To think that my appearance is no one else’s business?

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I’ve lost 5 stone over the course of around a year, and I finally feel happy with myself for the first time in a very long time. The weight loss was fuelled by a relationship breakup, and I’ve really been prioritising self care and enjoying being alone. I feel genuinely happy and confident, and I’ve always been curious about aesthetic treatments but to be honest I never bothered because I knew I’d still feel rubbish until I’d shifted the weight so it felt pointless. Fast forward to now and so far I’ve had my eyebrows micro bladed, hair extensions fitted, and an upper blepharoplasty scheduled later this month as I’ve always had hooded eyes that are now starting to affect my vision due to the skin sagging onto my eyelashes.

I also got the tiniest bit of lip filler at the weekend, had zero plans of telling my family because it’s none of their business, but they saw me the afternoon I had it done and it’s like all hell has broken loose. My mum and sister are disgusted with me, saying I’m ’taking It too far’ and I don’t need anything done. I’m just so annoyed because I’m finally happy and confident and treating myself to these little tweaks that I KNOW the risks of, I’ve accepted those. I feel like they’d rather I went back to being fat and miserable.

AIBU to ignore them if they ever bring up my
looks as it’s none of their business? Am I being too harsh?

OP’s lips look good though. As long as she doesn’t go into trout pout territory they look really nice.

I don't like lip filler so I don't get it done. That's my body and my choice.

You are entitled to do what you please to your body. It is absolutely no one's business. Ignore your family, OP.

You can consider a feminist perspective and be critical of things like surgery, beauty treatments, and make up, without being a dick and dragging down/insulting other women.

fuck em. Your body your choice

I don’t think a tummy tuck is vanity in your case.

I think this is the oddest opinion and conclusion I've read on MN.

Much much more likely is they are concerned about the hazards of a procedure carried out by someone who is not a doctor, or simply that they don't think the OP needs such things and are concerned for her mental health or confidence.

However op is an adult and is free to do as she pleases, and can just ignore the comments.

You do you OP and ignore everyone else.

Including the lazy posters who slap out the word 'jealous' like a seal hitting a keypad.

Whatever other people's reasons are for trying to get into your business, it's your business so just ignore them.

Really? Because over the years, especially in the relationships board, I have seen many examples of this situation. Some families can get very peculiar when members step out of their lane (as they see it).

And I think the OP has confirmed that this dynamic is in play. As well as her sister being a conspiracy theorist.

You look gorgeous! And what beautiful skin and hair. The lips look lovely too!

well done on turning your life around, stay happy, it suits you

Well done on all the positive changes. Sounds like you're healthy and happy. I voted YANBU.
Tweakments are not for me but I understand why others might want them however they can divide opinion as you often see on here. The important thing is it's what you want for you. I think shutting down conversations about your appearance with the family is the way to go. Eg
Mum: What have you had done to your lips?!
You: I've had lip filler recently. I'm really happy with the results but I don't want to discuss it further. Have you seen the weather today? What are you eating for dinner?

You can use this technique for other topics they disagree with too. Perhaps they don't agree with tweakments and that's totally fine, it's dealing with the conflict when it arises.