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To do something at work I've already been bollocked for and received a warning for twice?

502 replies

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 16:40

I've name changed for this but here goes.

For the last 3 weeks I've been doing something at work that hasn't impacted anyone at all and nobody has noticed...until Monday. On Monday a senior manager discovered what I'd been doing and was angry and asked my supervisor to have a word with me. The supervisor had a word and told me not to do it again. I apologised and said I wouldn't even though I don't really have an option but to continue doing it.

However, the very next day (Tuesday, yesterday) I did it again. I didn't expect anyone to notice, as like I said, I've been doing this thing for 3 weeks and nobody's noticed. Well, obviously someone was keeping an eye on me because I got caught and this time I got a proper telling off and a 'record of discussion' is now going on my file.

Now, my AIBU is, I really don't have much choice but to continue doing the thing, at least for the time being, so would it be really that bad to do it again on my next shift which is the weekend, where there will be skeleton staff who won't know I've already been in trouble?

Just to add, many staff members are doing a very, very, similar thing openly but slightly differently which I feel is unfair. And, to clarify, it's not office based; we are an establishment that is supposed to be all about supporting 'the thing' I'm doing.

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Cabinqueen · 09/07/2025 19:06

MurdoMunro · 09/07/2025 16:45

I expect you’ll have to stop doing the thing if you want to keep your job. Might depend on what the thing is, if you’re doing the thing the right way (their way) or if the thing is illegal.

Do you work for a company of contract killers? I mean that’s your choice I suppose, but if the thing is that you’re knocking off your exes instead of the people you’ve been contracted to kill then you should probably stop doing the thing.

😁😂

Rinoachicken · 09/07/2025 19:08

Magpies are among the most challenging birds to return to the wild. It is crucial to know exactly when and where an injured or abandoned bird was found. Magpies live in distinct groups, or 'mobs', and if a bird is reintroduced into a territory occupied by a different mob, it will not be accepted.

The situation is further complicated by the fact that multiple mobs can share the same territory at different times of the day. Over time, a mob may move on, making it even more difficult to reunite a bird with its original group.

For this reason, magpies should be returned to the wild as quickly as possible.

Flashout · 09/07/2025 19:10

murasaki · 09/07/2025 17:41

There once as an ugly duckling
With feathers all stubby and brown
And all the other vets, in so many words, said
"Get out of town"

That makes me think of “Punch the magic Dragon.” Which makes me cry.

crying now. Thanks.

Rabbitsockpeony · 09/07/2025 19:10

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 18:14

This is him/her. Baby magpie.

Ok I initially thought you sounded mad and a bit annoying OP, but now you’ve explained what you’re doing I love you and think you’re amazing.

I’d do exactly what you’re doing too. 🥺

HonoraBridge · 09/07/2025 19:11

You are employee paid to do what you are instructed to do (or not do) within reasonable limits. That is the deal. You are breaking your part of the deal. If you keep doing “it”, prepare to be disciplined and dismissed.

Richiewoo · 09/07/2025 19:11

Carry on doing it if you want to lose your job.

Cucy · 09/07/2025 19:12

If you carry on you will lose your job.

You are also risking the health of other birds that come in.

As you work in a vets, do you not know of any animal people that will feed it for you?

Ask the other people who are hand reading birds and offer to each take in turns doing all of them.

duffed · 09/07/2025 19:13

Do you need a birdsitter?

Rinoachicken · 09/07/2025 19:13

Misjudgement of the importance of release area and timing
Hand reared juvenile corvids, but also all long-term patients having been in captivity for longer than 2 or 3 weeks, should always be soft released. Juvenile corvids are not suitable for release until being 5 or 6 months old, which is usually at the end of the summer after their first partial post-juvenile moult. This allows them to reach full growth and to be able to fly strongly. It also allows enough time to reach enough strength allowing normal competition with other corvids, avoiding excessive bullying. The preferred release time in the U.K. is the end of August and during September. Please also note that an offence may be committed under the Animal Welfare Act 2006, if a released animal does not have a reasonable chance of survival. This may include the release at an unsuitable site, in the wrong territory, when being unfit, or when not having learned to hunt, or when done during the wrong time of the year.

https://corvid-isle.co.uk/top-10-mistakes-corvid-rehabilitation

Sorry OP but you’ve got yourself in abit of a pickle.

I think you should try and find a Corvid Rescue for advice.

If it has no tail feathers it will take many weeks to months for them to grow back, that’s months you’ve got to care for this bird, in a suitable sized and secure aviary (corvids are clever and destructive), it then needs to learn to fly and feed itself before you can even think about release - but you don’t know the location so you can’t really release it either.

So you’ve either got yourself a new pet - which you need to learn how to properly care for, or you need to hand it over to a rescue for either proper rehab-release or a life in a sanctuary.

Meltedbrains · 09/07/2025 19:14

The problem is people will give you odd advice here because they don't understand bird flu. They don't understand the implications of poor bio security and the risk a case poses to every single animal at the practice (not in terms of actual transmission but in terms of being identified as a risk and euthanised)

I know of several businesses and rescues completely fucked by it. As in apha (goverment) putting to sleep everything that has shared an airspace with them, and condemning whole buildings for years.

Whole businesses shut for months
Rescues closed down and hundreds of animals killed

I understand why your practice is nervous

Everyone else will see a cute bird, but if you've ever had dealings with apha or the chaos and trauma of the implications of poor biosecurity then you'd understand

DressOrSkirt · 09/07/2025 19:15

Now I know what the thing is I've changed my vote to YANBU. If I knew my vet was telling off a staff member for this I would be changing vets!

Cabinqueen · 09/07/2025 19:15

Cabinqueen · 09/07/2025 19:06

😁😂

Just seen the picture, I guess you absolutely have to do the thing!! 🤩

surprisebaby12 · 09/07/2025 19:16

I can’t imagine why you’d continue. Are you looking for a thrill? Are you happy at home?

TorroFerney · 09/07/2025 19:16

beAsensible1 · 09/07/2025 17:00

Don’t do the thing as they’ve clearly chosen you as the person to make an example of. This is how people get fired. Don’t offer yourself up as the scape goat.

It's not a goat, that would be a whole other story.

ArtTheClown · 09/07/2025 19:18

I feel vindicated voting YANBU now. I thought you'd have your reasons.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 09/07/2025 19:18

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 18:14

This is him/her. Baby magpie.

Very cute. 😘

TorroFerney · 09/07/2025 19:18

AntikytheraMech · 09/07/2025 17:52

Is it gorgeous? Have you tried putting it on the bonnet?
Or maybe change the batteries... 🙂

Nice. Chapeau.

PonyPatter44 · 09/07/2025 19:19

Flashout · 09/07/2025 16:56

Birds can’t have fags. I really wish people would think seriously before they post.

They can if it's a puffin...

breakdown98765 · 09/07/2025 19:19

I’d advertise for a helper on FB.

My 16-year-old niece would bite your hand off to take detail notes on how to care for him for a few hours.

Flashout · 09/07/2025 19:20

PonyPatter44 · 09/07/2025 19:19

They can if it's a puffin...

Loving your work!

Marscleo · 09/07/2025 19:20

dawngreen · 09/07/2025 17:19

My mum rescued a baby blackbird off a cat, and raised it. She tried to release it but it kept coming back to the house. So ended up as a pet that could fly away when wanted. But the bird preferred to sun bathe in the garden. And had his own little bath, and my family would collect worms for him.

I will sleep well tonight

EmeraldShamrock000 · 09/07/2025 19:20

breakdown98765 · 09/07/2025 19:19

I’d advertise for a helper on FB.

My 16-year-old niece would bite your hand off to take detail notes on how to care for him for a few hours.

Definitely ask for help on your local FB, whilst working.

duffed · 09/07/2025 19:20

I was thinking the same breakdown - I'm not going to show my teen this post because she would be banging on your door to help. 2 months off school/college/uni and nothing to do? Feed an adorable baby magpie!

Rainbows41 · 09/07/2025 19:27

What is the exact reason your work have given as to why they don't want you helping this bird at the vets?

Bumcake · 09/07/2025 19:28

I’m Team Bird, I hope you can do what you need to without further hassle OP.

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