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Original poster

To do something at work I've already been bollocked for and received a warning for twice?

502 replies

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 16:40

I've name changed for this but here goes.

For the last 3 weeks I've been doing something at work that hasn't impacted anyone at all and nobody has noticed...until Monday. On Monday a senior manager discovered what I'd been doing and was angry and asked my supervisor to have a word with me. The supervisor had a word and told me not to do it again. I apologised and said I wouldn't even though I don't really have an option but to continue doing it.

However, the very next day (Tuesday, yesterday) I did it again. I didn't expect anyone to notice, as like I said, I've been doing this thing for 3 weeks and nobody's noticed. Well, obviously someone was keeping an eye on me because I got caught and this time I got a proper telling off and a 'record of discussion' is now going on my file.

Now, my AIBU is, I really don't have much choice but to continue doing the thing, at least for the time being, so would it be really that bad to do it again on my next shift which is the weekend, where there will be skeleton staff who won't know I've already been in trouble?

Just to add, many staff members are doing a very, very, similar thing openly but slightly differently which I feel is unfair. And, to clarify, it's not office based; we are an establishment that is supposed to be all about supporting 'the thing' I'm doing.

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heldinadream · 09/07/2025 16:48

Throwing annoying clients out of the window?
Catching the boss sleeping and instead of gently waking him/her up tattooing 'waster' on their forehead?
Walking round naked on your lunch break?
Am I close? 😂😂😂😂😂😂

TellingBone · 09/07/2025 16:49

If you've no choice but to go on doing 'it' then you should have said that when you were warned about it

TheGrimSqueakersFlea · 09/07/2025 16:49

Why bother posting? I'm sure you're not the only person in the world doing whatever it is. It's not outing, you're just attention seeking

TooBigForMyBoots · 09/07/2025 16:49

Go ahead and do it @GingerGeorgie and then you'll get fired.

CalliopeAthena · 09/07/2025 16:49

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 16:44

Well 'the thing' is so outing but it's not dangerous and doesn't include any skiving.

It's also through work that I'm doing it in the first place.

Nope.

You won't get decent advice if you don't explain more clearly.
If you're taking £20 out of the till every night, we'll say stop it. If you're spending an extra 5 minutes on the toilet for a breather, then that's fine.

MurdoMunro · 09/07/2025 16:50

Wait a goddam minute. Is she telling us that while she is at work she is ‘doing’ ‘The Thing’.

FFS OP. Not at work.

Flashout · 09/07/2025 16:50

Why don’t they want you doing it? Where do you work?

VirginaGirl · 09/07/2025 16:50

'we are an establishment that is supposed to be all about supporting 'the thing' I'm doing.'

How can they tell you off for it, then? Seems very hypocritical!

Icanttakethisanymore · 09/07/2025 16:50

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 16:48

I may as well tell you.

I am hand rearing a baby bird who needs to be fed ideally every hour but when I'm at work I can stretch it to 1.5 hours between feeds. The feeds take literally seconds and I get comfort breaks at work so I've been feeding it then.

I've got nobody to look after it at home. I mean maybe I could ask my son (16) but he normally has plans.

I am hand rearing a baby bird

Was not expecting that 😂

PeapodMcgee · 09/07/2025 16:50

So it is taking hourly breaks for a few mins that you are not allowed to do?

Xiaoxiong · 09/07/2025 16:50

OP you need to drop the baby bird to a wildlife sanctuary or rescue charity. You will lose your job over this if you are going home every 90 mins to feed a baby bird!

BriefHug · 09/07/2025 16:50

OK so more detail required - are you a receptionist at a vet's or are you an anaesthetist/high court judge/Wimbledon umpire?

murasaki · 09/07/2025 16:50

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 16:48

I may as well tell you.

I am hand rearing a baby bird who needs to be fed ideally every hour but when I'm at work I can stretch it to 1.5 hours between feeds. The feeds take literally seconds and I get comfort breaks at work so I've been feeding it then.

I've got nobody to look after it at home. I mean maybe I could ask my son (16) but he normally has plans.

So you're taking a bird in a box into work and feeding it while pretending to go to the loo? Pull the other one, its got bells on it.

Flashout · 09/07/2025 16:50

MurdoMunro · 09/07/2025 16:50

Wait a goddam minute. Is she telling us that while she is at work she is ‘doing’ ‘The Thing’.

FFS OP. Not at work.

I love doing The Thing at work. Takes the edge off.

KWaldron · 09/07/2025 16:51

Contact the RSPCA!

Groundhedgehogday · 09/07/2025 16:51

many staff members are doing a very, very, similar thing openly but slightly differently which I feel is unfair.

Other staff members are also hand rearing birds? Where do you work?!

Flashout · 09/07/2025 16:51

BriefHug · 09/07/2025 16:50

OK so more detail required - are you a receptionist at a vet's or are you an anaesthetist/high court judge/Wimbledon umpire?

Crying at Wimbledon Umpire🤣

Plantladylover · 09/07/2025 16:51

Are u taking the bird to work?

Really weird.

Birds need to be in the wild. They will find their way

EmeraldShamrock000 · 09/07/2025 16:51

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 16:48

I may as well tell you.

I am hand rearing a baby bird who needs to be fed ideally every hour but when I'm at work I can stretch it to 1.5 hours between feeds. The feeds take literally seconds and I get comfort breaks at work so I've been feeding it then.

I've got nobody to look after it at home. I mean maybe I could ask my son (16) but he normally has plans.

Ah, I don't think you should risk it.

Bluevelvetsofa · 09/07/2025 16:52

So you e been going home, feeding the bird on work time and coming back.

Surely, if you give a 16 year old detailed instructions, he can adapt his plans to help out. Otherwise you risk losing your livelihood. Isn’t it more important to keep a roof over your heads?

Flashout · 09/07/2025 16:52

Do you work for Bernard Matthews?

DaisyChain505 · 09/07/2025 16:52

Take it to a local wildlife sanctuary.

ComtesseDeSpair · 09/07/2025 16:52

Just to add, many staff members are doing a very, very, similar thing openly but slightly differently which I feel is unfair.

Where is this workplace, where the colleagues are all Snow White in training, feeding and singing to the animals?

Zucker · 09/07/2025 16:53

Well, yeah keep doing it and you'll get fired!

Are you working in the food industry by any chance?

SupposesRoses · 09/07/2025 16:53

GingerGeorgie · 09/07/2025 16:48

I may as well tell you.

I am hand rearing a baby bird who needs to be fed ideally every hour but when I'm at work I can stretch it to 1.5 hours between feeds. The feeds take literally seconds and I get comfort breaks at work so I've been feeding it then.

I've got nobody to look after it at home. I mean maybe I could ask my son (16) but he normally has plans.

If you post on your local facebook group you might find someone who could take it while you are working

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