Friend bringing friend on 80th birthday hol and making us pay

[SparklyBrickHare]

I’m absolutely fuming this morning. My friend and I are going to Las Vegas in December for our joint 80th celebrations, mine in November and hers in January. She has told me she’s bringing her other friend with us who I don’t like very much because she witters on about herself all the time.

It was supposed to just be me, DH, her and her DH but now she’s asked if her and I can split the bill and pay for this friend to come with us because she’s lonely and hasn’t got much money. She’s expecting us to pay for not only the flights and hotel but for a day trip and helicopter ride over the Grand Canyon which isn’t exactly cheap anyway without having to fork out for someone else.

I’m annoyed at the both of them. Her friend for expecting it and my friend for asking me to split it with someone I don’t like very much. The problem is that you can’t say anything to her because she victim blames and flies of the handle if you disagree with her. We can’t really have any fall outs because we need to get it booked quickly.
What would you do?

Because she said she doesn’t want to fall out with the friend. In the real world, people try to be as kind and non confrontational with friends as possible. Just saying “no” is a bit abrupt.

I would not be paying for her. That sort of thing has to be voluntary, it can't be English on the unsuspecting and the unwilling.

Enforced, not English. Sorry

First response nailed it to be fair!

I’ve also never been to Vegas, I wouldn’t be tagging along for free on someone’s else birthday trip though. Some people are just hilarious!

Do not let them spoil your trip!

If you haven't paid anything yet, I'd step back entirely. Along the lines of "special trip, costing a lot already, now realising I need to postpone so you 3 should go alone"

Because whether you pay for friend or not, she will be going.

If saying 'No' is a bit abrupt, what is saying 'I want to bring a friend you don't like, who isn't celebrating a life event like we are and I want you to pay half of her expenses' ?

Of course it would be lovely if your friend came, but unfortunately DH and I cant afford to subside her

No, it wouldn't be lovely, OP doesn't even like the friend.

Two wrongs don’t make a right though, do they?

Why do you think 'No' is a wrong ?
OP doesn't like this extra person and her 'friend' wants her to pay half of the person she doesn't likes costs.
Paying half the cost for someone I didn't like to accompany me on a celebration trip would just be a straight 'No' for me.
What would you do ?

It’s such a shame that 6 pages in and @SparklyBrickHare has not been back to engage in the thread that she started. I don’t know why people bother starting a thread if they are not going to engage with it or reply to other posters.

You are being unreasonable in the fact you are gone to America during these deplorable Trump times. Unless you are in America, then do ignore this and you have my sympathies.

Oh, bugger, not another PaR (post and run).

I'm still fairly new to MN, is this on the increase ?

Your friend has lost her marbles. The nerve alone is unbelievable. She wants her there then she can pay for her friend. I’d find a better holiday without them

I think I'm more impressed that they're all in their 80s. Especially planning helicopter rides and everything. That's a chunk of pretty active 80 yr olds.

Who would even want to be the gooseberry on holiday with two couples and then expecting them to pay, how embarrassing.

The answer is no. I don’t understand why you’d even need to ask. It’s your birthday, so no, you won’t be paying for her friend to come.

Sorry, Dorothy. I don’t want to go with Blanche so Miles and I will just arrange to go by ourselves.

Tell her [fuck] no. If she want her friend to join your holiday, your “friend” should pay for it. End of conversation.

Just say no! That's above my budget for the holiday.
Why on earth would she expect you to pay for this woman. Surely the woman who is supposed to be getting a free holiday must ve mortified.

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Yeah, which kind of makes this AI. Hah

Most people at 80 aren’t traveling anywhere except to the hospital.

Just say, "No, that doesn't work for me."

What's she going to do, frog march you to the nearest ATM?

op didn’t need ask , because this is a wind up / fake post.
I have reported it.