Would go out on your own on a Saturday evening?

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I’m completely on my own on Saturday and would like to go out for a cocktail, but I don’t know how odd it would look to sit at a bar/restaurant sipping cocktails by myself.

I could ask the two friends I have and see if they’re free but I at the same time, I don’t mind being on my own, it’s more if the restaurant/bar would have a problem because I’m taking a table just for one.

Totally agree, and sadly many of the attacks on women are often when they are out with friends and have their guard down and leave their drink unattended (no victim blaming here- I only blame the scum who attack both women and men, as it happens to both sexes).
Plus, people out in groups often travel home alone anyway.

Have done this many times on my own. Love the way some people stare at you with pity, as though they think you've been stood up!

Exactly. I’m bemused by some of these comments and fears. I travel home by tube + bus all the time, at 11 pm or even later. I’m never the only woman doing this and I’ve never encountered any harassment.

I've done it loads.

Just people watch, use it as time to organise my photos in my phone, look at holiday destinations. It's great yo have a daydream without anybody chatting.

If any blokes approach just say thanks but no thanks.

I wouldn’t enjoy it personally, wouldn’t cross my mind to choose to do it. Going out in the evening for me is about socialising and if I wanted to read I’d stay at home.

I’m doing it just now! I find hotel bars are good for this type as less of the Saturday night crowd and more people staying in hotel
enjoying a leisurely time. Or sitting at the actual bar instead of a table can feel more comfortable as a solo as there are often others doing the same. Have fun!

I eat or drink out on my own several times a week. You'll be fine OP. Enjoy!

She asked ‘would you…’ and my answer is no, I wouldn’t. Nothing wrong with how I feel, nothing wrong with anyone that feels the opposite. Also nothing to do with the 1950s. I go out to socialise. There would be no pleasure for ME in sitting alone.

Depends where I think - I’d feel much more comfortable doing this in a city than my local town!!

Because you know.... Men? It's just I saw this thread on here a while back and everyone was like "you shouldn't have expected the staff to do anything to help you"

I would go to a restaurant by myself, but not a bar (in my younger days). I couldn’t be bothered with the hassle of being approached. It probably wouldn’t happen now I’m in my 50s but I’d happily go out for a meal myself.

Do you have an Everyman Cinema near you? You can have cocktails and food delivered by waiter service as you watch a film. It’s genius!

Same here. I would feel too self conscious in my home town, I might see people I know who would think I’m Billy No Mates (even though I shouldn’t worry what other people might think) but if I could pass for a traveller overseas, it probably wouldn’t feel so bad? But it’s not something I would relish nor make a habit of

Absolutely love Everyman

Aren't Ubers really expensive?

Absolutely. I've done it loads of times, and will do again as soon as I am able. I've been to gigs and day festivals on my own. I won't let having nobody to go with hold me back from doing anything I want to do.

Not on a Saturday, it would be busy and loud presumably. I might on a different day, but I’d rather stay home!

I don't think you need to be in a pub for a man to be a pain in the arse. They manage it everywhere you go so the only way to avoid is never leave the house. No ta!

my reference was to Sarah Everard, fyi, lovely

Definitely! That’s actually the way I met my partner - I was away on my own and took myself to the local pub for a drink and there he was

They're on their own over there. 😂

It's a valid question. Women can be harrassed or harmed. Lone women can be vulnerable and men can be predatory. If anyone refutes that, then please explain the furore about transwomen in women only spaces.

We all remember Sarah.

And have taken on board the message that we should never trust a man we do not know, even especially if he claims to be a police officer.

This should not stop us from going out and enjoy doing whatever we enjoy doing.

NB: It is well known that the vast majority of crimes against women are committed by men known to them - often one of their nearest and dearest. Stranger rape or murder is quite rare.

Yeah, that's just you I think.

I’m sorry I didn’t proof read my message . But thanks for being a dickhead . Maybe you should go out for a drink rather than being a idiot with nothing better to do than correct grammar.

for all you know I could be dyslexic! But as long as you feel good about yourself !