TW - SA. To think that infidelity is rape

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Just interested in opinions here. I’ve been in relationships where my partner has been unfaithful and continued to sleep with me
i think part of the trauma of finding out is knowing that you’ve had sex with someone when if you’d have known you would not have done it.
So youve been tricked into having sex. That’s not consent, so is it rape?
I’ve also been raped in the more traditional sense whatever that means
if it is rape, what are the implications if we become aware that someone else is the victim of infidelity and they don’t know..

And how far into the future does it extend? "I only consent if you never cheat on me in the future..." Can it become rape retroactively?

I can see where she is coming from to an extent. Maybe not rape, but as PP have said - another crime of sex by deception would make sense, as it can have devastating consequences.

I’d assume it would be if you slept together after the cheating without knowing he cheated. Otherwise it would make nonsense saying well I wouldn’t have slept with you five years ago if I knew you’d cheat now. That’s too far.

Then maybe don’t sleep you’ve just met and it won’t happen 🤦🏻‍♀️ you should realise men will tell you anything to get you into bed? So that should be a crime? Really? So a woman that jumps into bed with every man she meets it’s their fault? Devastating? Can’t be that devastating when she continues to keep doing it sex doesn’t equal a relationship, so you think a man should be arrested for not making her his girlfriend after sex?

Eh?

Who said anything about it being someone you’ve just met? What about when it’s a husband you’ve been with for decades when you discover a deception?