Childless houseguests-AIBU to keep my child quiet and out of the way?

[StressedHost]

If you have houseguests without children, that like to have sleep-ins and a quiet house, long meals etc., do you minimize all disruption caused by you child (ren) and adapt your schedule to those of the guests? Or do you go on with your life as usual?
I don't know what is the right thing to do and had a fight with DH over it. Essentially, I think it is basic kindness towards the guests to not disturb their sleep and quiet, and I'm aware that children of other people can be quite annoying, especially if you are childless and not used to the noise levels etc. DH thinks we owe them nothing, since they invited themselves and were aware that they were going to stay in a household with a young child.

For context, the guests are neither friends nor family. It is a former colleague that I know quite well, but am not particularly friends with, and her boyfriend, whom we had never met before he came to stay at our house. They sort of invited themselves for a few long weekends over the summer, because we live in a quite touristy, but expensive city. They are here to do sightseeing/going to events in our city, not to spend time with us. They stay for free obviously, but buy some of their groceries (special things they need due to intolerances).

We have a spare room/office, but our flat is quite small. And unfortunately the spare room is right beside the kitchen/living area, so they could certainly hear us getting up at the crack of dawn with our DC. DC is a typical 6YO, not particularly badly behaved, but will talk loudly, jump or run. DC is also awake latest at 6:30 am.
We have the first weekend behind us, and it was stressful. Especially keeping DC quiet from 6 am until 10 am (when the guests finally decided to get up) was hard. I tried to play as quietly as possible with DC in their room while feeding them only cookies for breakfast, to avoid noise in the kitchen (had no coffee myself as well until 10 am, because of our noisy coffee maker).
The guests are otherwise quite nice people-clean, tidy and did not complain about DC or the noise so far.

YANBU=Yes, it is basic kindness to keep your DC quiet. You agreed to the visits, so you have to do your best to keep the guests comfortable.

YABU=They invited themselves and were aware of the DC before coming, go on with your life as normal.

We will not agree to further visits by this couple (beyond the ones that are already planned), and probably stick with inviting only close friends or family until DC is older. So it is a lesson learned.

I can’t believe you are putting them up for free. If you were a paid for B and B then fair enough keep the children quiet. These aren’t guests the6 are cheeky fuckers of the highest order!

If you had invited them that’s different but they imposed themselves on you. Frankly I’d let the kids run riot 😁

I’m sorry but you sound unbelievably wet!

I think teaching them to be mindful very early in the morning is fine but I wouldn't stress about it. It's your home and their own home and there should be no eggshells because of guests.

Cancel any more visits. You are putting an aquaintance and their unknown bf ahead of your family and letting them dictate what you do in your home . That's nuts.

You didn't feed your kid a breakfast. WTF.

Your people pleasing and lack of ability to say no to freeloaders and fawning over acquaintances and strangers is so extreme as to be dangerous. You've allowed a conplete stranger to stay in your home with your kid there. You fed your kid crap.

Get help.

Cheeky fuck wits!
Cookies for breakfast? What ?

Tell them to find their own accommodation pronto. Do they have a hold over you and DH by any chance?

Hasn't it just? Totally fucking ridiculous!

No definately not, unless your child is an out of control screaming banshee! Maybe I'd be slightly more sympathetic if I had invited them, but even then unless you threatened to harm them if they refused to stay with you...not really!

Another people pleasing story where the ego puts strangers ahead of their own child.

Unbelievable.
I avoid people pleasers in life, they are all about their ego and ingratiating themselves with randomers ahead of their own close family.

Putting an acquaintance colleague's boyfriend ahead of your own child is a new low for me.

Unbelievable.

Must be a wind up.

This is completely bonkers, why are you martyring yourself and your children for what sounds like random people who you don't particularly even know?!?

Well, no, it's your and your children's house.
On the other hand, as a child free person, I would not visit and become your house guest, other arrangements would be needed to suit both sides.
Basically, too much effort. 😆

Wow! I’m with your DH. This is your DC’s home too. As you said, the couple invited themselves and aren’t even there to see you. If they are uncomfortable (from noise etc) they can go to a hotel.

How many weekends are they around? They would not be back in my house.

Free accommodation means I would be up early, helping with everything including your child etc.

What a pair of chancers.

I was going to say the same thing. No way would I let a virtual and complete stranger stay in my house with my children.

Really, if OP were a truly considerate host then she and her family would all vacate the premises immediately and move into a local AirBnB or hotel for the duration of the visit...

As a childless person who has stayed with friends with kids, I've been aware that they were making a huge effort to keep them quiet in the morning, and I felt bad about it. They are great friends, so let them know that it really doesn't bother me. If you go to stay with someone with kids, there will be noise. If this bothers you, get a hotel.

I can’t imagine why you are letting them stay. I’m pretty relaxed but there’s no way I’d say yes to this. Tell them to book an airbnb!

I hope these spongers brought wine, and chocs for you and a nice toy for your kid when they arrived.
And no you don't feed your child cookies, not have a cup of coffee and keep your child quiet until 10 am. They invited themselves so it'd be business as usual in my house

If they don't like it, they may cancel their future planned visits to you and invite themselves into a hotel - win win.

When anyone stays at my house, I point out that we have 'active DC' and if they are after a peaceful or restful stay then they should look for other accommodation.

@StressedHost you are imposing ridiculous 'rules' on yourself - why? Do you like being a martyr? Are you a people pleaser? Please put some boundaries in place right now
I can understand if you lived in a massive house / estate where people can have their own accommodation but even then I would warn them that the DC enjoy the garden so you might be woken up.

Deal with your people pleasing! It’s out of control.

Op just be honest with them and the next time they’re coming let them know it was difficult trying to run the house to let them have a lie in or peace and quiet and would they mind going with the rhythm of the house when they arrive. You don’t have to be angry or negative when you say it, but you really should say something.

Your husband is completely correct
They invited themselves to your house, they adapt themselves to your household

I also don't have children but this is ridiculous! Firstly, I'd never just invite myself to stay at someone's house to get free accommodation. Secondly, I'd understand that children live there - it is their home!

Please put your family and DC above these people.

Why in earth is a colleague staying with you ? A former one at that? And a male you have never met? You need to reprioritise quickly. Weird as.

No, they invited themselves. If they want peace and quiet they can book into a hotel.

I can't believe there are 3% of voters that agree with @StressedHost - I bet they clicked the wrong vote button in error - I've done that before