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AIBU?

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To do something at work I've already been bollocked for and received a warning for twice?

502 replies

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 16:40

I've name changed for this but here goes.

For the last 3 weeks I've been doing something at work that hasn't impacted anyone at all and nobody has noticed...until Monday. On Monday a senior manager discovered what I'd been doing and was angry and asked my supervisor to have a word with me. The supervisor had a word and told me not to do it again. I apologised and said I wouldn't even though I don't really have an option but to continue doing it.

However, the very next day (Tuesday, yesterday) I did it again. I didn't expect anyone to notice, as like I said, I've been doing this thing for 3 weeks and nobody's noticed. Well, obviously someone was keeping an eye on me because I got caught and this time I got a proper telling off and a 'record of discussion' is now going on my file.

Now, my AIBU is, I really don't have much choice but to continue doing the thing, at least for the time being, so would it be really that bad to do it again on my next shift which is the weekend, where there will be skeleton staff who won't know I've already been in trouble?

Just to add, many staff members are doing a very, very, similar thing openly but slightly differently which I feel is unfair. And, to clarify, it's not office based; we are an establishment that is supposed to be all about supporting 'the thing' I'm doing.

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LikeYouWantIt · 09/07/2025 18:24

Oh my gosh. No advice on the employment situation, OP. but he is gorgeous 😍 I'd be doing the same in your position.

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 18:24

Chaotica · 09/07/2025 18:20

Aw. Cute little dude. FWIW OP, I'd do the same thing. I don't know whether it's worth losing your job over though - could you get your DS on board with this?

I'll get my son begrudgingly on board. I'll probably have to give him McDonald's money 😆

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LucyMonth · 09/07/2025 18:25

I worked in wildlife rehab for 10 years.

It’s fully feathered. It doesn’t need hand reared. & it certainly doesn’t need fed every hour.

Whats your plans for release? Usually it’s spend time in a large outdoor aviary learning to fly, taking in the environment it’s about to be released into and generally learning to eat and fend for itself.

MurdoMunro · 09/07/2025 18:26

HunnyPot · 09/07/2025 18:23

Wrong!

How is a veterinary practice being unreasonable by being unwilling to risk the health of other animals in their care and ignoring the advice of the Royal College of Veterinary Surgeons?

KrisAkabusi · 09/07/2025 18:27

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 18:14

This is him/her. Baby magpie.

That's not a baby! Its Practically fully grown, it has fledged and can look.after itself.

And is quite capable of carrying bird flu, so you're being very irresponsible, unnecessarily.

CluelessAboutBiology · 09/07/2025 18:28

I have flipped between YANBU and YABU but now I’ve seen the pic, YANBU. Magpies are my favourite birds. I’ve never seen a baby magpie so you’ve made my day.

however, you mustn’t do anything that will cause you trouble at work or worse still, lose your job. Bribe DS with McDonalds money (not Monopoly money, that won’t have the same effect!) and ask him to chicksit.

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 18:29

LucyMonth · 09/07/2025 18:25

I worked in wildlife rehab for 10 years.

It’s fully feathered. It doesn’t need hand reared. & it certainly doesn’t need fed every hour.

Whats your plans for release? Usually it’s spend time in a large outdoor aviary learning to fly, taking in the environment it’s about to be released into and generally learning to eat and fend for itself.

That's exactly the plan.

It definitely can't peck and eat the food properly by itself yet, but it is getting there.

It's also doing flapping but can't quite get anywhere yet.

Won't be long until it moves into an aviary and starts finding its own food.

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Createausername1970 · 09/07/2025 18:30

This thread took an unexpected turn 🤣.

I started off thinking OP was an idiot, but now I think she is fab.

But I have nothing constructive to add. We found a duck sitting on a grass verge once, and were advised to take it to the nearest pond, which we did. But that's not helpful in this scenario.

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 18:33

Also, just for information, at our sister branch two members of staff are also raising birds. One has a crow and the other has 2 gulls. I'm not sure where the birds are when they're on shift.
Another staff member was raising a pigeon but it sadly died.

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GentleSheep · 09/07/2025 18:35

Awww that is the cutest little bird! 😍I've lost all sense of rationality now!

BeachPebbleWave · 09/07/2025 18:35

Hasn’t bird flu been identified as a flu strain that could mutate and jump species?
(eg from bird to cat to human). In which case the vet practice would be taking sensible precautions.

MurdoMunro · 09/07/2025 18:36

I fear there has been a jumping of the bird here. Peace out.

SmegFridge · 09/07/2025 18:37

Haha I first voted YABU but I changed it to YANBU after I read the context. I'd probably do the same but after the bollockings I would get the son to do it. Or find a pet sitter service and see if they could do it? (Sorry haven't read the entire thread.) Poor little thing is lucky to be alive! Good thing you have a plan for him/her.

My uncle found a magpie's nest and a deceased mother magpie when he was little, so he took the birds in and looked after them. They lived in a sock drawer apparently, and he was jumping off big rocks trying to show them how to fly. 😆 My mum says the birds were so annoying hanging off her skirt trying to get food. Haha. This was in the 60s or early 70s I think. Bless my uncle. Big softie.

AmyDudley · 09/07/2025 18:40

Reallybadidea · 09/07/2025 17:24

Sorry, why would that mean in Orville is dead? Surely he learnt to fly eventually and is living his best life in a tree somewhere?

You seriouly think Orville could learn to fly ? He was in a nappy for years FGS, if he went anywhere near the wild he be instantly preyed upon by big toilet trained birds.
The only person prepared to put up with him was Keith, and now he's gone no one is feeding Orville, at best he is extremely thin, but I think we all know he's been turned into one of those green dog chews.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 09/07/2025 18:41

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 17:16

Bird flu 🙄

That's a pretty big fucking reason not to do it. It's not emergency medical care as per BVA guidelines.

IwasDueANameChange · 09/07/2025 18:42

This thread is one for classics, honestly

Caerulea · 09/07/2025 18:48

Well none of this was what I was expected! Not sure why they are being all 'ooo bird flu' about it when the bird has already been in there.

Good luck with the magpie & the son, you're doing a lovely thing

Stresshead84x · 09/07/2025 18:48

BeachPebbleWave · 09/07/2025 18:35

Hasn’t bird flu been identified as a flu strain that could mutate and jump species?
(eg from bird to cat to human). In which case the vet practice would be taking sensible precautions.

I'm very concerned about bird flu- but i'd guess by the point it was in the vet, had had contact etc the risk was already there- it's not any more likely to pass anything on at this stage surely?

Thejackrussellsrule · 09/07/2025 18:50

A magpie?! I saw one take a baby from it's nest and kill it in our garden the other day, the poor other birds (blackbirds) were going crazy trying to stop it. No wonder the vet was considering euthanasia.

Taytayslayslay · 09/07/2025 18:52

Shedmistress · 09/07/2025 16:54

What the fuck is going on on this forum at the moment?

I really really miss the laughing reaction

HundredMilesAnHour · 09/07/2025 18:52

LucyMonth · 09/07/2025 18:25

I worked in wildlife rehab for 10 years.

It’s fully feathered. It doesn’t need hand reared. & it certainly doesn’t need fed every hour.

Whats your plans for release? Usually it’s spend time in a large outdoor aviary learning to fly, taking in the environment it’s about to be released into and generally learning to eat and fend for itself.

Exactly this. It should be weaned by now, or in the process of weaning. Hand rearing every hour is unnecessary.

I don’t understand why the OP didn’t try and find a wildlife rescue to take the bird in, then it could have also been introduced to other birds in an aviary by now and be learning to become independent to give it a better chance of survival in the wild. I suspect because the OP wanted to hand rear the bird rather than because nowhere would help. I also really hope the OP isn’t talking to the bird or doing anything else silly that will compromise its survival chances.

Just to add that I used to work at a wildlife hospital as a ‘seasonal baby bird feeder’ (which was intense and much more stressful than it sounds!)

I’ve attached the advice for weaning food for magpies (Corvids) just in case the OP needs it. And 2 totally gratuitous photos of former fledgling patients just because I can. 😛

To do something at work I've already been bollocked for and received a warning for twice?
To do something at work I've already been bollocked for and received a warning for twice?
To do something at work I've already been bollocked for and received a warning for twice?
CoolShoeshine · 09/07/2025 18:56

Bill Oddie's still alive, perhaps he can help out in Keith Harris' absence?

Send him a Tweet op.

Thulpelly · 09/07/2025 18:58

I fucking love this, keep doing it OP.

Dontwanttocrybutstruggling · 09/07/2025 18:59

I've hand reared many wild birds (in veterinary practice as an RVN) - he's chancing his hand getting you to carry on feeding him at his age! Magpies (and corvids generally) are easily imprinted on humans and will learn to continue gaping behaviours if it means you will keep popping the food in 🤣
Definitely offer food less often and he will start feeding himself.
A friend of mine told me she was handrearing a crow and wanted my opinion on it after a few weeks as it was still gaping even though large. I was amazed when I saw it - it was a fully grown, blind adult, that had quickly learning gaping behaviour to get his food. They are so incredibly intelligent! Sadly, he needed euthanasia as could never return to the wild, but he had some happy fat weeks at the end of his life.
Bird flu risks are serious, however it seems your branch has differing polices from your other branch. Could you leave it at the other branch for the staff to feed with the crows - he would learn some good bird behaviours and be less lonely?

viques · 09/07/2025 19:01

Shoxfordian · 09/07/2025 16:53

In the office? Where is it? In a drawer? Wtf

Who remembers The Brittas Empire and the poor children in the drawer in reception?