Friend should have told me her toilet seat was broken?

[AnimalLover24]

A bit of an unusual one - I visited my friends house yesterday for a coffee and a catch up which we arranged a week or so ago. After an half an hour or so I said I would pop to use the loo and she casually told me ‘oh - the toilet seat broke the other day so there isn’t one on there’.

As a slightly larger lady, ‘hovering’ as she suggested isn’t exactly straight forward.

Do you think she should have told me about this ahead of time?

Well they obviously use it themselves with no problem so warning you as you are about to use it is fine. Why can't you sit on the bowl?

My knees aren’t up for hovering any more, I would have sat on the bowl (if it looked visibly clean wouldn’t bother me, but if concerned with hygiene line it with tissue first)

I wouldn’t expect a friend to sit on the ‘bowl’ of my broken toilet

Why not?
Do you think the edge of the bowl harbours mysterious germs that a toilet seat wouldn't?
Presumably she'll have cleaned it with the same disinfectant that she uses for the seat.

So what would you expect them to do? Get a taxi to the nearest public toilet before they leave? Come on, what exactly is it you think she should have done? Go and buy a new toilet seat there and then because you’re a larger lady and can’t sit on the rim like everyone else?

Eh but the bowl is just a slightly thinner version of the seat?!
I assume she has still cleaned it, you can sit on the bowl.

Imagine being so precious.

No wonder as a society we are fucked.

I sit on the seat in public toilets. Have never come to any harm. In this case I would have sat on the rim. Bit cold, but harmless.

Surely bigger people ain't gonna fall through without the seat. Bigger issue for the slimmer lady.

I've had no seat on my ensuite toilet for a couple of years as I cba to sort it and it has no impact on my life. No one uses it except me and my dc and it's very mildly uncomfortable to sit on the rim - if it was horrendous I'd get it sorted but it never enters my head aside from when I'm actually on it!

You must have a very empty/blessed life if this bothered you enough to post about it. If she'd warned you would you have cancelled the visit? Utterly bizarre.

Blimey! I initially read that as "I'm 62,200 lbs" and thought "What???"

Oh stop it.

Blimey! I initially read that as "I'm 62,200 lbs" and thought "What???"

Bring back the Laugh button!

And this is why I never go visiting without my portable toilet seat. I’ve never needed it so far but as we see here. You can get caught out unexpectedly

What a drama llama.

Just sit on the bowl or hover.

I don’t understand why you’re happy to sit on a toilet seat but not the bowl.

It might not be as comfortable but it’s no different to the seat.

The seat is only there for comfort, no other reason.

such a non event that the OP must be some kind of pervert that enjoys people writing about how they use the toilet.

No I wouldn’t have cancelled, but I could have ‘made arrangements’ prior to the visit.

I would find it very odd if I arranged to go to a friend’s house and she messaged me something like “just to let you know, there’s no toilet seat at the moment because it broke. I hope that’s not a problem”. I’d think she’d gone a bit mad.

I could have ‘made arrangements’ prior to the visit

Tena Lady?

Did you expect her to put a full page notice in the local newspaper?
Ridiculous.

Why would you need to hover? Why couldn't you just sit on the toilet bowl?

This is so bizarre. The toilet isn’t ‘broken’, it just doesn’t have a seat. Why can’t you sit on the rim of the loo?! Do you think it’s dirty or something? (It’s porcelain, so actually easier to keep clean than a plastic loo seat.) Do you think you’re going to get stuck, or break the toilet pan?

Why is the situation so shocking to you that you expect to be forewarned and then start a whole thread about it? 😂

Agreed, perhaps take this as your sign to start improving your strength… old age is not going to be a fun time for you if you are unable to support your own body weight for a few moments

Oh, Jesus F#cking Christ... First World Mumsnet problems in a nutshell. It can't be helped, and I'm sure she didn't mean for her seat to break. Sit on the bowl just this once, for Heaven's Sake...

Why would you not sit on the actual toilet, seats are just made up things in the last maybe 100 years.

people managed for all eternity without them before this. I think your friend was nice to even tell you before you went to the toilet, it wouldn’t even enter my head that this might be an issue for someone.

Can you get up and down off a chair easily enough without using your hands? I’d worry about the strength in your legs after reading this.

This must be most bonkers thread I read this week. Some people and their “non problematic” problems!