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AIBU?

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To do something at work I've already been bollocked for and received a warning for twice?

502 replies

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 16:40

I've name changed for this but here goes.

For the last 3 weeks I've been doing something at work that hasn't impacted anyone at all and nobody has noticed...until Monday. On Monday a senior manager discovered what I'd been doing and was angry and asked my supervisor to have a word with me. The supervisor had a word and told me not to do it again. I apologised and said I wouldn't even though I don't really have an option but to continue doing it.

However, the very next day (Tuesday, yesterday) I did it again. I didn't expect anyone to notice, as like I said, I've been doing this thing for 3 weeks and nobody's noticed. Well, obviously someone was keeping an eye on me because I got caught and this time I got a proper telling off and a 'record of discussion' is now going on my file.

Now, my AIBU is, I really don't have much choice but to continue doing the thing, at least for the time being, so would it be really that bad to do it again on my next shift which is the weekend, where there will be skeleton staff who won't know I've already been in trouble?

Just to add, many staff members are doing a very, very, similar thing openly but slightly differently which I feel is unfair. And, to clarify, it's not office based; we are an establishment that is supposed to be all about supporting 'the thing' I'm doing.

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CarterBeatsTheDevil · 10/07/2025 11:31

Despite the appeal of the baby bird I am really starting to get frustrated reading some of the responses. It's not about whether he actually has bird flu. It's about the fact that if Apha decides he might have bird flu, both he and potentially multiple other animals he's come into contact with will be put to sleep. All it could take is one savvy customer to hear people talking about the bird or see it and raise a concern.

OP's employers understand this which is why they have repeatedly instructed her to take it home and why they will probably dismiss her if she doesn't.

FreezeDriedStrawberries · 10/07/2025 11:46

Flashout · 09/07/2025 16:56

Birds can’t have fags. I really wish people would think seriously before they post.

🤣

MushMonster · 10/07/2025 12:24

Starlight1984 · 10/07/2025 09:18

Awwwwwww 😊

Yeah got tbh I read your OP and thought YABU. Then I saw your updates and the photo of the baby magpie and now I want to have a quiet word with your employers.

Plus other employees within the same company are rearing birds too.
I would not risk my job and ask my son to carry on.
You are doing a great thing. Magpies are great. It will stay around your home till it finds a mate. It may try to copy your voice and all. Best luck with it.

Oakcupboard · 10/07/2025 12:32

I originally said YABU, but now I know the full story YANBU. Great work looking after the wee bird ❤️

NooNakedJacuzziness · 10/07/2025 12:48

ClawedButler · 10/07/2025 10:43

And that bellend of a monkey, come to that.

To be fair to him Cuddles absolutely hated that duck too

CatkinToadflax · 10/07/2025 14:14

No self respecting human should ever punch a magic dragon. Hopefully though being called Puff hasn’t caused the poor creature to develop a weed habit.

Hulabalu · 10/07/2025 14:46

You could find a solicitor who specialises in bird law

GingerGeorgie · 10/07/2025 14:52

FatherFrosty · 10/07/2025 11:19

You sound like someone after my own heart
I quit a dream job over a rabbit (long story!) not getting the vet care it needed.
it also reflects a culture and respect for you as a person and what’s important to you.
so, yes I would.

Please tell us about the rabbit. I'm guessing a petting zoo place and the owners being tight with money.

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Pennyswimsplash · 10/07/2025 19:16

Lazy entitled people who dont work or work 16 hours a week & claim benefits

PhilippaGeorgiou · 10/07/2025 19:54

Pennyswimsplash · 10/07/2025 19:16

Lazy entitled people who dont work or work 16 hours a week & claim benefits

WTF? If you are going to benefit bash, at least have the good grace to make it make some sense.

K0OLA1D · 10/07/2025 20:12

Pennyswimsplash · 10/07/2025 19:16

Lazy entitled people who dont work or work 16 hours a week & claim benefits

What the fuck are you on about?

Discoprincess6 · 10/07/2025 23:48

PhilippaGeorgiou · 09/07/2025 17:35

And good luck ever setting foot as an employee in a vets again. This is not "kindness". If someone from my vet practice was caught putting my pet, and the pets of others at risk, I would not give a flying f... whether they were sacked - I would expect them to be. And as for posting on social media / going to the press. Please do. I'd want to make sure that you weren't in my vets practice. The low risk of transmission to mammals is not "no risk" and vets also treat birds that are pets.

If you look at the time of my comment you will see that I posted early on based on the OP vague description and before their update. I’ve not even read their updates yet.

Discoprincess6 · 10/07/2025 23:53

Omg I’ve just read your updates!!!! That’s amazing. How lovely of you. Magpies are really clever! Erm it’s a v tough decision. Defo bribe 16 year old

LivelyCat · 10/07/2025 23:58

CarterBeatsTheDevil · 10/07/2025 11:31

Despite the appeal of the baby bird I am really starting to get frustrated reading some of the responses. It's not about whether he actually has bird flu. It's about the fact that if Apha decides he might have bird flu, both he and potentially multiple other animals he's come into contact with will be put to sleep. All it could take is one savvy customer to hear people talking about the bird or see it and raise a concern.

OP's employers understand this which is why they have repeatedly instructed her to take it home and why they will probably dismiss her if she doesn't.

Yeah, so just a cat or dog that happens to be visiting the vets could be deemed as being in contact and put to sleep. But as long as OP feels she’s doing the right thing… 🙄

ThatCleverCoralCrow · 11/07/2025 00:26

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 16:54

I work in a vets.

Other staff bring their dogs in which sit in crates in the staff room and they get taken out for wees. I bring in a bird which sits in an unused room and I pop in and feed it every 1.5 hours.

The bird came from work in the first place and I saved it from being put to sleep.

Kind hearted soul. Can you talk to your boss about it, or see if your son would help. How long do you need to do this?

TheLovelinessOfDemons · 13/07/2025 07:51

Pennyswimsplash · 10/07/2025 19:16

Lazy entitled people who dont work or work 16 hours a week & claim benefits

What?!

ViciousCurrentBun · 13/07/2025 08:25

@Tortytort I am sure you will receive a halo that has been polished up extra well.

Just keep the bird at home.

I took a baby bird in to a vets once many years ago DS who was still very little was with me. The trolley man at Tesco car park was going to stamp on it. The vets probably did put it down but more humanely.

KiriG · 13/07/2025 23:41

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 16:48

I may as well tell you.

I am hand rearing a baby bird who needs to be fed ideally every hour but when I'm at work I can stretch it to 1.5 hours between feeds. The feeds take literally seconds and I get comfort breaks at work so I've been feeding it then.

I've got nobody to look after it at home. I mean maybe I could ask my son (16) but he normally has plans.

My husband takes 9 bat pups to work. He takes some every year.

If it’s causing problems with work can you find a wildlife hospital to take it in? It will need an aviary to prepare for release to the wild too

TrtseHkpr · 14/07/2025 18:03

Tortytort · 09/07/2025 22:29

Ive name changed for this.
But I lost my job over a tortoise. He was given to me by an elderly client going into a care home. She made me promise I would take care of him as her final wish...
The company told me it was a 'gift' and it was to be handed over....
I walked out with the tortoise in a shoebox and I still have him 19 years later 😂
I hope heaven has a place for me.

Well done, I would have done the same 🐢

Tandia · 15/07/2025 08:28

Flashout · 10/07/2025 09:04

I’ve just had to google this because for my entire life I’ve been singing Punch The Magic Dragon. But I’m wrong. I’m having to rethink everything. I thought that was why he fell out with Jaqui Paver.

It is also little Jackie Paper! I've got the book if you've got any other bits you're not sure about!

Biffies · 15/07/2025 14:25

It's like pulling teeth. A loo break is still needed unless it's pee and tea at the same time. I think your boss must have good reason to give you 2 warnings. 3 strikes and.....You are very brave

Cabinqueen · 16/07/2025 07:35

Morning @GingerGeorgie how's the little one doing today? 😁 Do you still have a job?🫣

TheTwinklyLemur · 16/07/2025 22:55

Dear OP, what you are doing is lovely thing, but very irresponsible bringing a bird into work when there is an alert for bird flu. Something like going into work with Covid when it was really bad, except this is a Corvid, get it? Your bird probably doesn't have flu, but could still be a risk. Magpies actually make good pets and can be taught to speak and do tricks, they are very intelligent. Perhaps your son would be more interested in feeding if he could have a go at training.

TheTwinklyLemur · 16/07/2025 23:22

I've just read that it's illegal to keep a magpie as a pet in the UK. So you will have to release your bird. You need to teach it to search for its food by itself and be independent. However, it may come back to you and you will have a friend for life.

Obeseandashamed · 16/07/2025 23:40

Given the ‘thing’ and your line of work, YANBU. Your workplace should be thanking you!

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