To ask how much you pay for beauty services like your nails, hair, etc?

[ChattyChai]

I’m 39, turning 40 at the end of the year.

My husband thinks I’m being ridiculous with what I spend, but we can afford it comfortably and it makes me feel good.

I spend £42 every 3-5 weeks on nails, and every 3 months or so an extra £15 to get my eyebrows waxed and tinted.

i spend £140 every two months on getting my hair extensions moved up, and then every 4 months an extra £77 to get my roots done.

he thinks this is silly money and an extra £110 a month we could be saving, but I work, it’s my only real splurge each month and it makes me feel great. Am I spending too much? How much do you spend?

Would it? I’m just not sure I agree with him when he says it’s for his career. It’s him and his work mates golfing, he wouldn’t lose his job if he said no. Putting it on paper (screen!) makes me realise how much more he’s benefitting than I am

Networking at golf three times a week 🤣🤣🤣

About £400 a month, I'm retired so plenty of time

He’s taking the piss with that a bit isn’t he? I’ve never really questioned it before because he insists it’s what they all do

£30 every 3 weeks for nails
£140-180 every 10 weeks for hair
£45 a month on prescription skincare
£100ish every 3-4 months on other skincare
Would get brows,lashes and Botox if I could but can't justify it in the budget.

Why is your partner telling you how to spend your money?

DP wouldn’t dream of commenting on my spending (and I spend far more frivolously than £110/month on beauty treatments), and nor would I ever comment on the things he spunks money on, even though some are truly mind-boggling to me personally.

To answer your question, there’s no real pattern and I don’t track it. The last month or so:

Cut & colour - $350
Eyebrow threading - $32
Gel manicure - $52
Facial - $160

Live in an expensive city and have to tip 20% on top of list price.

Nails £22 every 4-6 weeks on average. I just do gel polish and rest them inbetween for a couple of weeks. I know super cheap and she’s great.

Hair cut/colour £100 every 8-12 weeks.

Emlift non surgical facelift every 3 months £150

Tint eyebrows at home. Kit is £12 and lasts at least 10 months.

@ChattyChai AI says (so, obviously true then 😉)

Spending time at the salon as a client can be a form of networking, primarily through building relationships with the salon staff and potentially with other clients. While not a traditional networking event, the salon environment fosters social interaction and can lead to connections that benefit both the client and the business.

Here's why it can be considered networking:

Building relationships:
Regular salon visits allow for conversations with stylists and other staff, building rapport and trust. This can lead to referrals or recommendations to other clients or even business opportunities.
Social interaction:
Salons are social spaces where clients can chat with each other, creating opportunities to connect with people who share similar interests or needs.
Exposure to new ideas:
Discussions with stylists and other clients can introduce new ideas about beauty, style, or even business in general.
Potential for business referrals:
If a client has a positive experience and develops a strong relationship with the salon staff, they may be more likely to recommend the salon to others, including potential business contacts.
Loyalty and advocacy:
Strong client relationships can foster loyalty, leading clients to become advocates for the salon, which is a form of networking in itself.
While the primary purpose of visiting a salon is for beauty services, the social and communicative aspects can contribute to networking and relationship building.

Sounds fair enough to me. 😊

37 years old, £0

No beauty treatments at all outside of the make up I put on my face.

One length hair that mum trims a few cms off for me every couple of months, it costs me making her a nice coffee after ☺️

*edited to add**
Actually just remembered I buy a box of facial wax strips (moustache) which cost about £6 and last 2-3 months. So about £24 a year/
or £2 per month

Christ, I’ve just worked it out 🤦‍♀️ it averages out at around £500 per month. It’s my money though and I can afford it. DH doesn’t care what I do or don’t do as long as I’m happy.

I think it’s because he earns nearly double what I do and so he’s been the one supporting the family, at times we were a one income household when the children were little so he sees it as me having to “pay him back” now

Hair cut and colour £175 every 5/6 weeks
mails £40 every month,
I do think it’s a lot of money.I could go grey it would be less expensive.

I don’t do nails, brows, lashes or anything like that.

my hair works out at £100 every 8 weeks because I have an expensive anti frizz/straighteng treatment done every 4 months.

But he's going to golf with the other managers and networking with them. That's an important part of getting opportunities and promotions in some industries. I don't think this is unreasonable for it to be seen as a work expense.

But that's irrelevant to your question.

You should both have an equal amount of personal spends each month (for non work related expenses) and you should be able to spend that on whatever you like. You can easily afford to buy your beauty treatment out of your spends, so it's not really any of his business.

This is me! 🤗

His golf should not be coming out of the joint account, it should be his "fun money".

He is full of 🐂💩. It's him goofing off with his work buds on the links instead of actually working. He could be "networking " with them at work. If it was work related events, work would be paying for it.

"he sees it as me having to “pay him back” now" 😱

and what, exactly, in no uncertain terms, say you to that @ChattyChai?

You have to pay him back for the time when you were growing, giving birth to and raising his children? Hell no!

I had one like this but he was controlling in other ways too. Do you think he really doesn't get it, and some cold hard truths will help, or does he not value your contribution to the family?

It’s not really relevant what other people spend their money on though, it’s all you and what you enjoy spending yours on!

Personally I trim my own hair, dye it with box dye to cover the greys, treat it with at-home olaplex, do my own lashes/eyebrows and regularly do at-home manicures/pedicures. I enjoy doing it and have a decent enough kit that I can do everything myself, plus I don’t really enjoy having people do it for me.

This probably still adds up to about £30 a month for all the bits and pieces

Hair £40 + Brows £15 every 6 weeks
Highlights twice a year £65
Do my own nails

I don’t really say much. I couldn’t afford to live without him at this point. I’ve handed in my notice at work and I’m taking a pay cut to get out of a job that’s absolutely run me ragged over the last decade or so. He brings home nearly triple what I do and I don’t have a ton of savings that aren’t in joint names

I spend £55 on nails every 6-12 weeks (sometimes I give my nails a break sometimes I don't)

Haircut is £60 every 12 weeks (but I have and would spend double, I just happen to really like this hairdresser. I colour at home because I hate sitting there longer then needed 😂)

Shampoo etc is £130 every 3 months

Eyebrows are £20 threading every 8 weeks

My best mate spends easily double that or more.

But non of that matters, not one bit. What matters is that you should have equal amounts of spending money and like fuck should his golf club membership come out of joint money. He's "Networking". No he's bunking off twice a week for a jolly.

Continue to get all the things that make you feel fab and that you deserve to get and he can continue to go golfing out of HIS fun funds.

That’s an appalling attitude for him to have. You have children together and no doubt you took longer stretches off work to raise them which facilitated his career and enabled his now higher earnings. You don’t “owe” him anything.

If they are all playing golf and he's not - then he misses out on networking with them and therefore opportunities and promotions. Honestly! The fact that he enjoys it doesn't mean that it's not something that progresses his career, or that would hold him back if he didn't do it.

I'm really surprised that people don't understand this.

Just like going to a Corporate Event, where they serve drinks and canapes helps my career. Yes, I enjoy the drinks and canapes and yes, I could do my job without it. But if I don't go along to these Corporate Events, then I will miss out on opportunities and promotions. I wouldn't get fired for not going, but I wouldn't be the one put forward for promotions or projects if my face wasn't seen to fit, and going along to these events is part of making your face fit.

My career only really started when our youngest son turned 2. I also have expenses I pay each month (after school clubs etc) that he doesn’t want coming out of the joint account. He says they’re my responsibility as they essentially provide wrap around childcare so I can work full time.