Worried about Dd being ginger in the uk

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Redhead, Golden haired…

We are moving back to the uk next year. Dd was born in the country we’re currently living in. The majority of people are dark haired, brown eyes and tanned skin.
Dd is reddy gold hair, blue eyes and fair skin. She gets attention everywhere she goes about her hair and eyes, people compliment her a lot and are very gushing about her looks, it’s lovely

My impression is that this is very different in the uk and cruelly this is used as an insult almost, is this still the case? The thought of it is heartbreaking

I had strawberry blonde hair when young and dye it a similar colour now. Never had a single negative comment. Also very pale and blue eyed.

No one will fawn over her like they would in Israel or Morocco or wherever you are living, so depending her age she might have grown up expecting that and you might want to prepare her that's not going to be happening. But she'll get teased as much as she would if she's short or wears glasses no more or less, kids pick on difference. No one will be chasing her with pitchforks or anything.

Unfortunately it is a thing that some kids will still tease about. Boys are more likely to be targeted than girls for it. The best thing you can do with red hair IMO is wear it confidently. Kids will pick on anything they think will upset their victim. If your DD openly loves her hair they’ll realise they’re not getting anywhere and give up.

I do think there'll be some teasing/bullying, so it's best to prepare her. I have no idea where it comes from. It's just another hair colour.

I live where there are many people with beautiful ginger hair. Some of the young girls have gorgeous red hair, straight & curly. There's a few lads with orange hair, which I think is just amazing.

Ginger has gone full circle from the bottom of the pile to the top it’s very trendy now

I’ve a redhead who has had nothing but compliments and envy and that’s as a teen

Ooh yes, I'd be so wary of coming to England with ginger hair OP. She'll be mercilessly bullied from the moment she sets foot here. They'll pronounce it with a hard 'g' as a terrible slur for a start.

I've known people line the streets in my village to get the chance to shout "marmalade!" at some poor unfortunate redhead doing the walk of shame to the stocks for being a child of the devil.

Pay no attention to the hundreds of variations on red hair dye in the average pharmacy. That's just government propaganda: you'll notice the London government themselves are all brunettes and blondes, apart from Our Angela and there's a plot against her purely for her hair.

Try to make your way to Scotland instead, that brave Mrs. Sturgeon will be looking for a new cause.

My DD has auburn hair. She’s always called out as ginger - for example ‘ah get as a fellow ginger you’ll know this’ or ‘the one with the hair’. (It’s also waist length and very wavy).
She really can’t go out the front door without someone complimenting her on it.
Her closest friend at uni is strawberry blond/light ginger and fiercely protects it!
Males may have more of an issue.

DP is ginger. He never had any issues growing up in the UK. It is really annoying when we go on holiday in certain places as he gets loads of attention and lots of men admiring his ginger beard, and he’s tall so sticks out like a sore thumb. I am short, dark haired and swarthy so melt into the background when I’m on my own, which is how I like it.

We’re only in Europe, but they don’t have the same attitude to it as some in the uk

this was not a useful contribution.

I have two ginger children who receive nothing but compliments. I did worry initially but my experience has been the opposite to how things were when I was at school

I have never heard my children mention the colour of anyone's hair in any context never mind a negative one. Anti ginger bias isn't a thing ime

Relocate to Scotland where this is a common hair colour and no-one comments. 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿😀

Gingerism is definitely a thing but it’s impossible to say how much she will come across it - she may be lucky.

Are you a redhead?
not a thing I obviously imagined being called ginger minger, asking if my pubic hair was the same colour, being yelled at out of cars, the comments about all redheads being ugly, the bullying over my skin colour, being told I should fake tan, I should colour my hair
moving schools because the bullying got so bad
glasses and red hair meant I was the perfect ugly target for them

i could go on and on

the midwife when I was born said “oh no she’s a ginger, I can put her back?”

I think it's good for children to learn that not everyone is nice and kind and sometimes people say mean things. It's difficult for us as parents but the world is a cruel place and we have to prepare them for the hard parts.

Well yes but also that bullying isn't acceptable and you dont tease people over their physical appearance
no not everyone is kind but we don't have to accept bullying vs being fawned over, there’s a middle ground

This is awful and exactly what I’m worried about 😔

Only pathetic people make snide remarks about “ginger” hair. Red, auburn, strawberry blonde hair is absolutely beautiful and the rarest colour in the world.
Teach your daughter to be proud of it.

Nobody uses ginger as an insult. Harry is insulted because he’s annoying, that’s all.

Ds1 was called baked bean for a while secondary school, until he dealt with it. No one has commented on his hair since really, also his friends are also very protective of him ( he has asd and cab be a bit otherworldly) which helps.

Girls ime don’t get bullied as much as boys for red hair.

It's not a thing. My son has strawberry blonde hair and the barber commented he's lucky to have that colour and lots of people pay for his natural colour. We are in Scotland the colouring you describe is pretty standard here we do get commemts/looks abroad though

I assume it was meant constructively, when my (then) bond little nephew went to rural China as a seven year old my sister commented that it wasn’t great for his development to be made to feel like a celebrity, which absolutely happened because of his colouring (and because he was super cute of course!), and it’s helpful to look at the positive side too.

OP my dd 10 is ginger, though quite a light ginger, and she has only had one incident. Someone from another class at school told her “your hair’s ginger” to which she replied, “yes, thanks!” and that was that. We’ve only ever said how lovely it is (and also how lovely her brother’s deep brown hair is).
more of a problem is that my mum, who also had that red-gold hair in her youth told my daughter that if you’ve got red hair you’re allowed to lose your temper….!!!

I have a red haired child and they do get comments about their hair a lot - 98% positive, but still some negative and rude comments among them.

It’s all adults though - I think it’s a prejudice along older people, but perhaps younger people don’t care so much? There is so much variation in ethnicity and appearance now, I’m not sure red hair makes you a target in quite the way it once did.

Everywhere else in the world they are fawned over!