Weird first date ?

[Clarkeroyce]

So I went on a first date with this man that I’ve been talking to non stop for two weeks. He’s been literally calling me everyday. We had a few words a couple years ago but I ended up not following through with him.

anyways we get on the date, and it was awkward? He was staring at me the whole time but no complements, who was staring in space a lot. He even wore sunglasses, I asked him to take them off which he did but put them back on right after….?

Its just very disappointing because we have such good chemistry over FaceTime and phone calls, just for him to show up and he awkward and distant ? Was he just not attracted or into me ?

Lots of potential relationships won't be right for one or both of you, and that's OK. It's easy to get a bit over-invested when you've decided to start dating. You've unfortunately gone soaring away on your imagination with this one, and the reality is that you don't connect in the way you dreamed. Pop him back, keep trying. Next time keep a firmer grip on your emotions before a proper relationship develops.

Why was he wearing sun glasses?

Regarding the sunglasses - was the date outside?

We can’t know why. What we do know is that you disliked him wearing them and disliked the way he stared and spoke to you. So he’s not a match for you although he seemed like it on Facebook.

If you have been getting on really well before the date then maybe ask him about it before cutting and running.
My first thought reading it was did he have a migraine?
If you don’t get a good answer or he does it a second time, then ditch him.

No we were in side a smoothie place when he had them on

@Clarkeroyce During the day I take it? How old are you guys?

Well yes ask him about it, but unless you want a relationship conducted via the medium of instant messenger then this probably isn't the one for you.

He’s 29 I’m 24

He was probably on coke or something else. Weird but I know a lot of people who do this when using something. Maybe was nervous about face to face so he’s took something.

this was at 7pm

Maybe he thinks the sunglasses are "cool" so chose to wear them. Id find that weird and as bad as the dating market is it would probably put me off wearing them indoors granted it is still bright at 7pm now a days but no need to cover his eyes. Quite rude really as u couldn't make eye contact probably which can be a big part of flirting the little glances etc. Worse case scenario is he has a gf and didn't want to get "spotted"

Trust your gut… I won’t see him again ever

Yes it was really good before the date lots of chemistry! I’m not sure what happened the vibe wasn’t there at all ….plus it only lasted a hour, the date was about 4 hours ago and he hasn’t texted me. So I’m just going to move on

Probably hungover or on the comedown.

I think it’s odd to expect compliments in person though. Some people feel very awkward about just standing there praising someone even if it’s sincere.

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Was it Bono?

With respect the ‘chemistry’ you feel through messaging isn’t genuine. Until you meet in person you really have no idea whether there’s anything there and in this case there wasn’t.

Texting for weeks on end creates a false intimacy. Meet up asap and see if there’s a genuine spark.

I don't know. Commonly what people do if they want to know something like that is ask a question such as: "Why are you still wearing sunglasses in the evening?" And then see what the reply is.

In London yesterday with a friend and she was wearing her sunglasses on the tube, because they were prescription and we'd just come from outside. So could be the reason he kept wearing them, although weird that he didn't just say that though. Probably high though in reality. I'd ask him, but dump him if it is drugs, don't waste your time.

This.

And as for the sunglasses, how on earth is anyone here going to know that?!

Maybe he thought it looked cool? Maybe he doesn't like his eyes? Maybe they're prescription sunglasses and he'd forgotten his normal.ones? Maybe he thinks he's Andrew Eldritch? Maybe he's on drugs? Maybe he's really photosenstivie and light hurts his eyes?

I mean, you could have asked..?

Tbh, I'd be really put off if I went on a date and they just sat there complimenting me.

I'd expect them to have more to say and wouldn't like the focus being on what I looked like.

The thing is he wasn’t saying anything just staring at me ?

Why are you giving this man headspace? It was a shit date, it happens, you just move on.

Couldn’t agree more.