Childless houseguests-AIBU to keep my child quiet and out of the way?

[StressedHost]

If you have houseguests without children, that like to have sleep-ins and a quiet house, long meals etc., do you minimize all disruption caused by you child (ren) and adapt your schedule to those of the guests? Or do you go on with your life as usual?
I don't know what is the right thing to do and had a fight with DH over it. Essentially, I think it is basic kindness towards the guests to not disturb their sleep and quiet, and I'm aware that children of other people can be quite annoying, especially if you are childless and not used to the noise levels etc. DH thinks we owe them nothing, since they invited themselves and were aware that they were going to stay in a household with a young child.

For context, the guests are neither friends nor family. It is a former colleague that I know quite well, but am not particularly friends with, and her boyfriend, whom we had never met before he came to stay at our house. They sort of invited themselves for a few long weekends over the summer, because we live in a quite touristy, but expensive city. They are here to do sightseeing/going to events in our city, not to spend time with us. They stay for free obviously, but buy some of their groceries (special things they need due to intolerances).

We have a spare room/office, but our flat is quite small. And unfortunately the spare room is right beside the kitchen/living area, so they could certainly hear us getting up at the crack of dawn with our DC. DC is a typical 6YO, not particularly badly behaved, but will talk loudly, jump or run. DC is also awake latest at 6:30 am.
We have the first weekend behind us, and it was stressful. Especially keeping DC quiet from 6 am until 10 am (when the guests finally decided to get up) was hard. I tried to play as quietly as possible with DC in their room while feeding them only cookies for breakfast, to avoid noise in the kitchen (had no coffee myself as well until 10 am, because of our noisy coffee maker).
The guests are otherwise quite nice people-clean, tidy and did not complain about DC or the noise so far.

YANBU=Yes, it is basic kindness to keep your DC quiet. You agreed to the visits, so you have to do your best to keep the guests comfortable.

YABU=They invited themselves and were aware of the DC before coming, go on with your life as normal.

We will not agree to further visits by this couple (beyond the ones that are already planned), and probably stick with inviting only close friends or family until DC is older. So it is a lesson learned.

Don’t make it comfortable for them! Make it as uncomfortable as possible until they get a hotel!

The deal is clear, your life, your space. Make yourself that coffee and your child some breakfast. They can buy ear plugs if it offends them that much. Or… not stay at yours for free.

I agree with the majority, if you invite yourself stay in house with young children you can expect early mornings and noise rather than a long lie in! My friend's kids used to regularly be up at the crack of dawn and come and get in bed with me when I stayed. If anything, I'd be the one taking them downstairs to give the parents a rare chance of a lie-in! Go about your day as normal and point them in the direction of the coffee and cereal cupboard to help themselves when they finally surface. If they know you well enough to invite themselves to stay they can muck in and not inconvenience you too much. You're not running a hotel or B&B!

My God why are you letting these people walk all over you and use your home like a Travel Lodge.

If someone is staying in your house they have to accept your living situation and family.

If you’re this way inclined in all aspects of your life I would really look at raising your self confidence. It’s not ok for you to feel the need to be walked over like this and bend your life to fit others so unnecessarily.

We're childless and we wouldn't expect anyone to keep their children quiet for us! But then we wouldn't be CFs and use you as free lodgings either!!! Can't believe you agreed to that in the first place, considering you're hardly friends!
Yes, you carry on as you normally would, remember they're disrupting you, not the other way round!
And make sure they know you're no longer available to "host"!

Well, I was going to say try and keep the nose levels down, etc - until I got to the part where they have invited themselves and don't pay.....

Get on with your lives as normal. If they can't lie in until lord knows what time because of normal household noise, they may well decide not to stay with you again.

Use your kitchen, get breakfast sorted and then carry on your day as normal - don't pander to them!

I don’t have children and if I’m staying with people who do, I expect they’ll do their usual. There might be noise and some getting up in the night if the children are young but that’s to be expected in a house with children. I’d feel terrible if they thought they had to keep the children out of my way.

No way, cheeky fuckers. I’d be getting the Twister mat out and putting Agadoo on the karaoke machine for the kids.

Firstly, why on earth did you say yes to them staying with you when they're not even friends?

Secondly, having been idiotic to do the first, why the fuck are you tiptoeing around them when they're the ones intruding in your life.

Bloody hell OP, no wonder your husband is pissed off with you.

This is really weird OP, so you are funding their city break? (Presumably you are feeding them?).

id be inclined to say that you can’t accommodate their future dates and if asked why just say unfortunately it doesn’t work for you

Thank you all for the reality check. I will definitely be less stressed to keep DC quiet during their next visits. And yes, I am a people pleaser, probably because I am an introvert and quite socially awkward, so I tend to go OTT to be nice to others.
As for how I agreed to the visits, it was sort of a situation where you give your finger and they take your hand. I quite like the colleague, but I had never spent time with her outside of work before. She is a lot younger than me (mid 20s vs early 40s). We had/have a kind of mentee/mentor relationship, where we talk about her career development etc. Over the summer, she has to travel a few times to our city for work, but instead of going back home on Friday, she asked if she could stay at my place for the weekend to do some touristy things. I agreed, thinking that it was just her for one weekend. Then the day before her arrival, she announced that btw, her boyfriend was joining her and surely that was ok? And btw, the boyfriend has some time off at the end of the month, surely it would be ok for them to stay for 4 nights? I tried to say that maybe it would not be very relaxing for them with our DC waking early, that we would not have time to do sightseeing with them and that it was not very convenient. My colleague said that this is all not a problem, they are morning people themselves, they like children and would do sightseeing on their own. Implying that I was a bit "unflexible" and "precious" if I didn't agree. After which I just didn't know what to say.
The reality was then of course different. They were disturbed by DC playing in the living area while they had long drawn out dinners at our kitchen table, the lie-ins, generally wanting to have long conversation over meals without DC interrupting.
DH is pissed (rightly so) with me for inviting them. He was ok with it when it was just the colleague alone for one weekend. I still have to somehow avoid to have a fallout with the colleague, as we are in the same (small) industry and will probably have to work together at some level.

You didn't invite them, I'm sorry but relative strangers cannot just 'invite themselves' into your home. You don't want them to stay, so tell them that it won't be possible for them to stay again. I'm sure that there are B&Bs, hotels and guest rooms available that they would have to use if you didn't live there.

No. It’s our house - mine, my husband’s, and my children’s. If I really liked this house guest I would maybe take my children out after they wake up and have breakfast so they can lie in.

But there is no way I would let some man I’ve never met into my home with my children… sorry maybe I’m crazy but better crazy than sorry. You do not know this man.

I would minimise noise before 7am but kine were 5am risers when little. After that normal noise prevails. To be honest if you are a guest in someone's house lounging about in bed all morning is a bit rude.

No. You go about your normal lives.

surely this is a joke?

You continue your lives in a normal manner. As you would when no visitors. I’m pretty easy going but this seems really cheeky of them. Is there no attempt by them to develop a friendship with you or offer babysitting?

Why on earth are you allowing these people to impose themselves upon you? This is so utterly ridiculous I can't even bother with the rest of it. Your husband is equally unreasonable to not say "not on your nelly"at the.outset.

Why on earth are you allowing these people to impose themselves upon you? This is so utterly ridiculous I can't even bother with the rest of it. Your husband is equally unreasonable to not say "not on your nelly"at the.outset.

I was with you until the circumstances described. It’s okay to minimise disruption within reason for friends and family, but two randos who just took advantage and invited themselves? They have to cope.

But then again I would just have said no the moment the boyfriend was announced.

I think trying to keep a bit quiet if they wake really early would be nice, but apart from that, no. It might be a good reminder for them to make sure their contraceptive is effective 🙃

I’d also cancel their future visits. Something unavoidable has come up….

Absolutely outrageous. Your DH is right. They’re using you as a free hotel and you are bending over backwards to kiss their feet. This is your child’s home and so s/he has the right to play and eat breakfast in the mornings!

Guests are people you've invited that you want to spend time with. These people aren't that. So cheeky to invite themselves for a few long weekends, so no you shouldn't be bending over backwards and putting yourself out to make their stay even better

Nope. It's your kid's house. They imposed themselves on YOU!

What CFs! Definitely don't keep child quiet, just do the usual things in the morning, the evenings, during the day. It is your house, your child's house, your DHs house! Tell them the rules of your house (eg we get up at 6pm, and all quiet from 7pm for DC bedtime). They can suck it up, and stay elsewhere if they don't like it.
Also, they should be paying you to stay. At least something for food and hot water. Above any dietary requirements ingredients. As a minimum. Just announce in a text the day before she comes. Eg "don't forget to bring a 50 pound for the kitty", or each, or whatever. And then when they arrive, stand in the doorway and hold out your hand for it before they come in.
As for the future dates, breezily announce during dinner that you have a busy family diary during that time (be vague) so it won't work out "I'm sure you understand" and get DH on board to back you up. Then wave your hand at them and leave the room to top up water or brocolli or something saying "I'm sure you know what it's like"

Good luck. They need dealing with now or you'll never be rid of them.