of the 8 million things on MN that people "don't like the idea of" but there's no actual logic behind it. See also toilet brushes and not burning your towels after each use.

HunnyPot · 19/07/2025 10:46

Sit on the bowl?

I’ve heard it all now! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

why are mumnetters like this?

Mmhmmn · 19/07/2025 10:46

What do you mean, that she should have told you before you came so you could choose not to go and see her? Or take your own toilet seat round?

It’s annoying but you’re being a bit precious.

hmmimnotsurewhy · 19/07/2025 10:49

Oh fgs op, she’s hardly thinking about you needing the toilet until you actually need it. The problem is specific to you and she didn’t even think of it. People like you are always in some sort of situation because you think the world revolves around you. No it doesn’t.

DrowningInSyrup · 19/07/2025 10:49

YANBU I cannot understand why this women didn't do a FB status update to illustrate this, an Instagram reel and at least one TikTok dance. Ridiculous. What a CF your friend is. Can I suggest a well placed dump on her bathroom floor next time.

Icanttakethisanymore · 19/07/2025 10:52

AnimalLover24 · 19/07/2025 09:36

I’m clearly in the minority but I wouldn’t expect a friend to sit on the ‘bowl’ of my broken toilet and if I only had one bathroom then I’d absolutely mention it if they had planned to come round.

Well at least now you know you’re in the minority 😂

SprayWhiteDung · 19/07/2025 10:55

I remember when I was about 7, visiting a friend's house where their toilet was temporarily without a seat. I therefore assumed that it was broken and simply unusable, being so green as I was and limited in my knowledge of how the world worked.

I'm not 7 anymore, though.

oohyoudevilyou · 19/07/2025 10:55

OP is clearly a bloke with a fetish centred around women going to the toilet 🙄