To ask how much you pay for beauty services like your nails, hair, etc?

[ChattyChai]

I’m 39, turning 40 at the end of the year.

My husband thinks I’m being ridiculous with what I spend, but we can afford it comfortably and it makes me feel good.

I spend £42 every 3-5 weeks on nails, and every 3 months or so an extra £15 to get my eyebrows waxed and tinted.

i spend £140 every two months on getting my hair extensions moved up, and then every 4 months an extra £77 to get my roots done.

he thinks this is silly money and an extra £110 a month we could be saving, but I work, it’s my only real splurge each month and it makes me feel great. Am I spending too much? How much do you spend?

I used to get my nails done but I was going crazy with the nail art and it was costing £60-80 a go so I've stopped it now!

These days my costs are only
£30 hair cut every 2 months (dye it myself)
£12 eyebrow wax every 2 weeks (tint them myself)
£20 full face wax every month
Lash and brow serum £100 every 6 months or so.

I bought myself a lumea and that's nixed the need to get waxed any where else so it paid for itself in a year. That was £200 I think.

I don’t see a problem as long as you are contributing fairly towards billls etc.

I believe women should maintain financial independence always. Not just because some men have the same attitude as OP’s husband and will take advantage of the financial vulnerability to be controlling. But you really don’t want to ever be in a position where you can’t afford to leave a relationship that you want to leave. That’s an awful place to be. (Not saying OP wants to leave her husband, just that she should not have put herself in a position where she can’t.)

You've just put yourself further under the thumb of a financially controlling man.

Find a job or go for a certification where you can have some money coming in. Do you have supportive family and friends near?

WTAF????
This is bordering on financial abuse!

They are his kids too. Stop paying for after school clubs and put him down as named contact when they need collecting at 3pm!

I think your husband’s attitude towards money is the issue here. He’s happy to have way more disposable income than you but also disapprove of what you choose to spend your much reduced amount on. That’s shit.

My DH earns more than I do as he works full time and I work part-time since having kids. Our money is shared, we have the same access to disposable income, I can spend mine on whatever I like as can he, that’s the whole point of it. On top of the £100 month I broke down earlier, I also spend about £50 a month on yoga classes and £120 a month on my Peloton bike (rented but will buy soon).

I’ve lost a lot of weight and actually care about my appearance now and take pride in stuff I never would have paid for before because I would have felt foolish or embarrassed for trying to look nice when I was obese. Which is a horrible thing to think about oneself but it was how I felt. So my spending on myself has shot up, but I look at it as a positive thing as I now have confidence in myself and believe myself to be worth it, and that’s worth the money!

Zero!

Nails £1.99 a week (i use nail wraps)
Hair £95 every other month (roots and highlights)

They're his kids too. Making you pay for the kids clubs so you can work is financial abuse.

Hair £50 about 4 times a year. Brows £10 every 6-8 weeks. Currently spending money on pedicures but only because I'm pregnant and can't easily reach! Usually do my own.

You both benefit from childcare so this should be a joint expense. It enables both of you to work full-time.

Sorry OP, but he sounds AWFUL.

Hair £85 every 2 months cut and dye or highlights
Nails £35 only really get done for special occasions
Eye brow wax and brow/lash tint probably every 3 months £20
I think as long as you can afford it then up to you!

£34 every 8-10 weeks for a haircut. I like being low maintenance for many reasons.

I think the point of the post has changed. Husband is financially abusing OP. He's draining the money she earns while his spending is coming from their joint account . He thinks this is payback for him supporting her while she was having their children

Here, unless they were actually discussing specific business deals and details, it wouldn't be considered networking

£25 on gel nails & eyebrow wax every 4 weeks (package - same lady does both)

£50 underarm/full leg and Holywood wax every six weeks

£100 on hair every 8 weeks (full head of foils, roots & trim)

£250 on Botox every 4 months (elevens and crow’s feet)

Soo.. £2158.50 per year, which is fucking ridiculous but also, thankfully, we can afford it

What you do with your equal fun money is surely up to you?

I saw your other update re your confidence growing after getting hair extensions.

Did he prefer you in the mousey, child rearing years and feeling unsettled by the new, confident you?

Childcare allows you BOTH to work, so should be a joint expense.

That said, do you actually pool money at all?

Or is it that he pays the vast majority of bills out of his income and you pay a few bits and bobs out of yours? Because you need to sit down together and work out what comes in, what goes out, long and short term savings and then allocate (the same amount) of personal spends each.

That said, I'd not be happy about my partner who only pulled in a third of my income deciding to give up their job for a lower paid one because they couldn't hack it - expecting me to make up the shortfall. I assume you did discuss this with him first? And he was happy to support you to make your life easier at his expense?

Agree.

What other MN spend is hardly the point!

I gel my own nails & I wax my own eyebrows but I spend about £150 - £200 a month on my hair. I also spend about £200 every 3 months on botox. Over my dead body would anyone be telling me to not spend this unless we were struggling to pay for essential things or depriving our son.

Hair £80 every eight weeks
Pedicure £35 every eight weeks

That’s my lot. 20 odd years of gel nails left them in such a state it took three or four years for them to recover. Never again.

40 on hair every 8 weeks. 45 on pedicure every 8 weeks and 40 on hair vitamins every 3 months.

I do sometimes have nails and that’s £29 every 3 weeks no currently as I’m on natural nails and polish from Christmas gifts, I go 3 times a year for a pedicure with gel polish (£35) and in between get the polish changed (£25) twice a year. Hair is £30 once or twice a year

Ah. So he's a dick?

I don't spend on any of this stuff. I get my hair trimmed by a family member (not a professional) for free every year or so. Never bothered with the other stuff.

I have a budget of £80 month for personal non essentials and would rather buy books or craft materials tbh!