To think this teacher should be sacked??

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ds1 is 11 (adhd) and being taught in a secondary school by a teacher.
This teacher has a child who is 8 and so is my ds2 and are both in the same class in another school.I found out a few months ago that in fact she teaches my son.
Her son goes into school today and tells people that his mother had said that ‘your class mate’ (my ds2)’s brother has special needs and so people have been approaching my son asking if it was true that his brother has special needs???
Is this outrages or what?? i work in a school and no way i would do that.

My partners ex wife is a nurse (quite high up). She once accessed my records and told people things about me on there. I reported her and they couldn’t prove it but did manage to put a block on her being able to look me up on any medical systems she used. I suspect she got a bit of a telling off as well. She also did the same to his niece and told her family her test results before they’d even asked for them… some people are just malicious. I suspect with this though he’s probably overheard a convo rather than her telling him things. It’s easily done and some kids take everything in even if we think they aren’t. Little sponge ears as my mum would say. Find out what’s gone on first and maybe have a word with her? It might happen again with someone else and be a lot worse so making her aware would be the right thing to do I think.

I read it as this boy told people OP's son had special needs and then people asked OP's youngest son if it was true.

If you RTFT she already had a word with her online and the teacher said it wasn’t true and the kids are lying and making things up.

The OP didn't specify online, just that she had confronted the teacher.

You do realise that persistently accusing a poster of not being genuine is troll hunting?

It's on a needs to know basis. Her child has no need to know. I'd express your concerns. Let school investigate it.

My dd has ASD. Only the staff who directly work with her are informed. That's what school told me. There's a parent TA at school who has never worked with my child but loves to gossip and get involved in drama. I'd be angry if she knew. It's not about being ashamed. It's a medical diagnosis. Like ibs. It's private.

Its not great.
However i generally just assume everyone knows my kid has asd/adhd. Especially if theyve been behaving badly.
Often kids do have siblings in same classes. And generally parents gossip.

In fact mt kid was told about their referral by the sen dept at school!

Obviously shouldnt be gossiped by staff. But often people will know anyway.
Sometimes though kids do query why x's brother behaves like that so sometimes you might say, oh thaey cant help that they have sen....

It is confidential for students

very much so

She absolutely should not be telling her idiot son who has now gone and spread it

I’d be absolutely fuming actually

and yes kick up a huge stink to the governors and head

it’s really not on telling students about each other SEND issues at all ever.

The OP should follow the complaints policy of the school, going straight to the governors just means that the complaint will be kicked back down the hill until it ends up back on the teachers desk and may piss off all involved.

Well, I've been teaching for 15 years and have never worried about talking to family and friends about my students. They have no idea who they are and are never going to meet them. I would never use their full name or talk about confidential things like safeguarding referrals but it's absolutely absurd to suggest that teachers would never refer to students by name or talk about them outside of work. It's hardly a GDPR issue to say 'Oh I've had a nightmare day, Ella and Sophie had a massive falling out so I had to take them to the Head of Year and then Jack used Chat GPT on his homework so I had to sort that out...' Fair enough to be careful and avoid using names if you live in a tiny village and work in the only primary school, but for those of us in massive city centre schools, there's no risk involved in referring to students by name.

I also take student work home with their names on. When and where else am I going to do my marking if I don't take it home in the evening, I'd like to know!

You clearly have no knowledge of secondary schools - you don't meet all the teachers at the start of the year. You'll probably meet some/most of them at parent's evening (frequently online) which may not have happened yet.

Throughout this thread you've misread and misinterpreted multiple posts, and then asserted "facts" as your reaction to what you think you read, as opposed to what is written.

I also recognise your writing style from your previous post, and frankly, it's tedious. Telling people the username won't match - yeah, this site allows posters to have more than one, and we all know it - so that's not tgd defence you think it is.

Your misreading, and subsequently incorrect responses are derailing the thread.

The thing is, this teacher/mum did use the child’s full name, not to mention telling her son who knew the brother of said child.

I've just reread ALL of the OPs posts, and not once has she said that.

You were misreading/misinterpreting, but now you're literally making things up!

Stop it.

How do you think the son found out the exact boy that had special needs then? Magic?

Something that has upset OP's son and he has reported to her is not gossip.

I think you have major issues with reading comprehension.

I quite clearly said 'with some children who are very good at masking, it's not always possible to tell immediately'. I am fully aware this is particularly an issue with girls.

However, I can tell you from experience that those of us who work with children and young people can 99% of the time spot a child with ADHD/autism from a mile off. Some children it takes longer to become obvious, of course, but many of the behaviours are quite 'textbook', and with experience, you become very attuned to noticing it.

”tells son that his mother had said”

Tells people that his mother had said*

@simsbustinoutmimi you are totally derailing the OP's thread. Can you knock it off? Troll hunting is banned.

“Your classmate’s (my ds2) brother had special needs”

Isn’t it pretty obvious she said it was the boys brother? Pretty identifiable

I’m glad you can speak on behalf of the millions of people that teach

What do you mean he’s not proud of his adhd like it’s something shameful? Where did he get that from? Who did he get that from?

ADHD can be seen as a gift if it’s used in the right way - it’s not usual for top athletes to have adhd, they leverage their constant movement in a postive way.

I have inattentive adhd - my brain is like a rubics cube turning problems over in my mind in different configurations to solve them.

The school environment is not suited to adhd, which leaves so many kids sadly setting bad about themselves especially because they struggle with organising and planning.

But in the real world it’s the people who think out of the box in life who end up at the top of organisations - and they pay people to help them be organised.

I don’t understand why this bothered you.