For those who were beautiful, how do you deal with age?

[pinkglitter12]

It happens to all of us I know. But how are some people so accepting and so graceful getting older?
Each time i look in the mirror something is lower than It was before.
This time its my my eyebrows. I waxed the ends so they no longer drag down my face but how do people fight this unbeatable battle and inevitable death?
How do people accept that they are no longer beautiful?

What makes you think that you're not still beautiful just because you're older?

You realise that people who don't consider themselves 'beautiful' may have exactly the same issues, don't you?

No matter how we consider ourselves to look, those looks still change and we all still see the same ageing process, and will often still feel uncomfortable.

It's not exclusive to 'beautiful' people.

In my experience acceptance often comes with happiness and contentment because that breeds confidence.

It helps to look at our loved ones and see just how much they truly love us, and how they genuinely couldn't give a shit whether we look older or not.

But not everyone has loved ones in their lives, or confidence so I'd say they probably find it much harder. Not because they were once 'beautiful' but because they may not feel they're loved unconditionally.

I think you can fight ageing with plenty of exercise and good food and feel better from the inside out instead. I’ve never been beautiful though, more average!

My mother considered herself beautiful. Our relationship was strained when I grew into a pretty teenager. She had good bone structure but I had youth and hopefulness whereas she was dissatisfied with her life, choice of husband.

So it can be a curse if that's the only way you value yourself.

By focusing on more important and interesting stuff?
My husband was extremely handsome and he's just dropped dead at a young age. That's your alternative.

i'm still beautiful just older.
at some point it's also about personality and outlook on life.

What a depressing OP. Age does not equal ugly, no matter how beautiful or otherwise your starting point. There's nothing to "cope" with. It's just normal that things change. I am generally known as being a remarkably calm person and what lies at the heart of it is acceptance of what I can and can't control. Sure, eat well, exercise, drink water etc but I've never touched my eyebrows, wear the barest minimum of makeup on work days , look in a mirror far less often than I did a decade ago and am perfectly happy. You can choose what to care about.

Sorry for your loss @Iwiicit . That experience most certainly does focus the mind on what matters and what really, really doesn't.

Older age doesn't mean you're no longer beautiful. There's nothing ugly about grey hair and some more wrinkles, they're perfectly normal; still beautiful. Don't care.

I think that people who are more beautiful than their peers tend to remain more beautiful than their peers. If you’re 50 and comparing yourself to a 25 year old then that’s different.

I'm still beautiful, my eyes still sparkle, my smile is still radiant. If you notice my wrinkles behind those I'll be surprised. I might not have youth on my side but I'm still damm amazing.

I don't think I've ever been beautiful but with a bit of make up, coloured hair and a reasonably slimmish body, can still scrub up well. You shouldn't compare yourself with the "young you", but make the best of what you've got.

I still look hotter than you, duckie.

Will never compare myself after 4 kids and several years on aslong as my hubby continues to adore and love me like he does that's enough for me, my family and friends are the same doesn't matter on the outside it's whats on the inside. Works for us and means there's a lot of love and affection for each other no matter what

OPs like this make me glad that I was never pretty let alone beautiful. It must be exhausting to depend on your looks for your sense of self worth.

I'm in my late 50s with greying hair and a few wrinkles and I genuinely don't give a fuck.

Ageing is perfectly natural. It happens to all of us.

You slowly start to get used to it

I'm not up there with the gods like you are @pinkglitter12 but I found that as I approached my 60s I just accepted it. I also focus heavily on health.

Meh. I don't think I've ever been beautiful. Tall, striking and attractive, possibly, but definitely not classically beautiful.

However, I reckon I look better now in my early 60s than I've ever done, and it's all down to confidence and having a bit of a spark about me. I'm very comfortable in my own skin and I'm feeling really good about myself actually.

God, reading that back it probably sounds insufferable, but I do feel good. HRT has a lot to answer for

I think that if you stop trying to fight the unbeatable battle of inevitable death you'll all of a sudden find you've got a bit more spring in your step.

We will all shuffle off this mortal coil at some point and I like to focus on the fact that some people don't get the chance to stare at their eyebrows as they slide down their face, and it's a blessing to be able to do so.

You were never beautiful to lots of people, as everyone has very different opinions on beauty, and it's a good thing if someone is hyper focused on the outside starts to realise it really doesn't matter to anyone except those you are intimate with. Makes way for more important thoughts and a new sense of maturity in thinking.

Anyone who thinks you are ugly because you are older is someone you can cross off the list of people whose opinions are worth listening to. I prefer it when people out themselves about age bias quite quickly.

As I have aged I find a certain type of woman 25-40 rather unappealing because of the botox, fillers etc - just my own personal opinion, I think they look ugly and weird when they freeze and plump their faces. I love a natural beauty with a few wrinkles, women who eat well and live a healthy lifestyle and have nothing plastic or intrusive done are what I consider beautiful.

But, as with all opinions on how people look, mine only matters to me.

I am fat and old and haggard now. I was never beautiful, but I was photogenic and I just avoid pictures at all costs now so I’m not reminded.