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AIBU to agree with Diane Abbott

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Elephantiner · 17/07/2025 14:18

I cannot stand Diane Abbott, she has a lazy, patronising manner which riles me, but she has said that people visiblybof a different race (e.g. black people) experience a different sort of racism than those who’s race is not visually obvious (travellers, Jewish people etc). She has a point, doesn’t she? Am I missing something here?

Obviously all types of racism are utterly abhorrent.

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Dangermoo · 17/07/2025 23:23

HRTQueen · 17/07/2025 23:21

Seriously

wrf that was a group of men that the vast majority of people have been absolutely horrified to learn about

same can not be said about what Diane Abbott has to deal with

Once again, what are you talking about. Were the Rotheram girls referred to as white slags or not? I am rebutting the notion that only black women are subjected to sexism and racism. I know you love Abbot but you're either deliberately being obtuse, or not keeping up with the thread.

EasternStandard · 17/07/2025 23:26

BumblingBanana · 17/07/2025 23:21

I cannot stand her, however I wish people would listen to her on race. She was one of the first British black elected MPs, alongside Lammy et al. The amount of racist abuse her and her peers have experienced is off the scale, but also sadly indicative of many black British peoples experiences.

I think it's a hill she is willing to die on and good for her. I think she is representing the experiences of her constituents.

Do you read @Longingdreamerpost below and still think this?

MightyDandelionEsq · 17/07/2025 23:29

SnacksAndChaosThanks · 17/07/2025 23:21

I think it’s important that you learn to distinguish between racism and other forms of harm or oppression. White women absolutely experience sexism, and sometimes targeted violence - but that doesn’t make it racism. Racism is specifically about racial prejudice combined with systemic power. In the UK, Black and brown people disproportionately face this because of how institutions are set up and maintained.

What happened in Rotherham was horrific, but it wasn’t about systemic racism against white people - it was a failure of safeguarding, compounded by other complex social dynamics. Using that tragedy to suggest white people face racism the way people of colour do isn’t accurate or true.

It was the systemic rape of white working class girls.

If it was another race of children that’d been targeted then it’d be highlighted all the time. As I understand it, Rotheram specifically was conducted by men of South Asian heritage (a different race). The 2014 report states this according to Google.

We’re getting off topic but to talk about the systemic issues surrounding POC please let’s not ignore the Rape Gangs and who they targeted. It’s what led to the gangs being ignored in the first place.

ThreeLocusts · 17/07/2025 23:29

I'm white and a serial migrant in the process of getting reeeeeally tired of getting funny reactions for speaking with an accent. I have African colleagues who struggle to even find a bank that wants their custom.

Of course it's worse for black people. That said, it's all shite.

Dangermoo · 17/07/2025 23:29

SnacksAndChaosThanks · 17/07/2025 23:21

I think it’s important that you learn to distinguish between racism and other forms of harm or oppression. White women absolutely experience sexism, and sometimes targeted violence - but that doesn’t make it racism. Racism is specifically about racial prejudice combined with systemic power. In the UK, Black and brown people disproportionately face this because of how institutions are set up and maintained.

What happened in Rotherham was horrific, but it wasn’t about systemic racism against white people - it was a failure of safeguarding, compounded by other complex social dynamics. Using that tragedy to suggest white people face racism the way people of colour do isn’t accurate or true.

I will say the same thing to you as I say to anyone who tries this on. Where, in the Equality Act, is the white race made an exception? The very term white slag is racist.

Dangermoo · 17/07/2025 23:30

MightyDandelionEsq · 17/07/2025 23:29

It was the systemic rape of white working class girls.

If it was another race of children that’d been targeted then it’d be highlighted all the time. As I understand it, Rotheram specifically was conducted by men of South Asian heritage (a different race). The 2014 report states this according to Google.

We’re getting off topic but to talk about the systemic issues surrounding POC please let’s not ignore the Rape Gangs and who they targeted. It’s what led to the gangs being ignored in the first place.

Exactly. This thread is really very telling.

HRTQueen · 17/07/2025 23:31

Dangermoo · 17/07/2025 23:23

Once again, what are you talking about. Were the Rotheram girls referred to as white slags or not? I am rebutting the notion that only black women are subjected to sexism and racism. I know you love Abbot but you're either deliberately being obtuse, or not keeping up with the thread.

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no I am making a point that this was a group of disgusting predatory men that people have been horrified by what they did

It’s not acceptable and who is defending them or trying to reason their behaviour

SnacksAndChaosThanks · 17/07/2025 23:31

MightyDandelionEsq · 17/07/2025 23:29

It was the systemic rape of white working class girls.

If it was another race of children that’d been targeted then it’d be highlighted all the time. As I understand it, Rotheram specifically was conducted by men of South Asian heritage (a different race). The 2014 report states this according to Google.

We’re getting off topic but to talk about the systemic issues surrounding POC please let’s not ignore the Rape Gangs and who they targeted. It’s what led to the gangs being ignored in the first place.

No one is ignoring the horror of what happened in Rotherham - or the racial dynamics involved. Those girls were failed on multiple levels, and it’s absolutely right that those failures were exposed and addressed. But it’s important not to confuse that with the systemic racism faced by people of colour every day.

What happened in Rotherham was not racism against white girls—it was institutional neglect driven by classism, misogyny, and yes, fear of being labelled racist. That’s not the same as the systemic, generational racism experienced by Black and brown communities across policing, healthcare, education, and media representation.

Bringing this up when discussing racism faced by people of colour often ends up derailing the conversation. Both things deserve serious attention- but one doesn’t erase the other.

Dangermoo · 17/07/2025 23:33

SnacksAndChaosThanks · 17/07/2025 23:31

No one is ignoring the horror of what happened in Rotherham - or the racial dynamics involved. Those girls were failed on multiple levels, and it’s absolutely right that those failures were exposed and addressed. But it’s important not to confuse that with the systemic racism faced by people of colour every day.

What happened in Rotherham was not racism against white girls—it was institutional neglect driven by classism, misogyny, and yes, fear of being labelled racist. That’s not the same as the systemic, generational racism experienced by Black and brown communities across policing, healthcare, education, and media representation.

Bringing this up when discussing racism faced by people of colour often ends up derailing the conversation. Both things deserve serious attention- but one doesn’t erase the other.

The irony of this post.

Dangermoo · 17/07/2025 23:33

HRTQueen · 17/07/2025 23:31

no I am making a point that this was a group of disgusting predatory men that people have been horrified by what they did

It’s not acceptable and who is defending them or trying to reason their behaviour

Ffs. I give up.

SnacksAndChaosThanks · 17/07/2025 23:33

Dangermoo · 17/07/2025 23:29

I will say the same thing to you as I say to anyone who tries this on. Where, in the Equality Act, is the white race made an exception? The very term white slag is racist.

You're right that the Equality Act protects all racial groups from discrimination - including white people. And yes, calling anyone a racial slur is wrong. But the Equality Act doesn’t erase power structures or history. It’s one thing to be called something offensive, and another to live under a system where your race systematically affects your opportunities, treatment, and safety.
Saying 'white slag' is racist in a moment. But racism as a system isn’t just about isolated insults—it’s about consistent patterns of disadvantage. And that’s where Black and brown people face the sharpest edge. That’s not an attack on white people - it’s just reality.

Dangermoo · 17/07/2025 23:34

SnacksAndChaosThanks · 17/07/2025 23:33

You're right that the Equality Act protects all racial groups from discrimination - including white people. And yes, calling anyone a racial slur is wrong. But the Equality Act doesn’t erase power structures or history. It’s one thing to be called something offensive, and another to live under a system where your race systematically affects your opportunities, treatment, and safety.
Saying 'white slag' is racist in a moment. But racism as a system isn’t just about isolated insults—it’s about consistent patterns of disadvantage. And that’s where Black and brown people face the sharpest edge. That’s not an attack on white people - it’s just reality.

Your reality - not mine.

Livelovebehappy · 17/07/2025 23:34

Doubtmyselff · 17/07/2025 22:30

Sometimes it’s like black people enjoy playing the victim too much,

I knew you were in there @Livelovebehappy 😂

I stand by what I said. Abbot was almost annoyed that Jewish people were claiming racism, as if only Black people were allowed to feel that way. Ironically by trying to stand up to racism against one group of people, she was then minimising another group of people’s experiences. The antisemitism she has displayed previously was there, just beneath the surface….

SnacksAndChaosThanks · 17/07/2025 23:35

Dangermoo · 17/07/2025 23:34

Your reality - not mine.

Right—because racism only counts once it knocks on your front door. Got it.

Dangermoo · 17/07/2025 23:35

Livelovebehappy · 17/07/2025 23:34

I stand by what I said. Abbot was almost annoyed that Jewish people were claiming racism, as if only Black people were allowed to feel that way. Ironically by trying to stand up to racism against one group of people, she was then minimising another group of people’s experiences. The antisemitism she has displayed previously was there, just beneath the surface….

Plenty of antisemitism on this thread as well.

Dangermoo · 17/07/2025 23:36

SnacksAndChaosThanks · 17/07/2025 23:35

Right—because racism only counts once it knocks on your front door. Got it.

What about when it knocks on Jews' doors? That's the whole point of this thread.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 17/07/2025 23:37

I think there are going to be differences in different kinds of racism - inevitably- but it’s probably not worth pointing out, as they’re all equally awful.

And tbh I think most people can tell quite quickly when someone is from a different racial/ ethnic background, especially those who are disposed to be prejudiced against them.

Mrsmouse71 · 17/07/2025 23:37

Dangermoo · 17/07/2025 15:29

She said this years' ago. Straight out of the Whoopi Goldberg school of ignorance. Then again, this is the woman, who reckoned only black women would do anything for their kids.

Isn’t this from a couple of years ago?

RareDeer · 17/07/2025 23:37

SnacksAndChaosThanks · 17/07/2025 23:31

No one is ignoring the horror of what happened in Rotherham - or the racial dynamics involved. Those girls were failed on multiple levels, and it’s absolutely right that those failures were exposed and addressed. But it’s important not to confuse that with the systemic racism faced by people of colour every day.

What happened in Rotherham was not racism against white girls—it was institutional neglect driven by classism, misogyny, and yes, fear of being labelled racist. That’s not the same as the systemic, generational racism experienced by Black and brown communities across policing, healthcare, education, and media representation.

Bringing this up when discussing racism faced by people of colour often ends up derailing the conversation. Both things deserve serious attention- but one doesn’t erase the other.

‘White girls are for rape’ was one particular quote that stood out to me regarding Rotheram. That will be due to deep rooted views on white girls. That’s racism.

And you’re right, one doesn’t negate the other. So we need to accept that Rotheram was also related to aspects of racism.

SnacksAndChaosThanks · 17/07/2025 23:38

Dangermoo · 17/07/2025 23:36

What about when it knocks on Jews' doors? That's the whole point of this thread.

Ah yes, the classic move - when all else fails, summon Jewish suffering as a rhetorical shield. Because acknowledging anti-Black racism apparently requires a full detour through every other oppression first. Impressive footwork, honestly.

Dangermoo · 17/07/2025 23:39

SnacksAndChaosThanks · 17/07/2025 23:38

Ah yes, the classic move - when all else fails, summon Jewish suffering as a rhetorical shield. Because acknowledging anti-Black racism apparently requires a full detour through every other oppression first. Impressive footwork, honestly.

The monopoly on racism isn't owned by one group.

Dangermoo · 17/07/2025 23:40

In fact, I'm starting to think DA has made an appearance.

SnacksAndChaosThanks · 17/07/2025 23:40

RareDeer · 17/07/2025 23:37

‘White girls are for rape’ was one particular quote that stood out to me regarding Rotheram. That will be due to deep rooted views on white girls. That’s racism.

And you’re right, one doesn’t negate the other. So we need to accept that Rotheram was also related to aspects of racism.

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That quote is absolutely vile, no question. And the men who said it held deeply racialised and misogynistic views. Not one person here is excusing that. But one group of predators expressing hateful views doesn't rewrite the definition of racism as a systemic force. Individual prejudice, even when racialised, isn't the same as structural oppression. If it were, then every hateful comment would carry the same weight as centuries of institutionalised inequality—and I think we both know that's not how power works.

MightyDandelionEsq · 17/07/2025 23:42

SnacksAndChaosThanks · 17/07/2025 23:31

No one is ignoring the horror of what happened in Rotherham - or the racial dynamics involved. Those girls were failed on multiple levels, and it’s absolutely right that those failures were exposed and addressed. But it’s important not to confuse that with the systemic racism faced by people of colour every day.

What happened in Rotherham was not racism against white girls—it was institutional neglect driven by classism, misogyny, and yes, fear of being labelled racist. That’s not the same as the systemic, generational racism experienced by Black and brown communities across policing, healthcare, education, and media representation.

Bringing this up when discussing racism faced by people of colour often ends up derailing the conversation. Both things deserve serious attention- but one doesn’t erase the other.

I politely disagree.

I (and I think a lot of people) truly believe there was a race angle. It they’d have been a different race (say black?) I’m not sure you’d stick to your current reasoning.

The reports I’ve read have many exerts from victims who were called white whores, white slags etc. White was mentioned a lot by victims.

Back to the original topic. Have a nice evening.

SnacksAndChaosThanks · 17/07/2025 23:42

Dangermoo · 17/07/2025 23:39

The monopoly on racism isn't owned by one group.

No monopoly, yeah - more like some folks own the whole damn casino, rig the slot machines, and still act surprised when everyone else keeps losing.