Would go out on your own on a Saturday evening?

[CVVFan]

I’m completely on my own on Saturday and would like to go out for a cocktail, but I don’t know how odd it would look to sit at a bar/restaurant sipping cocktails by myself.

I could ask the two friends I have and see if they’re free but I at the same time, I don’t mind being on my own, it’s more if the restaurant/bar would have a problem because I’m taking a table just for one.

Oh sorry that i didn't read your mind. You tagged someone in your funny comment who had mentioned her own adult children and also some previous poster who months ago said she was hassled at a bar. Neither that poster or anyone else had mentioned S.E.

Obviously that is a terrible terrible thing, but it is really sad if that has made you scared of the outside world.

No I wouldn't. Not because I'm worried about my safety though ..I'd just feel a bit weird being somewhere on my own in the evening. I'd happily go to a cafe or a pub on my own during the day...but a more formal restaurant or a bar, no.

I would go out for a meal on my own, have done many times. I don’t think I’d choose to go and drink cocktails in a bar by myself. Just think I would feel a bit weird.

Sarah Everard had been to a friend’s house, was walking home in the relatively early evening, and was abducted by a police officer. She could have been walking home from work, or Sainsbury’s, or the gym - women would never go out, if they were always supposed to keep Sarah Everard in mind and fear life accordingly.

We cant live our lives on the basis of what some men might do.

No, I wouldn't and have no desire to do so.

My work necessitated lots of travel. The first couple of years I’d order room service and never ventured out. Eventually I got fed up eating from the same limited, overpriced menu and bored with watching cable TV. So I started venturing out - and found that nobody batted an eyelid, nobody harassed me, waiters treated me well, and I enjoyed a change of scenery and some nice food and a drink.

And I stopped feeling weird in no time at all. Other people are far less concerned with us than we think they might be… just do what you want to do!

@FrodoBiggins actually I tagged the OP, @Vvbs and yourself.

I made no reference to someone who'd posted about being hassled.

Of course women should go out and live their lives without fear or foul, I hope @CVVFan enjoys her cocktail and book, but please do not let's kid ourselves that as we are walking home, in the evening and some random male just happens to be behind us (perfectly innocently) we may just walk that little bit quicker.

Oh no!? just me then.

There's no need to be so snarky, just because "some" people are more cautious and obviously less liberated (than others).

Hope that clarifies, (cos ye couldnae find yer crystal ball earlier, I understand) lovely.

I am currently sitting in a wine bar with a glass of red and a cheese board. I know it's not Saturday yet but I anticipate Saturday will be a repeat...

I often sit in a hotel bar on my own. My DD goes to uni a long way from home so I need to stay overnight and love nothing more than sitting with my kindle and phone and a couple of glasses of wine / cocktail

Not really, haven't you ever taken one? They're normally a bit cheaper than a taxi.

It depends how far you go. Couple of miles in a normal town might be £5. Wouldn't bother taking one across London because the night bus or tube is faster and cheaper

I’d happily do it early evening, but not into the night. I think it would be asking for trouble.

Jealous!

Why would it not be safe to sit and have a drink? What might happen?

There were some very specific covid circumstances involved there, you can't extrapolate that to now

If it’s the right venue, I don’t see any problem with it. I’d be tempted to sit at the bar if possible, tends to be better for solo drinking.

I travel quite a bit for work involving overnight stays. I enjoy eating alone and not having to cater for anyone else’s taste.
I often eat before 7 and am there with the after work crew. I look for places with an interesting menu. I ate at a strange venue in Stratford London that seemed to be someone’s lounge for at about £10.
When I arrive later and I don’t know an area I tend to eat in or near my hotel. A bit because of safely, lack of local knowledge and a bit so I do t have far to walk back to the hotel.
i love drinking cocktails at the bar of a fancy hotel.

Seriously?! The OP's planning to go out for a cocktail, not a solo hitchhike around Brazil.

Good grief!

Are people still asking this?

It’s never once occurred to me that I shouldn’t sit and drink in a cocktail bar if I want to. On any day of the week. At any time they’re open.

And I wouldn’t ‘take a book’, or hide behind a laptop, either. If I go to a cocktail bar it’s to enjoy myself. To appreciate the theatre of watching the cocktail being made; to be immersed in the busyness and noise and glamour and laughter. I wouldn’t be wearing a come hither expression - and I don’t respond with terror if a stranger makes a passing friendly comment. Tbh, the last time anyone approached me in a bar it was two women saying how much they liked what I was wearing (which was the travel / meeting / shopping outfit I’d been wearing all day).

These days I’m lazy and like being at home, so I’m unlikely to specifically leave the house to go to a bar. But I feel no hesitation whatsoever about drinking a cocktail alone if I’m already out.

I’ve been happily single for ten years. I’ve never ever set foot outside on a Saturday night for a cocktail. The shame. The guilt. If you’re not having a self-care bath and comforting hot chocolate on a Saturday night the. you’re doing singledom allllll wrong.

Damn - I wrote ‘clamour’, not glamour!

I would in afternoon not evening - I’d only do cinema or show at night alone.

Personally I wouldn't. Not because I'd be scared to, or because I'd care what anyone thought. Just because going out for cocktails seems like a sociable kind of activity. Plus I have no desire to drink on my own, whether in a cocktail bar or at home. But if you think you'd enjoy it, go for it!

Yes I do, usually luxury hotels with bars in London
it’s not unusual

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Mayfair hotel
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