Would go out on your own on a Saturday evening?

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I’m completely on my own on Saturday and would like to go out for a cocktail, but I don’t know how odd it would look to sit at a bar/restaurant sipping cocktails by myself.

I could ask the two friends I have and see if they’re free but I at the same time, I don’t mind being on my own, it’s more if the restaurant/bar would have a problem because I’m taking a table just for one.

All of it.
Sad, but true.
Get an Uber. If the streets are busy enough for anyone to think it’s safe to walk, the place is busy enough to have Ubers.

I work shifts, rely on public transport, am single and live alone. I wonder how posters like @Vvbs suggest I get home from work without a chaperone?

This whole convo about bears reminds me when there was this trend on social media that women would choose a bear over a man.

Yes, of course. I mean I don’t drink cocktails, but I have definitely sat in a pub having a coffee or fizzy drink of some sort. Or gone to the theatre or cinema or out to dinner on my own. I mean, I wouldn’t be out clubbing, but that’s because I’m more a in bed for 9pm sort of person. 😂

Untrue

@Swiftie1878 I've just climbed into bed having walked along a very busy east London main road. Perfectly alive and safe, I even stopped at the babby for some chips. Zero drama, nobody even glanced at me.

I find this whole 'it's is wholly unsafe for women to be outside alone after dark lest they turn into pumpkins' narrative weirdly controlling and patriarchal. Like we should all be cowering at home behind the sofa until our big man protectors come to save us.

Yeah, these posters are probably drumming paranoia in to.their kids too, telling them there's a weirdo stranger on every street corner. Which there most definitely isn't

I’ve done this loads - if I fancy going out, I do! If it’s to a restaurant then I tend to take a book, but to a bar, just enjoy my drink.

DH and I were walking through a dodgy bit of a city we are visiting earlier, and he told me ‘this is why I keep my vape in my hand - it is better to punch someone with if they came at us’ - I told him gently that, as a woman, I’d been walking around with my keys in my hand before he’d even thought about this to help defend - we all know these ways, we learn very young, sadly.
doesnt stop me going out on my own though, I have travelled a lot with work, and was single for a long time - why wouldn’t I go out by myself?

Did you go out on your own in the end?

Nope! I did try but and took only the younger dog, but then I remembered I left some chocolate within reach that the older dog is a chocoholic. Then the older doggie gave me a sad puppy face so I took them both. Then I dropped my phone and cracked my screen. Thought it was a sign and headed back home. Picture of the culprits

Where did you go on a Saturday night which allowed a dog to join you?

My local pub!

Your local is
So just head there in future if on own and fancy a pint

100%. Done it loads of times in lots of towns and abroad.

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Quite often go for a drink on my own, enjoy it. But I go early before it gets messy.

Goodness me, so many Debbie Downers ! I lived for longer than I care to remember in a fairly 'sketchy' area at that time. I never had any qualms going anywhere on my own because I quite enjoyed scooting about (being young and all that) Or I would meet up with my friends later. And I felt safe. Even when the police that time refused to take me home because there was a "scuffle" down my area. BUT never ever went "out out" on a Saturday. That's when the 'Plouks' come out to play. Out of towners on the lash basically, Many a good house and kitchen boogie on a Saturday night ! But otherwise I would choose my favourite bar / pub and nurse a wine ...good people watching opportunities at least...just as @UrbanOasis says.....

To a cocktail bar, probably not. To a restaurant, cinema, theatre, yes of course.

We should be comfortable to go to a bar alone if we wish, the men have been doing it for decades. Its a strange one. Locally I wouldn't, but have done on work trips in hotel bars and really enjoyed soaking up the atmosphere and the time to myself having a nice drink.
A couple of months ago I was in a hotel in a UK tourist hotspot, just me and the dog as my DD cancelled. Went down to the bar for a bit each evening and a guy approached asking why I'm on my own and asking over and over if I wanted to go to other bars with him that night. He didn't seem to get I was happy alone. But for some reason I still wouldn't feel comfortable Locally. Maybe something to do with not having an excuse as to why I'm alone here

Why Would You Need An Excuse?