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To think a two hour sesh sounds hellish?

318 replies

MyWarmOchreHare · 18/07/2025 14:48

Just been away for a weekend with a male friend. During one conversation we got on about sex somehow, and he said he thought anything less than a two hour session is a waste of time.

Good for him I suppose, but AIBU to think the majority of people would find this far too long and start planning their dinner?

Before anyone says he’s trying to impress me or get me into bed, he’s not.

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Mildmanneredmum · 18/07/2025 17:17

I'm laughing. I live in North Yorkshire, near the early warning system. Many years ago (when we were all young) I said to a couple, who were good friends, if the early warning sounds (ie 4 minutes) can I borrow your man as as last hurrah? He laughed and said, 4 minutes? I didn't know I'd have to do it twice!

Praying4Peace · 18/07/2025 17:17

Imaybeoldbutstillrandy · 18/07/2025 15:09

DH & me quite often disappear into the bedroom for 2 hours, surface, have a drink, something to eat & then go back to it. We spend hours just talking, having a bit of sexual activity-sometimes with 'toys' sometimes enjoying each other's bodies.

Sometimes we don't even bother going to bed - there famous time when DH <who is big rugby fan> missed the 2nd half of an England/Wales match because we found something more interesting do do in half time & just carried on. DH's brother called him to ask what he thought about the match & DH had to admit that he didn't see the second half, didn't know the score & why. 😀

But we're both over the age of 60, no children, only the dog to worry about.

I love our afternoons-going into evenings in bed.

Wow, good for you
What a boring life I'm living 😂

Twiglets1 · 18/07/2025 17:19

Sounds awful.

Though I still smile when I think of the reply Sting gave when a journalist I think it was questioned him about the long tantric sex sessions he famously enjoys with his wife.

He said it starts with setting the mood so with simple things like him making her a cup of tea and doing other things for her to establish intimacy.

PeapodMcgee · 18/07/2025 17:20

Berlinlover · 18/07/2025 15:09

Since my hysterectomy and chemotherapy even a ten minute session is hell 😢

I hope you are ok and not being pressurised x

Katemax82 · 18/07/2025 17:21

Half an hour is plenty enough

GroovyChick87 · 18/07/2025 17:28

Sex with foreplay included, yes. Straight up intercourse for an hour, no. That's only possible if he has erectile dysfunction. Most of the time a quickie is enough for us to both be satisfied.

nopiesleftinthisvehicle · 18/07/2025 17:45

This sort of thing always makes me think of Sting and Trudy.
All that sharing breath bollocks 🤢

He's recently back pedalled on his statements though.

FortheloveofCheesus · 18/07/2025 17:46

I don't get it.are people not very turned on by partner and having to spend fucking ages/work really hard/get creative to finish off?

This wouldn't work for either DH or I. If we are up for it we are up for it, it's not gonna take 2 hours.

Twelftytwo · 18/07/2025 17:52

I'm with you OP, 2 hour "sesh" sounds exhausting.

I come quite quickly and then I'm ready for cuddles and a nap.

Hollowvoice · 18/07/2025 17:52

pinkglitter12 · 18/07/2025 15:48

I'd be so offended if a guy could last 2 hours with me

An ex once said to me "when I get fit and we have sex you'll come 3 times and I'll be just starting to get interested"
And could not understand why that didn't leave me weak at the knees

JasmineIndigo · 18/07/2025 17:53

TeeBee · 18/07/2025 14:54

Fuck that! I'd get bored after an hour and want some sleep.

An hour?? 20 minutes is bordering on too long!!

RedFlagsAllOver · 18/07/2025 17:55

I had an encounter with someone like this once. Seemed to think going for 2 hours and not finishing made him a stud but I honestly couldn't wait for him to hurry up and for that reason I didn't really want to see him again

Sunaquarius · 18/07/2025 17:58

Each to their own

KitsyWitsy · 18/07/2025 18:00

God. Bloody men. I told my current partner to always orgasm when it comes. Not to put it off. I hate that. I don’t want some bloke banging away at me for hours. I do like penetration but not for too long. I like everything else better.

DiscoBob · 18/07/2025 18:00

It's kind of grim that he said that. Some people would get tired and sore. Even if you have hundreds of orgasms there is a limit.

If he's basically saying it takes him two hours to cum that means he's probably addicted to porn. Not very sexy really.

There's nothing wrong with a long session but it shouldn't be expected. For starters many people might need sleep, food, or might have responsibilities meaning a five minute bunk up is all they can fit into their day!

Matronic6 · 18/07/2025 18:02

Anytime I hear men talk like this, it reminds me of that scene in 40 year old virgin where they work out Steve carell is a virgin.

LBFseBrom · 18/07/2025 18:05

Two hour sessions are for lovers who are in the first flush, not generally people who live together.

Clarasmum444 · 18/07/2025 18:06

No thanks, sounds hellish. 10 mins is enough for me.

Vivienne1000 · 18/07/2025 18:18

2 hours. I would need a nap half way through and would probably start planning next days dinner!

ThatCyanCat · 18/07/2025 18:18

I used to. Now I have kids.

Cherryicecreamx · 18/07/2025 18:20

Broke up with an ex for this reason.. long drawn out sex (yawn). I think 20 mins should be a max 😅

Optimustime · 18/07/2025 18:22

Well he's clearly not going to pull his weight with housework.

MyWarmOchreHare · 18/07/2025 18:47

Optimustime · 18/07/2025 18:22

Well he's clearly not going to pull his weight with housework.

Not sure how you get to that conclusion.

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Notjustabrunette · 18/07/2025 18:48

sounds awful, and a recipe for a UTI.

murasaki · 18/07/2025 18:54

His 'two hours' is probably the equivalent of 'it was this big' when men catch a fish.

It wasn't.

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