Would go out on your own on a Saturday evening?

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I’m completely on my own on Saturday and would like to go out for a cocktail, but I don’t know how odd it would look to sit at a bar/restaurant sipping cocktails by myself.

I could ask the two friends I have and see if they’re free but I at the same time, I don’t mind being on my own, it’s more if the restaurant/bar would have a problem because I’m taking a table just for one.

I don't mind going into a pub or restaurant at night if I'm meeting someone there. It's a lot more comfortable than hanging around outside waiting for them to turn up. But most of my solo socialising (I have a DH) is a daytime thing. Regardless of the time or location, I don't leave the house without my Kindle or a book, but not primarily to fend off weirdos. I love reading and am at my happiest digging into a bowl of pasta while enjoying my book.

Interestingly if I was abroad or in a new city I would definitely do this but I wouldn't really in my home area, I'd be more likely to go out for a massage or sauna or cinema if alone.

Put on some lipstick and go now!

I dont mind eating alone in a restaurant and I dont mind drinking alone but saturday night might feel a bit lonely. But then you might meet some nice people. Just keep your wits about you and see what happens

@DemBonesDemBones

why?

Nothing like a private jet - perhaps you are getting the two confused.

I'm a man so I can’t offer a parallel exactly. However, I've been drinking alone largely for more than thirty years (not continuously - I do go home) and these days I always have my phone and tablet plus earphones with me. Nobody bothers me. It would be a miracle if I was ever chatted up! Anyway, the point is to make yourself as unavailable and/or unobtrusive as you want to be, using whatever means you're comfortable with. Women and men are free to disregard old-fashioned social conventions about companions, dates, chaperones and all that shit.

I’d be happy to go out on my own, to the cinema or a restaurant for example (and have done before). However I’d feel super awkward at the pub, in the evening anyway.

Yes, quite often. Sometimes when my husband does bedtime I go to the pub down the road for a wine so the kids know I'm not there (and it stops me being tempted to clean etc on my night 'off' bedtime which we agreed should be used for personal hobbies or relaxing.)
I love it. Sometimes I don't speak to anyone, I've also met some really interesting people. I've had a few comments (have you and your husband separated?!).

Would do, have done, will do again. But prefer not too late, when it gets busy, and men can be drunk and messy.

It absolutely is you. I'm never bored, i I really enjoy people watching, or maybe reading, or usually both. And why would anyone think I wanted to be picked up, just because I was alone? A very weird perspective on lif

I must say, @FestivusMiracle‘s comment leans heavily on the idea that a woman cannot possibly be ‘enough’ or complete on her own.

I have never once, in over forty years of adulthood, felt that appearing anywhere alone would indicate that I was either on the pull or had been stood up. I don’t need a man beside me to authorise my existence or presence.

And I’m sad that that’s how you view women.

I wish I could but I just don’t have the confidence and I’m jealous of women that do. I might do a movie but that’s it. I hope you do it and have a great time.

I would. Atm my partner in the hospital, sometimes l stay near there, im more then happy to order food and wine and just relax in the bar. I take my kindle and my phone.
Also before the hospital issue l would quiet often go and see a film alone or just have a drink in a bar. Honestly nobody is judging you.

Night bus and night tube very dangerous

I’m not in London (and we don’t have Ubers) so I’d walk home (all main roads, 40 min walk)

TFL’s and the Met’s crime stats would disagree: the night tube is viewed to have had a decreasing effect on crime against the person, as it’s bright, busy, and well-utilised. It’s also reduced reliance on walking late at night or using unlicensed cabs, as well as resulted in increased nighttime footfall in many areas, as people know they are able to stay out later and will still be able to get home - which provides safety in numbers and is beneficial to people who previously found themselves out in areas which were quiet (often without choice, such as if they worked shifts or had an emergency.)

The night bus can be a bit of a circus sometimes, granted, but I regularly enjoy some good bus banter on the 176 at 3am with fellow merry souls off home to saarff east London.

No. And no partly because all of our street lights are off after 11pm so I wouldn't even want to be in a taxi alone when it's pitch black.

@Vvbs gosh you’re very anxious. Sounds like you need a night out tbh

Well there was this thread a few months ago about a woman sitting alone in a fancy bar in London. A man tried to approach her and buy her a drink. She rebuffed him. He paid for her drink secretly and something and wouldn't leave her.

Her went out looking for her the next time and then the OP told the staff who later banned him for the bar.

I'm not anxious at all. But it's the truth for a line woman.

I am a regular late night 176 goer, I wonder if I've been one of your fellow merry souls!

40 minutes late at night. On your own?

The greatest 176 night bus risk of all: falling asleep and waking up in Penge (or as poor DH once did, all the way back at Tottenham Court Road.)

Yeah! I mean I would rather take my doggo with me BUT not many bars are dog friendly