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AIBU to agree with Diane Abbott

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Elephantiner · 17/07/2025 14:18

I cannot stand Diane Abbott, she has a lazy, patronising manner which riles me, but she has said that people visiblybof a different race (e.g. black people) experience a different sort of racism than those who’s race is not visually obvious (travellers, Jewish people etc). She has a point, doesn’t she? Am I missing something here?

Obviously all types of racism are utterly abhorrent.

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Oshio · 19/07/2025 11:23

ForWittyTealOP · 19/07/2025 10:35

Diana Abbott is an idiot. An idiot with a Cambridge degree but still an idiot. She's is a unique position to use her long and pioneering experience for the good, to really be a figure of respect and authority as Mother of the House and the first black woman MP but instead she chooses to behave like an attention seeking student.

I lived in her constituency for many years. She frequently used to come in to our family business, a shop, and chat with my mum. She might not have been able to visually recognise my mum was Jewish but she's utterly disingenuous to say you can't tell on sight because the name above the shop was immediately identifiable as Jewish.

Later on I spoke to her face to face on her decision to send her son to private school and she was incredibly dismissive and condescending to me. In fact, she told me I couldn't understand her position because I had daughters and educational provision in Hackney for girls was apparently excellent whereas for boys it was poor.

Diane Abbott has chosen division over unity, she's chosen to throw away her unique experience which could have been so valuable in favour of annoying the leadership once again. It's so disappointing to see a woman behave like that. And it's now so hard to be a left wing Jew, knowing that the left despises and rejects you for your ethnicity.

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I completely get this. Diane has turned her back on victims, and has shown she holds victims im contempt. I agree, I admired her so much once, but she's chucked it all away to behave like a student but beyond that she is actually a role model and she has taught other people that saying this stuff is fine.

Lavenderflower · 19/07/2025 11:27

Oshio · 19/07/2025 11:09

You are missing half a conversation here.

A poster wrote that they'd seen how Black and Asian people were stared at when they went in a public space.

Based on this they agreed with Abott. Ie: they were making the point POC "stood out" and this experienced worse bigotry.

So this is them, not me, drawing a relationship between "standing out in the crowd" and experiencing racism.

I merely replied that they do not stand out in Hackey.

Which they dont.

So you are ignoring the statement I was replying to, and falsely characterising my point, despite me having now clarified this twice for you.

Not sure where the poster is from, but I assume somewhere without very many Black and Asian people.

You seem to spend a great length of time creating word salads of theories and falsely accusing victims parents of things they didn't say - maybe your time being an expert on racism could be served better by listening to victim stories instead of gaslighting them?

I didn’t see the original, but that doesn’t change my perspective. The comments you made are exactly why, as a mixed-race person, I would never align myself with or attempt to form an alliance with the Jewish community. I think everyone needs to advocate and fight their own battles. I understand and accept that you may not agree, and that’s fine. Everyone is entitled to their own views.

nomas · 19/07/2025 11:29

Oshio · 18/07/2025 23:49

How curious that despite the ease with which they "blend in" they are still 12x more likely to experience a hate crime than a Muslim. Maybe Diane should run classes on "blending in". I feel genuinely quite sick at this conversation to be honest.

That’s not true. Where do you get your data from?

“there were 3,282 religious hate crimes targeted at Jewish people in the year ending March 2024. These offences accounted for a third (33%) of all religious hate crimes in the last year.”

“hate crimes against Muslims, up 13% to 3,866 reported offences. Almost two in five religious hate crimes (38%) were targeted against Muslims, the report said.”

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2024/oct/10/religious-hate-crimes-at-record-levels-in-england-and-wales-official-figures-show

Religious hate crimes at record levels in England and Wales, official figures show

Hate crimes against Jewish people more than doubled while there was a 13% rise in hate crimes against Muslims

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2024/oct/10/religious-hate-crimes-at-record-levels-in-england-and-wales-official-figures-show

ForWittyTealOP · 19/07/2025 11:32

Lavenderflower · 19/07/2025 11:27

I didn’t see the original, but that doesn’t change my perspective. The comments you made are exactly why, as a mixed-race person, I would never align myself with or attempt to form an alliance with the Jewish community. I think everyone needs to advocate and fight their own battles. I understand and accept that you may not agree, and that’s fine. Everyone is entitled to their own views.

It's a shame you don't believe in the socialist concept of solidarity. I don't think we can have a truly free and equitable society without it.

ForWittyTealOP · 19/07/2025 11:36

nomas · 19/07/2025 11:29

That’s not true. Where do you get your data from?

“there were 3,282 religious hate crimes targeted at Jewish people in the year ending March 2024. These offences accounted for a third (33%) of all religious hate crimes in the last year.”

“hate crimes against Muslims, up 13% to 3,866 reported offences. Almost two in five religious hate crimes (38%) were targeted against Muslims, the report said.”

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2024/oct/10/religious-hate-crimes-at-record-levels-in-england-and-wales-official-figures-show

The article to which Abbott's original letter referred to referenced studies showing incidents of racism experienced by various groups. Essentially it found that Jewish people and Travellers reported more racism than other demographics. Obviously there's discussion to be had but I imagine that's where Oshio is coming from.

SharonEllis · 19/07/2025 11:38

Lavenderflower · 19/07/2025 11:18

I think it fine not to understand my point - we can all agree to disagree. I think discourse shows and demonstrates why they will never be unity or alliances.

Sorry, I couldn't see that you had a point. You described aspects of antisemitism but not how you thought antisemitism related to what Abbott was saying. Im disappointed that You think people are not prepared to listen to the experience of others or to show allyship. I think that's exactly the situation the Jewish community feels it is in and why Abbott's latest is so disturbing to them when we can see the sharp rise in antisemitism and people are not listening.

Oshio · 19/07/2025 11:41

nomas · 19/07/2025 11:29

That’s not true. Where do you get your data from?

“there were 3,282 religious hate crimes targeted at Jewish people in the year ending March 2024. These offences accounted for a third (33%) of all religious hate crimes in the last year.”

“hate crimes against Muslims, up 13% to 3,866 reported offences. Almost two in five religious hate crimes (38%) were targeted against Muslims, the report said.”

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2024/oct/10/religious-hate-crimes-at-record-levels-in-england-and-wales-official-figures-show

It is true.

Basic stats (Year ending March 2024, England & Wales)

Jews:
• 3,282 police-recorded religious hate crimes
• Jewish population ~ 271,300 → 121 hate crimes per 10,000 people

Muslims:
• 3,866 religious hate crimes
• Muslim population ~ 3,868,100 → 10 hate crimes per 10,000 people

So although absolute hate crimes targeting Muslims are slightly higher, the rate per person is much lower because the Muslim community is much larger.

121 ÷ 10 ≈ 12.1 → thus, a Jewish individual was roughly twelve times more likely to be a victim of a religious hate crime than a Muslim individual.

nomas · 19/07/2025 11:44

ForWittyTealOP · 19/07/2025 10:35

Diana Abbott is an idiot. An idiot with a Cambridge degree but still an idiot. She's is a unique position to use her long and pioneering experience for the good, to really be a figure of respect and authority as Mother of the House and the first black woman MP but instead she chooses to behave like an attention seeking student.

I lived in her constituency for many years. She frequently used to come in to our family business, a shop, and chat with my mum. She might not have been able to visually recognise my mum was Jewish but she's utterly disingenuous to say you can't tell on sight because the name above the shop was immediately identifiable as Jewish.

Later on I spoke to her face to face on her decision to send her son to private school and she was incredibly dismissive and condescending to me. In fact, she told me I couldn't understand her position because I had daughters and educational provision in Hackney for girls was apparently excellent whereas for boys it was poor.

Diane Abbott has chosen division over unity, she's chosen to throw away her unique experience which could have been so valuable in favour of annoying the leadership once again. It's so disappointing to see a woman behave like that. And it's now so hard to be a left wing Jew, knowing that the left despises and rejects you for your ethnicity.

Edited

I don’t think the amount of criticism DA gets for sending her son to private school when compared to Tony Blair who did the same is justifiable.

nomas · 19/07/2025 11:47

Oshio · 19/07/2025 11:41

It is true.

Basic stats (Year ending March 2024, England & Wales)

Jews:
• 3,282 police-recorded religious hate crimes
• Jewish population ~ 271,300 → 121 hate crimes per 10,000 people

Muslims:
• 3,866 religious hate crimes
• Muslim population ~ 3,868,100 → 10 hate crimes per 10,000 people

So although absolute hate crimes targeting Muslims are slightly higher, the rate per person is much lower because the Muslim community is much larger.

121 ÷ 10 ≈ 12.1 → thus, a Jewish individual was roughly twelve times more likely to be a victim of a religious hate crime than a Muslim individual.

I agree that proportionally that is a very large number of crimes on Jews.

But it’s also been reported that 80% of Muslims who experienced hate crimes don’t report them.

AuntyHistamine · 19/07/2025 11:50

What she originally said (and then pretended to mis speak) was very different to what she is now saying. She originally said Irish Travellers and Jewish people were not subject to racism. And who can forget her previous comments about how white people love playing divide and rule? Of course, there’s nothing racist in her own views…ooooooh nooooo!

AuntyHistamine · 19/07/2025 11:53

nomas · 19/07/2025 11:44

I don’t think the amount of criticism DA gets for sending her son to private school when compared to Tony Blair who did the same is justifiable.

Is this the son who uses crystal meth and spits on police officers? Thank heavens for private education eh? 🙄

nomas · 19/07/2025 11:54

AuntyHistamine · 19/07/2025 11:53

Is this the son who uses crystal meth and spits on police officers? Thank heavens for private education eh? 🙄

Was that really necessary?

nomas · 19/07/2025 11:55

AuntyHistamine · 19/07/2025 11:50

What she originally said (and then pretended to mis speak) was very different to what she is now saying. She originally said Irish Travellers and Jewish people were not subject to racism. And who can forget her previous comments about how white people love playing divide and rule? Of course, there’s nothing racist in her own views…ooooooh nooooo!

Whilst I disagree with her that they can’t experience racism, she did say they experience prejudice similar to racism.

SharonEllis · 19/07/2025 11:57

@Lavenderflower Oh my word. I tried to be so diplomatic in my response but I had not seen this. I think this goes beyond agreeing to disagree. You are openly saying you would not be an ally to the Jewish community. What on earth would happen if a Jewish person said they would not be an ally with the black community. They would be called a racist, surely?

Perhaps you aren't aware of the history of Jews allying with other minorities, particularly racialised minorities? In the civil rights movement in the US Jews helped form the NAACP & marched alongside Martin Luther King & many black & Jewish americans still find common cause. in South Africa Jews were critical allies in the fight against apartheid. Across the left there was, until recently a strong sense of solidarity and allyship despite diffrrences and at times some distrust.

ForWittyTealOP · 19/07/2025 11:58

nomas · 19/07/2025 11:44

I don’t think the amount of criticism DA gets for sending her son to private school when compared to Tony Blair who did the same is justifiable.

In context it does. Blair was a social democrat on the right of the Labour party whereas Abbott is a staunch socialist, or says she is. In reality socialists tend not to access private education and make weak excuses for doing so. She's been the MP for Hackney North and Stoke Newington for decades. She had ample opportunity to raise what she claimed as inadequate provision of education for Hackney boys in Parliament. Instead she opted to pay for privilege and stonewall constituents who questioned that.

I don't think anyone in the Labour party should pay for private education but nobody can credibly claim surprise that Blair did. It didn't feel like a betrayal of oft-stated principle like it did to Abbott's constituents when she did it.

Oshio · 19/07/2025 12:00

Lavenderflower · 19/07/2025 11:27

I didn’t see the original, but that doesn’t change my perspective. The comments you made are exactly why, as a mixed-race person, I would never align myself with or attempt to form an alliance with the Jewish community. I think everyone needs to advocate and fight their own battles. I understand and accept that you may not agree, and that’s fine. Everyone is entitled to their own views.

It's odd that you've spent several posts now attacking me for a reply I made to a post without reading the post I replied to.

Let's recap:

Poster:
"I agree with Diane Abbot, and we don't agree on many things.As someone of Irish heritage, who was bullied lots at school in the 70s for being 'IRA', my experience is no where close to my friends who are Black and Asian who are stared at every time they walk into a public space"

My reply:
"So like Diane your judging other people's lives based on your own. Diane lives in a place where less than half the population is white. Black people are not a suprise people stare at. It's not 1970"

So the context and my point should be obvious. Black and Asian people are simply not a minority in Hackney.

The poster is applying her minimisation of the bigotry others experience based on the fact that seemingly she personally happens to live in a place where seeing Black and Asian people isn't something they do all day every day.

As for your statement "as a mixed-race person, I would never align myself with or attempt to form an alliance with the Jewish community. I think everyone needs to advocate and fight their own battles" thanks for clearing that up, reading between the lines I think Diane feels the same.

What you're doing here today isn't fighting your own battle - it's doing what you've accused everyone else of doing and trying to minimise other people's experiences to prioritise your own.

There’s an underlying assumption that minority groups are in competition, not common cause. That it’s “us vs. them”, not “all of us against racism.” I'm sorry to say I was quite naive in not seeing this before.

I spent decades of my life aggressively standing against racism. I joined protests, i voted accordingly, I advocated, I spoke up when I saw unfairness and I frankly am shocked to see the sentiment not returned.

I am white. Pretty much anyway. Brown mum, but I came out white. But one thing I've never thought about any injustice is, “they can fight their own battles.”

But from what ive garnered from listening to the Jewish community is that they now understand that hate crime, bigotry, discrimination and harassment against them - and seemingly only them - apparently doesnt warrant collective support from our countrys most vocal so-called and verbose racism theorists.

ForWittyTealOP · 19/07/2025 12:02

nomas · 19/07/2025 11:55

Whilst I disagree with her that they can’t experience racism, she did say they experience prejudice similar to racism.

Which is incorrect, unless you believe that the Holocaust was about a dislike of a religious group rather than a systematic attempt to eradicate an entire ethnicity.

In my view she showed her contempt of Jews by likening anti semitism to teasing endured by people with red hair. How can she continue to represent a constituency with such a diverse range of Jewish voters after this?

Oshio · 19/07/2025 12:05

nomas · 19/07/2025 11:47

I agree that proportionally that is a very large number of crimes on Jews.

But it’s also been reported that 80% of Muslims who experienced hate crimes don’t report them.

So first the data was wrong, and now the data (which you just shared yourself) doesn't count.

My son experienced 4 hate crimes and reported 1. Because the police could not have cared less.

You only need eyes and ears to see what's going on.

SharonEllis · 19/07/2025 12:08

Oshio · 19/07/2025 12:00

It's odd that you've spent several posts now attacking me for a reply I made to a post without reading the post I replied to.

Let's recap:

Poster:
"I agree with Diane Abbot, and we don't agree on many things.As someone of Irish heritage, who was bullied lots at school in the 70s for being 'IRA', my experience is no where close to my friends who are Black and Asian who are stared at every time they walk into a public space"

My reply:
"So like Diane your judging other people's lives based on your own. Diane lives in a place where less than half the population is white. Black people are not a suprise people stare at. It's not 1970"

So the context and my point should be obvious. Black and Asian people are simply not a minority in Hackney.

The poster is applying her minimisation of the bigotry others experience based on the fact that seemingly she personally happens to live in a place where seeing Black and Asian people isn't something they do all day every day.

As for your statement "as a mixed-race person, I would never align myself with or attempt to form an alliance with the Jewish community. I think everyone needs to advocate and fight their own battles" thanks for clearing that up, reading between the lines I think Diane feels the same.

What you're doing here today isn't fighting your own battle - it's doing what you've accused everyone else of doing and trying to minimise other people's experiences to prioritise your own.

There’s an underlying assumption that minority groups are in competition, not common cause. That it’s “us vs. them”, not “all of us against racism.” I'm sorry to say I was quite naive in not seeing this before.

I spent decades of my life aggressively standing against racism. I joined protests, i voted accordingly, I advocated, I spoke up when I saw unfairness and I frankly am shocked to see the sentiment not returned.

I am white. Pretty much anyway. Brown mum, but I came out white. But one thing I've never thought about any injustice is, “they can fight their own battles.”

But from what ive garnered from listening to the Jewish community is that they now understand that hate crime, bigotry, discrimination and harassment against them - and seemingly only them - apparently doesnt warrant collective support from our countrys most vocal so-called and verbose racism theorists.

You summarise this conversation and the wider issue brilliantly. I too have been heavily inolved in anti racist action for 40 or more years. I naively thought antisemitism only remained on the fringes of the far right. Then the Corbyn era exposed that it had never gone away and was in fact flourishing on the left. The idea of common cause that was part of a left wing identity also fell apart. Thats when I educated myself about antisemitism.

I'm still horrified to see someone say Jewish people should fight their own battles.

I hope some people reading this will realise how important it is now to make common cause with Jewish people. Don't turn away.

andgoodnessknows · 19/07/2025 12:09

Are people seriously saying they can’t immediately tell the ethnicity of these people at first sight (in Diane Abbott’s constituency no less), the same as you could by someone’s skin colour? What she said was awful, as are the people on here pretending she’s got a point. Of course she was wrong.

AIBU to agree with Diane Abbott
Oshio · 19/07/2025 12:14

SharonEllis · 19/07/2025 12:08

You summarise this conversation and the wider issue brilliantly. I too have been heavily inolved in anti racist action for 40 or more years. I naively thought antisemitism only remained on the fringes of the far right. Then the Corbyn era exposed that it had never gone away and was in fact flourishing on the left. The idea of common cause that was part of a left wing identity also fell apart. Thats when I educated myself about antisemitism.

I'm still horrified to see someone say Jewish people should fight their own battles.

I hope some people reading this will realise how important it is now to make common cause with Jewish people. Don't turn away.

The thing is, people either fight injustice for everyone, or they only fight injustice for their own group.

The antisemitism crisis has shone a light on a lot of celebrated pioneers acclaimed widely as justice warriors.

Jewish people have historically stood with other marginalised groups, including during the civil rights movement as you said.

That solidarity is a two-way street — if we only stand for ourselves, we all lose.

ForWittyTealOP · 19/07/2025 12:14

Actually I think it's important to add that Abbott can't now claim to represent Travellers (Hackney has one of the UK's largest Traveller populations) or Irish people (who have traditionally made their home in Hackney) in her constituency. How can she, when she refuses to acknowledge the racism and hostility they face? She is evidently not doing her job as an MP. I wouldn't trust her to speak up for me or deal with any issues I have as a Jewish person, whether or not they are related to my ethnicity. Why would anybody else?

SharonEllis · 19/07/2025 12:15

ForWittyTealOP · 19/07/2025 12:14

Actually I think it's important to add that Abbott can't now claim to represent Travellers (Hackney has one of the UK's largest Traveller populations) or Irish people (who have traditionally made their home in Hackney) in her constituency. How can she, when she refuses to acknowledge the racism and hostility they face? She is evidently not doing her job as an MP. I wouldn't trust her to speak up for me or deal with any issues I have as a Jewish person, whether or not they are related to my ethnicity. Why would anybody else?

Agree.

AuntyHistamine · 19/07/2025 12:25

nomas · 19/07/2025 11:54

Was that really necessary?

No it wasn’t. Nobody should spit on police officers. It’s absolutely vile behaviour.

AuntyHistamine · 19/07/2025 12:28

nomas · 19/07/2025 11:55

Whilst I disagree with her that they can’t experience racism, she did say they experience prejudice similar to racism.

Not originally she didn’t. Go back further. It’s available online. She originally said they don’t experience racism. In Diane Abbot’s mind only black people can experience racism. It’s that simple.