Weird first date ?

[Clarkeroyce]

So I went on a first date with this man that I’ve been talking to non stop for two weeks. He’s been literally calling me everyday. We had a few words a couple years ago but I ended up not following through with him.

anyways we get on the date, and it was awkward? He was staring at me the whole time but no complements, who was staring in space a lot. He even wore sunglasses, I asked him to take them off which he did but put them back on right after….?

Its just very disappointing because we have such good chemistry over FaceTime and phone calls, just for him to show up and he awkward and distant ? Was he just not attracted or into me ?

Hungover
On coke
Has a roving eye
Is a weirdo

Many reasons op. Please text him and ask and tell us what he says 😂

Agree. I d been on dates where they makes loads of cringey compliments and I hate it.

Id rather talk like adults and see if our minds are compatible.

Also this.

He might have hay fever, might have smoked a joint, might be autistic and find eye contact difficult, might be a secret agent.
I’ve had a situation where I felt chemistry online but in person, it just wasn’t there and we didn’t speak again afterwards. Nice guy but no spark - it happens.

He could have had a valid reason for wearing sunglasses, but I'd expect him to tell you in that case, especially as you asked him to take them off.

(I wear prescription sunglasses for driving and sometimes forget to take my normal ones and I can't see a damn thing without them.)

It doesn't sound like it went well anyway, especially if he hasn't texted you since - time to move on.

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I once went on a date with someone from my friendship group. We got on really well in a group. Often sought each other out and chatted away from the group, even met up for coffee once as friends when he was passing by near me and it was all good.

We went on a date and it was a disaster! We just had nothing to say to each other. I suppose we just didn't 'vibe' well without the wider group back up. Neither of us questioned it, we just carried on as we were in the friendship group and the date was never mentioned again! 😄

It happens.

It sounds like his real personality can’t live up to his online persona!

If there was a normal sensible reason for them then he could have explained.

Sorry, I left my prescription glasses at home and need these to see.

I've got a bad head and these are helping, and I didn't want to cancel on you

Etc

I’m liking the Bono option but given that he’s married, I think it probably wasn’t Bono.

Roy Orbison?

He could have had a valid reason for wearing sunglasses, but I'd expect him to tell you in that case, especially as you asked him to take them off.

Really?

I wouldn't disclose a medical condition, for exmaple, to someone on a frist date. I'm really photosensitive and wear sunglasses outside on all but the dullest days and even inside on occasion if its really bright because it's painful. I wouldn't feel the need to explain myself but I'd tell someone if they asked me directly.

You could just say that you are photosensitive, it's not something to be embarrassed about and it will clear up any speculation. I'd rather people know that than think I'm on drugs or hungover.

😂

Although it's been a while since Bono was 29

Id go on a second date and ask about the aunglasses, if he is nervous etc…

He hasn’t texted me

I don't think either of them could pass for 29 😅

Especially as I'm fairly sure Roy Orbison is dead.

Just block him and move on.

Well, not go into massive detail! But it would be reasonable to say something by way of explanation, as she specifically asked him to take them off, and he did but then put them straight back on again.

Agree with this and think that...

"this man that I’ve been talking to non stop for two weeks. He’s been literally calling me everyday."

...is the weirder thing. Very full on for someone you don't know. The way people act remotely can be so different to how they really are - so much is in our head projected onto them plus they can have a persona especially in messaging - so it's likely to be a disconnect in some way if you go from so full on to sitting opposite each other having to bring that chat. I wouldn't be following up and invest less next time, wait to see who people really are and whether there's a spark.

Subscription sunglasses ? Although what does it matter?

Maybe he doesn’t fancy you?

could they have been prescription sunglasses? My ex wears his constantly, even in house in summer

Was he high?

TBH he sounds a bit dangerous to me with that odd behaviour. I would put it down to experience and block him.

Always trust your gut instincts!