Friend should have told me her toilet seat was broken?

[AnimalLover24]

A bit of an unusual one - I visited my friends house yesterday for a coffee and a catch up which we arranged a week or so ago. After an half an hour or so I said I would pop to use the loo and she casually told me ‘oh - the toilet seat broke the other day so there isn’t one on there’.

As a slightly larger lady, ‘hovering’ as she suggested isn’t exactly straight forward.

Do you think she should have told me about this ahead of time?

Other arrangements? It must have been a poo?
Unless you're good it timing wees to a schedule?

I would expect to have a wee before leaving my house and there being a very high chance of me needing another at a friend's house.

Take a pool noodle with you next time to place around the bowl.

I'm now wondering if this OP is related to the OP who made her husband poop at work when their second, or was it third loo was out of action 🤔

Well yes I'd mention it in advance too, because that's part of being a thoughtful friend/host.

But if this situation happened to me I genuinely wouldn't think anything of it - I'd just hover, or if I couldn't I'd sit on the rim and forget all about it. Really no big deal at all.

Perhaps it comes with living in many countries on three continents and seeing a wide range of cultural differences.

I don’t see the issue. No she shouldn’t have told you, how did she know you would want to use the loo? Would you really have said ok I won’t come then? That’s a bit pathetic

Just sit on the bowl

Don’t go to south east Asia!

I hope you didn't make plans to visit her on a Saturday - utterly reprehensible of her if she hadn't pre-warned you that the day had a turd in the middle of it, so you could make alternative, much more seemly, arrangements.

Or just stick the other end out of the window and wee down the hole through the middle!

That post was crazy 🤣. The poor sod wasn't allowed to use either of the TWO toilets still available whilst one was being fixed. I really hope he left her and now lives happily ever after with the plumber.

Until Mumsnet I ne er knew people were so strange and uptight about bodily functions. I remmeber going to the loo at a friend's house once and as let out a little squeak of surprise as the loo seat slid a bit as I sat down. She just yelled out "oh yeah, the loo seat is a bit loose, you should hover. Sorry!"

It was fine and we have been friends long enough to laugh about it.

"Well yes I'd mention it in advance too, because that's part of being a thoughtful friend/host."

I guess there's no point telling you how nuts this is @HoneyHoneyHowYouThrillMe? If you think this is the mark of a thoughtful person you would be impossible to please.

The plumber is probably used to having a non-fully-perfect toilet anyway.

Tradies spend all day fixing everybody else's homes and usually just have no energy left to deal with all the niggles in their own homes, especially when they won't earn any money from it!

No...as you can see by the rest of my comment.

Talk about picking and choosing!

Part of being thoughtful is in thinking about things that might make a guest uncomfortable.

That said we lived cor a momth with no door on our loo due to various comedies of errors involving a leak and bathroom refit 🤷‍♀️

Wouldn't occur to me to issue a warning pre-visit as I'd expect a visitor to manage it without any fuss.
Yabu...your friend likely didn't give it any thought.

Every day there is a post on here that makes me realise mankind is doomed. I assume the OP never travels abroad, even in Italy restaurants and bars don’t have toilet seats. I assume it’s because some people climb onto them to hover.
Oh, and OP, if it took you half an hour to realise you needed to go, then going at home probably wouldn’t have helped.

I removed my toilet seat the other day and my fat arse still managed to sit on it. Are you to posh to sit on a toilet without a seat?

I fully hope that, if the friend is single and on OLD, she makes it very clear in her bio that her bog seat is currently MIA.

Otherwise, she would be the very worst kind of deceiver out there, and the police should probably be involved or something.

Wise up!

I thought you were going to say it was broken as in you sat on it and if flew off. Just not there? Big deal

Hows sitting on the rim different to sitting on the seat? It's the same bare arses that have literally gone before you

This is true my partner is a gas engineer/plumber he left our boiler for ages I had to get someone in to do it.

Do you have disabilities? I was a size 30 (23 stone) at one point and was still fully capable of hovering if necessary - sometimes the state of public toilets make it so that there is little choice. Tbh unless a friend struggled to walk or had similar obvious disabilities I’m afraid it just wouldn’t occur to me that they couldn’t do the same if they had to.

I’d just put some loo roll on the rim and sit on it

Exactly this. I don’t want to poopoo your experience OP, but in world wide terrible experience events this one is weeny. So I will bidet you good morning.

I wouldn't worry. You should live in my house my son calls me fatty and two chin. He's a swine but he does make me laugh. I am making changes to my body and I am glad he doesn't see how I am as being normal. I have had a few complications over the years because of my weight and before I put the weight on I didn't. I am really listening to my body now and not taking it for granted. Menopause is only round the corner.

Good point. In fact the second part does say you "wouldn't think anything of it" in the event of it actually happening so it's doubtful you'd have thought about it in advance.

I suppose I reacted to your implication that those of us who simply wouldn't think of warning future visitors about a broken loo seat (ie normal, decent people) are negligent and bad.