Friend should have told me her toilet seat was broken?

[AnimalLover24]

A bit of an unusual one - I visited my friends house yesterday for a coffee and a catch up which we arranged a week or so ago. After an half an hour or so I said I would pop to use the loo and she casually told me ‘oh - the toilet seat broke the other day so there isn’t one on there’.

As a slightly larger lady, ‘hovering’ as she suggested isn’t exactly straight forward.

Do you think she should have told me about this ahead of time?

I'm just wondering OP what sort of other trivial setbacks you would expect to be informed of before visiting someone?

Do you need someone to warn you ahead of time if there's no hot water in the bathroom? Or if there's a loose tile on the kitchen floor or a crack in the coffee machine or if someone has had a cold in the household within the past week?

It's a bizarre outlook on life where people expect some sort of risk assessment from their friends before visiting their homes. The whole culture of health and safety at work (which is mad enough in the workplace but at least is justified by the threat of litigation), seems to have permeated human relationships. But friendships always carry some risk. Everything in life of any value carries some degree of risk: you can't get away from this.

Have you thought about getting professional help? This mindset is going to really hold you back.

I think you mean jobby jobbed 💩🤣

Surely one goes before one goes anywhere?

You sound absolutely nuts 😂😂😂

What was stopping you from sitting on the actual porcelain?

So you think people should go about their lives thinking about how small things might affect you? You are being really precious.

WTAF?? Sit on the bowl!!

So bizzare. If she had text you ahead of time to say the toilet seat was broken, would you not have gone round? Was it really that much of an issue?

Ha ha yes the OP would hate those capsule public toilets in France that are just a steel pan.

They are probably more hygienic as there are no.seats or lids for germs or other stuff to lurk on.

I hate them as I am always worried I won't get out before the auto cleaning starts 😐

Surely you go to the toilet before going somewhere anyway? You either need while you are there or you don’t. Or were you saving up a shit to do at your friend’s house instead of at home? In which case you deserve to have to teeter on the rim.

You've body shamed yourself with this ridiculous thread.

Oh please bring back the laughing emoji! Presumably the friends house isn't far away. I have a cystocele and it's pretty awkward using public toilets or other peoples, but hey, I get by.

And have flowers and rose petals scattered around the entrance and floor of the bathroom with little angelic cherubs fanning you with punkahs while you excise your body waste...

I was expecting something a bit more dramatic. From you thread title I was expecting it to be a case where the loo seat wasn't properly fastened on but, as you were not warned, you slid off and landed in a heap on the floor. As it is, total non-event.

This is weird. Get over yourself. Let you know before hand? Maybe if you were royalty, otherwise nope.

Are you about to say that your friend is a minger and has a dirty toilet, so you couldn't possibly have sat on the bowl one time?

Because otherwise, you're overreacting. She told you once it was relevant.

yabu, but I wouldn’t sit on the bowl. I would hover or squat.

Why didn’t you go at home anyway? Why take a full bladder to your friends house?

Bloody hell
My toilet seat broke last weekend and not got around to replacing it yet.
We simply sit on the rim part. It's cleaned with antibacterial spray very regularly and the bowl bleached and scrubbed with the brush. We're still alive and nothing bad has happened to us as a result of not currently having a toilet seat. If visitors have an issue with it then thats on them.
You are being ridiculous

If the rim part was dirty then I can fully understand not wanting to sit on it to be fair

Just as likely to be as dirty as any toilet seat, to be fair?

Time to work on your strength OP, if you can’t hover for a quick wee then you have work to do! Or failing that just sit on the bowl!

Were you taking a dump? At someone else’s house!?! Now that’s unreasonable ;)

I’ve used motorway service station loos in France where none of them had a seat!

She told you before you went in, and you could presumably see there was no seat, so what's the issue?

No seat is unacceptable if it's in the middle of the night, mainly dark and you're half asleep and don't realise. That missing inch and a half of contact makes you feel like you are descending through a porcelain- cold portal into the depths of hell, bum first.

Can you tell I've lived in a household with three males, with an occasional tendency to leave the seat up in the night?